Ever connect with a lady or hobbyist in such a way that it had you thinking of him/her for days afterward? The likely answer is yes, but I'm curious outside of what you may have written in a review, what stood out for you? What was it about him/her that had you longing for another visit?

One fit the physcial profile of my "first serious love" - the woman I never had sex with.  I just "got lost" with the fantasy and it totally blew me away.  I will also add that she greatly intimidated me and I've just seen her once.  I WANT to see her again very much but just haven't had the opportunity as she only does outcalls.  Not real easy for me vis a vis my SO.   This lady has gotten outstanding reviews from everyone lucky enough to see her.  I gave one hobbyist her name, he saw her, and emailed me that I couldn't have been more right.

The second was a lady who fits the description as "very cute" and a hard body.  Wonderful personality and just really gets into the engagement.  Her BBBJCIM and the technique involved was astounding.  "Blew me away"  pun intended.

Can't forget either of these ladies - and don't want to!

Don't laugh now, but the thing that stays longest in my mind is their scent.

(Not Al Pacino 8o)

When that connection happens for me it is on a level that goes beyond the sex part of the date. We may see eye to eye about our likes and dislikes in bed but it's more about her sense of humor and just a genuine quality of niceness. I don't like high maintenance ladies or women who take themselves too seriously. Sex is supposed to be fun...

Great point... I think we forget that it's about the fantasy and the fun... I get at a lot of love in that hour or two and it's usually fun and I have learned to get out of my own way...

This is a difficult question to answer.  I'll try to sum it up by saying that "you just know when you and the lady click."  This does't happen all the time but I'd say about 65% of the time.  Sometimes the sex is great but there is no "click".

and it works both ways.

I had one like the first you described-  looked a lot like my first serious love and her gaze and smiles up at me in missionary were so intensely like the first love that I was seriously mesmerized and head tripped!  I still think of her every time I see a full moon!!!  Does that tell you who you are full moon lady?

I've got my first overnight coming up with one that has built the pre visit anticipation up so amazingly that I suspect I am about to meet my second!  Some of these special ladies are astounding at how well they do what they do.

In most ways my memory is like most people - but when it comes to intimate situations my memory is very tactile. So on the occasions where we really "clicked" I remember the feel of her. Her skin, her hand on me, mine on her. The feel of her lips when she kissed me and other contacts. Her legs under my lips then wrapped around me.

  I can sit here now and feel her all over again. Man o man I want her so badly just thinking about her...

-J

That is what makes me return to her again and again.

It happened to me just ONCE. For the past 5 yrs also I have been in this hobby, I have seen providers every month at least I have never felt connected until last year. Though I have met awesome providers, I have been affected by just this one provider. In an effort to overcome my feelings, I dated over dozen of fine providers within the 90 days period, even that did not help. So, after much introspective of the situation; I found that not just only her beauty, demeanor and the passionate moments together, but she sums up an ideal GF I dream about. So I guess it’s getting to end of this game for me and I will seriously retire next year.

I know that im still new to this and that my budget doesn’t allow me to see the Nikki Avalon’s of the world but I have never found that feeling with a provider.  I have however had it with strippers….could it be that the tease I get with a stripper, and the wondering of what she would have been like in bed are more of a turn on then actually doing it?  Could be – the imagination is a powerful thing…..

as I met her on her last day of a farewell tour. I had never before met a provider who made me feel the session was so real. By that I mean it didn't just seem like a well-spun fantasy. Yes, I know it still was, but not for me during that point in time. The problem is that it's made it difficult to enjoy & let go with other providers...guess I'll just have to keep trying.

When we discussed the things of life, we had similar views and situations we related to.

We both liked the similar sexual activities witha some fetishes thrown in. She also brought a "kid-like" enthusiasm to the sessions that others didn't.

About 10 years ago, before TER, I hobbied legally at the ranches in NV. There was one lady there who knew the art of escorting and took it to a level I would call courtesan. She had a body that could be in Playboy. The sex was good. What amazed me was her professionalism, and ability to connect at a personal level. "Professionalism" in the sense that she focused on the details to make sure the gent had a good time. "Connect" in that it was like being with a long-time friend.

If the cyber world does live forever, I wrote reviews on her under the handle of Broker and Sweet Prince.

Unfortunately, the internet that brought her fame also eventually led to her demise. Too much flaming and competition. Guys who could not understand her true worth.

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I think she was a new escort. She soon retired after we met.

What had me thinking about her, and still does, was her innocence and openness. In that short amount of time, we connected at a personal level. Because she was new, she had not developed the wall separating her personal and business life. If I had not been traveling to that area, I always wondered what our second and subsequent dates would have been like.

