well if its any concelation ive been i saw a young lady a few months ago, i was very poistive about seeing her.i called one afternoon,very sweet on the phone,we set up a time that nite,she called said she was on her way.it gets better,she actually showed up,looked hot and sexy,i made her comfortable,i thought we were ready to proceed, next thing i knew she was talking to bf,she was out the door, i said you must be kidding!!!!!!!
she never called back to reschedule,i even made a point to keep her that nite for 2 hrs.nope no shot.i blew it off a few weeks later i tried again we set up a time, never called and never showed up.she has great reviews all over., but she has bf problems i guess, i know its not me.
so never get discouraged.
on the bright side the sec time i called, i had al lady text me out of the blue that i was thinking about one time and i had spoke to her,she was wanting me to come see that same nite,so i did,the best lady ive been with in yrs,shes now my fav,so life can be very confusing.i should call her back and thank her for present day sweetie!!!!!
Your provider doesn't show up, call or return texts? It's not like she's new to me we've seen each other a few times. She's a bit of a UTR. Well reviewed she's now 2 hours late. I'm thinking she's not gonna show or call. Bummer. If I would do it to her I would be obligated to pay her right? Well where does that leave me? I know the answer, I guess I'm just venting. We usually do incall, tonight was to be her first outcall with me so I had spent alot of time setting things up. Nice wine, imported cheese and crackers I had made a dessert. Candles and a shit load of ambiance, UUgghhhh. Ohh well, I hope to hear that she's okay.
Shake it off and find a new provider right?
So she finally texted @ 1:00 am that she lost track of time and she was at a birthday party. 4 hours after our appointment. Am I a chump to forgive her I mean I pay 400.00 for a Girlfriend Experience. That doesn't mean I want the drama of a girlfriend.
What to do? what to do?
well if its any concelation ive been i saw a young lady a few months ago, i was very poistive about seeing her.i called one afternoon,very sweet on the phone,we set up a time that nite,she called said she was on her way.it gets better,she actually showed up,looked hot and sexy,i made her comfortable,i thought we were ready to proceed, next thing i knew she was talking to bf,she was out the door, i said you must be kidding!!!!!!!
she never called back to reschedule,i even made a point to keep her that nite for 2 hrs.nope no shot.i blew it off a few weeks later i tried again we set up a time, never called and never showed up.she has great reviews all over., but she has bf problems i guess, i know its not me.
so never get discouraged.
on the bright side the sec time i called, i had al lady text me out of the blue that i was thinking about one time and i had spoke to her,she was wanting me to come see that same nite,so i did,the best lady ive been with in yrs,shes now my fav,so life can be very confusing.i should call her back and thank her for present day sweetie!!!!!
If you have already seen her a few times you must be having a good time with her.
Things happen to hot young girls, they get more rope, so to speak. If she does it again, that's a different story.
But I got an email in that exact same situation where she said she wanted to make it up to me.
I don't have a 1 strike and your out rule.
What I would do is blow off steam (you just did), hope to get sympathy (you have mine), and then see what happens. An apology and good excuse with some offer to make it up to me (I would accept the gesture and ask for nothing more as a make up, just a regular date regularly reimbursed) and I would see her again; a blow off and I would move on. (I do feel you deserve more than a blow off since, if I cancelled like she did on you, I agree with your statement that she would deserve a payment.)
I don't go to alot of trouble anymore after a couple of no-shows. It only makes the disappointment that much more vivid. It's all a crap shoot. There's always some regular who'll call at the last minute, or an overnight, or she just wants to go party with her girlfriends.
Act surprised and grateful when a lady does show, and tell her you got stood up last time by a thoughtless provider, and maybe she'll overcompensate for your previous disappointments...
I've used that line to great advantage once or twice and it really works.
just being herself?
The woman I have been with have given great service without the story. I don't see what more they could have done.
When I am grateful it's never an act.
But that's just me.
because she's doing you wrong. I don't think she is showing you proper respect and if she doesn't call with a good excuse move on.
Kisses Haley
That's nothing.
I have been in this situation a few times over the course of many years.
Most times, the gal flaked, and I never heard from them again; so be it.
One time however, I had rented a hotel room and waited and waited, no call, no answer on their cell or email
Two days later I got an email from them. They got in a car crash on their way over to see me. She just got out of the hospital. Her cell phone with my number got totaled. As soon as she got home she emailed me.
Goes to show, anything can happen.
(She was OK, just had some awful bruises on her leg for a long time though.)
Well, you would have to define exactly what "a few times" is. If you have seen her two or three times at her in call I have to be honest, I think you went a little overboard going through all the trouble you did for your first out call. OTOH, if she is a fav who you have been seeing for a while then I don't blame you for being upset.
I have been canceled on a few times by my favs, it happens. One time I already had booked a hotel room. My fav actually told me to take the room rental off of our next visit together she felt so badly about it. NCNS is a different story however. If she doesn't have a very reasonable explanation I would dump her.
Go easy on the whole wine, candles and atmosphere until you actually know you can depend on a lady and that she appreciates your efforts. The only thing worse than being stood up is being made to feel stood up and used...
After 2 hours, take a cold shower or whatever floats your boat. She's not coming!
IMHO, you went overboard in your preparations after a "few" dates.
You have attempted to contact her & I presume she'll recieve those messages in due course. She should contact you with a really good explanation & an appology.
If you don't hear after several days, you could send her a single message "Are you ok. I was worried about you."
She should call with a really good explanation & an appology.
At this point you will have done all you can do & must move on.
If she does respond, I'd give a serious look at what you're doing. This is an ILLUSION, not a real GF. I would suggest you go back to incalls.
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When I read stuff like this, I have to wonder how overboard some guys go when setting the mood. Just tidy up your place, dim the lights, and throw on a CD. It's not like she's NOT going to fuck you, that's what you're paying her to do.
Imported cheese and crackers? You made dessert?
I think what happened is you freaked her out if you described to her how much effort you were going through for guaranteed sex. You probably freaked her out by coming across too attached.
due time (minimum 72 hrs.), you should post a NCNS message on your regional board. Sometimes sh*t happens. Providers have real lives too.
We've spoken I mean texted. All is well we will going back to her incalls. The going over board had been discussed mutually that's why I did it. A few times for me is 5. She is my ATF and I know she's not my girlfriend I do know that. I've been with others that charge her price and she hands down is the best. It was more of a gesture of appreciation to her on my part, so were back on track for this Fri. Dr. Joe I think I will make you my mentor. Thank you all