the lady doesn't know you, so why take it personally. If you do, check and see if there are other places in your life where you are taking too much personally. We all do at one time or another. We're especially susceptible in doing so when we're tired, disappointed, or generally running low on energy and other resources. I'm not certain this addresses your question.

some guys can't take no because they want what they want and don't give a damn. they think their money should be good enough to buy anything.

some guys can take a no that they believe is genuine and based in reality. i am one of these. when i understand the basis for moving on i will positively help her to do so. just ask my exes. i initiiated my divorces because they were clearly ready to move on and just didn't have the clarity and guts to make the decision cleanly.

where i have difficulty in accepting the "no" is when i think that it is based on a miscommunication or a mistake on both sides. i will then persist for a limited time in trying to fix the miscommunication. for example: if a she has accepted a demanding role to play and suddenly wants to cut and run, i will usually try to see if the arrangement can be renegotiated satisfactorily.

people's needs change. i know that. it makes no difference if it is a provider or a GF. my preference is to renegotiate the realationship rather than throw it away. people are not popcorn to me. sorry if that is out of fashion and not cool here.

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You're telling these guys to just get over it but you can't seem to get over the topic yourself?

I'm a businesswoman who will discriminate as I see fit and I love it!

I take pride in the fact I became a businesswoman in a nontraditional industry that allows me to set my own rules. Gia's rules. Certainly, at times my rules cause me to lose business. That's ok, as sometimes I purposely make it that way.

I use my initial contact via email only rule as an avenue to discriminate (yes, I said that aloud! ) One of my little secrets is I will not see a gent if he sends me an email full of grammatical errors! Now, I understand I am not perfect in my writings and there are some errors in this post, but I want to meet with a gent who takes the time necessary to make a good impression on me by rereading his email to me (I'm sure I just made some enemies with that one). I just lost business. But hey, I reread my website weekly to try and pinpoint any errors, as to make a good impression. I feel I deserve the same. Also, I will block a gent's email if he pesters me about not getting back to him within a day!

Also, I discriminate by not seeing newbies, anyone without reputable TER references or are not part of some verification website (many preoviders give a hefty discount to such gents, so why not join?). If a gent will not partake in my screening, I block his email.

Further, I do not see gents whose TER post reek of hate towards women. If I read a post in which a gent rips a provider apart physically on an open forum, he is now on my DNS list. I enjoy spending time with gents of class. Plus such critiques could easily be discussed backchannel in a discrete and less harmful way.

With all that said, the best thing to do is for a gent to move on! There are so many providers out there. Some that I would love to get a hold of myself!

Besides, providers are discriminated against and rejected everytime a gent choses to pass on her because she is too "fat", etc. Why not dish out what is feed to us?!?!? He he he.

Xoxo, Giamarie

BTW, great post. If it gets people engaged, you're doing something right!

I must be getting dumber with age, am I the only one who had a heck of a time de-tangling that jumbled mess of words that was his original post? Man!.......

the great naval hospital.  He was caring for one of the early patients with HIV/AIDS.  The man told him he would go to New York or Boston and have tens if not a hundred sexual contacts in a single week end.

I was talking to a gay friend of mine and asked how it was possible.  He said he would go on sex week ends like that spending much time naked in bath houses; the key to success was never to waste time taking anything personally. He would be naked and lubed up and a man would come in and look at him.  If the man wasn't interested, my friend would shrug and wait for the next one.

I used this philosophy with, of course, major modifications after my first divorce.  I would approach any woman who appealed to me and not care if I got laughed at nineteen out of twenty times.  I ended up having great dates with great ladies many of whom remain friends with benefits to this day.

The moral, take nothing personally,don't waste time worrying about rejection, and move happily on.

Its a two ways street

We see who we want and providers do as well..so what is the problem??