Yes - definitely!  However, for me it was (is) a deep physical connection.  I don't know any better way to say it other than we just seem to fit together perfectly.  No awkwardness, no fantasizing about another person during the act.  When we're together everything else (work, family, finances - everything) fades away and for a brief time I am just living in the moment of ultimate pleasure.  You know, the way making love should always feel but for some reason almost never does.  And, yes that feeling / connection lingers for days, sometime weeks.

I just re-read the review, and aside from being disappointed in my typos, it made me smile, remembering the event.  We've seen each other several times since, but none have topped that night.  I remember fearing that it wouldn't live up to the hype.  After all, she was THE person to see in town, and my imagination outmeasures my abilities.  You'll be able to see from the review that she far surpassed my wildest expectations.

I've experienced this with one particular fave of mine...and she's the ONLY provider that I've seen more than once.  She's UTR and prefers not to be reviewed.  She honestly wasn't the prettiest lady I've been with, but her curves and sex appeal were like kryptonite, and she oozed sensuality from every pore.  That got me hooked.  Hot kisser, too...oooh, damn...it's gettting hot in here.  

Conversely, I've been with way gorgeous women who leave a lot to be desired otherwise.  Goes to show that what's beneath a lady's surface really DOES count.

Ok, as a provider I too must admit that a few guys have had me thinking about them and/or our time for weeks on end.

I had one CEO, sorry no picture LOL, that I ended up dating for over a year outside of the business. I think he had me hooked the first night but I did not make any leads to that end.

I did not actually make him a freebie but instead of a money exchange, we opted to work out an arrangement that worked for the both of us. Needless to say it was one of my greates memories and also the very first time I worked as a companion.

I am still thinking about him!!!  I'm so weak!

If I lived near you we would get together.  Your reviews are well above average. I think we might just "click".

I visited with a lady for the very first time. We had an exceptionally hot session. Then two days later she left the most erotic, seductive message on my cell phone. I won't go into details concerning the content of the audio, but it had me lusting after her till the next time I was able to schedule an appointment.

I wish more ladies would use similar tactics. I believe that more of us guys would repeat if that were the case.

also sensing a relaxed nature about her. Since I prefer multi-hour, some ranging to a full day or days, it is nice to just relax throughout the time shared.

For me, after a few pretty bad experiences, I saw a lady who provided gfe. I had read a couple of her reviews, and saw her pics, and it was an amazing 2-hour session. I  had gotten a jacuzzi suite, and I knew within a few minutes of starting the session that I wanted to see her as often as I could. I've seen her several times and it's been great. It's hard to put into words the exact reason why I enjoy seeing her so much. She's gorgeous, makes me feel like she truly enjoys spending time with me, and we have a great time together.  I don't think I'm articulating this very well, but I think when you spend time with an exceptional provider, you will know it.

Runningman

To the ladies:  Here are postings from anonymous men that really say all there is to say, about how you can (do) totally "own us."  It's easy to see why men will fight wars for women.  And, even on the dark side, commit crimes for women.  When a woman "gets inside our mind" we're done for.  And, for me personally, (and I'm sure many other men on this board) I'd do anything if my wife would be able to participate in this manner.  

Men:  We're pretty "easy" to figure out, I'd say.  I'd get my daughters to read these posting and that would tell them "here's how to keep your man from cheating."  

There are a lot of stories behind the stories posted here.

Most women will never get the power they hold on the planet and unfortunately, the so-called pimps and traffickers make most of the money... on the side of what goes between the sexes, women have to also understand that even the pleasure box is not enough in and of itself... The women that really get it understand the mind connection too...

Awhile back.. I met a gal who worked for one of the local "parlors", we didnt meet there.. but none the less...

Anyway.. after meeting her.. I did call and spent some time with her.. weeks later I thought of her again and decided as how I couldnt find her number.. I went to see her at "work".. we had a great time.. and we BOTH made sure that we had each others phone numbers.

About a year later (and a number of pleasurable interludes), we talked about going out one evening for dinner and a movie... The end result.. we "connected" so well we got married and were happy for a number of years till she was back home visiting a sick family member.. and got hit by a drunk driver... Yes.. I miss her.. but I think of her often..

What stands out for me with mine (and Hardy, don't shoot me) is that we truly take delight in each other's company and we are friends even during the encounter.  We talk in between about everything about our lives and there have been times where she's been really stressed and I've just let her vent for a half hour, sitting on the couch with her head in my lap, just stroking her face.   There's a beyond-level to our emotional intimacy that allows us to behave as if we're not in a business transaction even more so than most GFEs.  Some would call it good acting on her part; I call it people who have connected on a deeper level.   What has me longing for another visit is the fact that when I am with her I'm not thinking of anything else but touching her and talking with her.

but what stood out for me was the instantaneous spiritual connection. As soon as she walked into the room and we hugged/kissed, I knew that I was going to work awfully hard to establish and maintain a relationship with her. Thankfully, she's been willing to go the extra mile, too.