Too many other pretty gals to see.

Dear Crimsonlass:
It is obvious that you have had men who have had an obsession with you in the business. In fact I would hazard that you have had several over the years who had more than a passing fancy with you. Now since it has been repetitive when do you know when it is time to terminate a relationship with a regular who you may be their ATF? Would it be possessive or would the client be a bit to needy or has he plainly blurred the lines and doesn't realize that the parameters of pay for play are still very much enforced? I would just like to get you point of view.

Some girls do this sometimes because they would rather have clients who shoot quickly so they can see as many other guys as possible.

They need 'em kept in mint condition for work!

Stopped  seeing a client for reasons unbeknown to him? i was seeing a young ladie and it was great, i would see her weekly and each session seemed to get better. Then all of a sudden she stoped responding to my texts or answering my calls. I apologized several times (for what i don't know), still nothing.  i tried one last time but got nowhere. So i went to see another girl that day, to my suprise the lady that ignored me answered the door. she was very friendly and led me to the room to wait on my date. She offered no explination, when i started to ask her she smiled and walked away.

Any Idea?

And the answer is always the same:  nobody knows.  She may have felt you were getting to close to her.  She may have felt she was getting too close to you.  And on and on.  Bottom line: you will never know, especially since you ran into her and she still wouldn't tell you.  Better just forget about it.

I think this has happened to many of us.  No reason is given and of course the immediate reaction is, "what did I do?"  Bottom line is you probably didn't do anything.  One provider that I saw abruptly stopped seeing me.  A few years later, she returned with a new alias, and I booked an appointment to see her.  I was told by the booker that she was in fact the person that I had seen previously.  I knew that and made the appointment.  When I got there is was like old friends reuniting.  I continued to see her again until she dropped out of the biz.  You never know, you might not be seeing her now, but whose to say what will happen a few weeks down the road.
Good luck and don't dwell on it.

Im surprised that she didn't offer any explanation whatsoever...

Unfortunately, I've had to break things off with regular clients, for various reasons, but when they contact me next time for an appointment, I at least give them the courtesy of knowing rather than ignoring them.  If its a sensitive reason and I don't want to hurt his feelings, I'll just keep it very vague like, "I've really enjoyed knowing you but I am not able to meet any longer.  Feel free to use me as a reference for the next lady you meet."  Or something to that effect.  At least then he knows and can move forward.

So yes, it was inconsiderate (and inexcusable) for her to just stop answering your calls... But you did the right thing by going to see someone else.  I would NOT suggest contacting the girl who ignored you any more... Girls are too quick to label you with the "s" word.

I happen to be going through this situation right now. Why? I have no f*#king idea. I do know that I was "getting too close to her" and I suspect she was feeling the same way but, like I said, who knows.

one of you may get too close or take the other for granted...  best to move along.  It is good that she does not harbor a grudge...

as soon as I hear "i love you" or "what if I were to leave my wife"  TA fkn TA

scheduling appointments too frequently? asking too much personal info?

those sound like the obvious reasons to move on.

Any other (more subtle) warning signs that would give you cause for concern?

I would never give the name of a provider. The fact that you used an alias, I know who you are. They never asked for more donation, that would not be a problem.

You didnt ask me but I'll answer your question.

First off, it is hard to tell a regular that you can't see him anymore.  Especially when you know he really cares for you.  You don't know how he'll react...  Hurt, sadness, confusion, anger, stalking, violence....?  The best scenario is when he had a very healthy mindset of what your relationship was and wishes you well and quickly moves on.  But unfortunately, thats not always the case.

Anyway, a few reasons I've ended things in the past are:

Jealousy/possessiveness
Hygiene going downhill (it was good for the first 5-10 visits, then he just stopped caring)
He was donating an old/grandfathered rate for too long
Calling too much
Pushing boundaries
General lack of physical desire to continue on
Or the catch all: He gradually just became an unbearable pain in the ass over time

Oddly enough, a lot of these issues don't present themselves until about a year or two of seeing someone...... I joked with one of my favorite guys the other day when we realized we'd been seeing eachother for two years...  If a provider and client can last that long, they can make it forever

youre right but none like her,the total package. any recommendations?

LOL, not a "s" at all, just had found the total package and was completely satisfied, thats hard for me to find. Just sad to see it go for no reason, thanks for your input, im not going to call her.

Its just sex, What do you mean too close. I'm a nice guy, i dont treat the ladies like "the word" and I make them cum.

OK. PLEASE LET IT BE KNOWN!!!!, I do NOT beat up pussies, not into that at all. IT HURTS ME to beat up pussies. I'm not that guy. I'm hung pretty good, but I ALWAYS ask how things are going. I'm very sensitive about my big dick.

LOL, I'm not in love, just found a girl that fills one of my voids. I'm a super freak/ nympho.

Thank you, lol, I like you, you're honest.

Posted By: traceyp

You didnt ask me but I'll answer your question.

First off, it is hard to tell a regular that you can't see him anymore.  Especially when you know he really cares for you.  You don't know how he'll react...  Hurt, sadness, confusion, anger, stalking, violence....?  The best scenario is when he had a very healthy mindset of what your relationship was and wishes you well and quickly moves on.  But unfortunately, thats not always the case.

Anyway, a few reasons I've ended things in the past are:

Jealousy/possessiveness
Hygiene going downhill (it was good for the first 5-10 visits, then he just stopped caring)
He was donating an old/grandfathered rate for too long
Calling too much
Pushing boundaries
General lack of physical desire to continue on
Or the catch all: He gradually just became an unbearable pain in the ass over time

Oddly enough, a lot of these issues don't present themselves until about a year or two of seeing someone...... I joked with one of my favorite guys the other day when we realized we'd been seeing eachother for two years...  If a provider and client can last that long, they can make it forever

Asking too much personal info or starting to "like-like you".