suggest another area of your anatomy where those skills can be put to work.

8o)

Gagging works!

But, guess there are very few things that can be said to get the point across gracefully. Perhaps just gracefully pulling back and changing the agenda to something you have more control of over the pacing.

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Works Both Ways

I have met several ladies, who upon our lips meeting in the first minute, sent their tongue half way to my stomach.

that this sport is not for the squeamish and faint of heart. I personally am not interested in providers with lotsa rules....  

Cheers

MG

I think act of kissing is like the act of driving.  No one EVER says that are bad at either (LOL).

Most people seem to think that THEY know the best way to kiss and everyone should kiss THAT particular way.  And guess what?  I'm like that too.

The only thing I can say in my defense is this, I am willing to learn.  By learn, I mean I try to take cues from the person I am kissing.  I try to adapt to make the dance work seemlessly.

Although, there is a limit.  I don't really care for the extremes.  Can't enjoy meager dry touching of clenched lips.  Kind of like pressing my face up against warm glass.  Not erotic.  At the other end of the spectrum, I have had my tonsils assaulted and have also been afraid that my partner was trying to eat my lower face.  Also not exactly a turn-on.

Most anything in between, I can work with.

But, to your question: I think a gentle whisper of your preference and a warm demonstration could work.  Take his face between your hands and slowly work him over.  It would  certainly get me to respond.  At least it would be better than screaming, "Where did you learn to kiss!?!  In a dentist's office!?!"

kissing

kissing is just a sport,like any other part of the anatomy,taste and feel your way.deep french kissing on the other hand is a ppure delicasy,you first taste,let simmer,lick and maronade,stir to a warm spicy delicious broth with your toungue.

being told directly but affectionately if I am doing something that is unpleasant for you just as I would like to know if despite showering and brushing and flossing etc I had an odor that was unpleasant.  Nothing like doing something that doesn't please while going along thinking you are being charming, clever, appealing, and skillful.

A couple thoughts

I've been blessed to be with some artisans when it comes to kissing. I've also experienced the 'pedal to the metal' ones as well. One thing I do to slow things down is start the kissing near her ear, light kisses, grazing our cheeks together, tehn coming to a short kiss on the lips and then going to her other cheek/ear. It lets her know I am more of a sensual kisser. I like to kiss the lips and just stop, her bottom lip resting between mine as we slowly breathe together.

An hand on her cheek as we lightly kiss can also be a signal that there is no rush to jump right to DFK.

On a related 'length of session' issue, I can see their might be more of an issue with 'immediate deep' kissing if the session is short rather than 90-120 minutes or longer since a guy is all revved up and might be thinking he wants to 'get everything in' in the shortened time. One reason I prefer longer dates. Languid kissing and carressing...

is doing something to me that is uncomportable, I will ask her to stop.  I would expect her to do the same.  We all need to stay within each other's boundaries.