Ok, just a short rant here. What the F&^% is going on???

In the last few days we ladies have been called whores, trasn, and now the newest thread says we should just shut up if some ham handed ape gets too rough with us because it "ain't all about us".

Is this open season on providers right now??? Did some of you take a look at your credit card bills after Christmas, and decide we would be good targets to take out your stress on??? What gives???

Gee, its so shocking to me that some women become so cynical and burned out. O Kathy of 48th Street, whereart thou.

I was thinking the same thing. Seems to be provider bashing week. Not only here but in private emails too. The 'you're gonna burn in hell whore' kind of crap. They hate us yet they retain our services??

Well.

I haven't read the latest negative post, though I see it's below this one.

You have to remember that people that see providers fall into a few categories (and I'm not going to be JUST judgmental, I will reveal which I fall into..).

Of course you have the well adjusted , regular folks (married or unmarried) who have no psycho/emotional problems and are completely normal. Perfect news for you shoot with these you might even find a man -- That's a small percentage. These are great clients.

Group 2 is your married folks that are using this to get away from their wives, because they have little to no satisfaction at home. While being prone to stress about their life and agitation , I don't think in general these men would  be disrepsectful, if anything overly respectful as they need to cover their tracks vigorously.

Group 3 is your general psychopaths, and sociopaths, this is also a small group , and the worst of them

Group 4 is men that are bad with women, and have psycho-emotional baggage (this is where I fall into..) you have a utterly mixed bag here. I for one have a ton of problems but I am 100 percent respectful and peaceful with any lady I see. Other are not, and are bitter that their lives are not going their way and take it out on these angels, and that is ashame, but it's a fact of the proffesion that was chose by yourself. I mean this is a message board, so it's not a huge segment, but not only do I know a ton of people that hobby, I observ them.

Group 5 would be 'thrill-seekers' When we say hobby we mean that this is a HOBBY; not unlike Quading, or skateboarding, or deep-sea fishing, or snowboarding, it's about head-rush. (no pun intended..I also qualify for this as I'm big into skydiving, and quadding, and other similar things.. it's part of it..but I'm still a big time group 4 member)

Yes , this is long-winded, that's what I usually do. But the point is alot of people hobbying (including myself) have a huge chip on their shouler. Now does this come out AGAINST the provider ever. No. As always, I treat this as a customer service industry, and I am the perfect customer. Unfortunately, some men, are bitter and let their emotions dictacte their actions. We are taking a chance when we book someone, just as they are with us, that we may not get exactly what you want.

I'll tell you this; TER is the best thing to happen to us types, Since I'm new to this site, I've never had a chance to read reviews of ladies before going in , and it was always either a word-of-mouth or gamble. I say if you didn't read the reviews it's likely your fault. Be selective, save money, don't cheap-out, and have a good time, if this isn't fun, I give up.

-M

...quite a few replies in the threads below, but thought better of it as to not keep trainwrecks going. Believe me ladies, any respectable guy who actually enjoys women and not wants to use them as a breathing fuckdoll, looks at those others as just plain idiots. Although it is so very tempting to post replies to them, it is a major waste of time because they are using aliases and need to feel to keep up the "joke" they think they are portraying.

Nothing said to them will ever make them stop and say "wow, I was wrong". Waste of time to even post any replies to them.

b-

Absolutly correct!  They love to stir the pot. Then they sit back and are amused with our heated responses. It's what they thrive on. Hell they probably even Jerk off to it. Whenever I receive private freak mail, I always delete. Never respond. On here though, in an open forum it's hard not to respond.

I agree...I have a lot to say about a lot of the provider bashing thats been going on this board this week...But it will continue if you just feed into it... They are not going to change their opinions it's just better to ignore them and if they contact you regarding an appt, just turn them down.

Yep balaathazar, you are exactly right.

Anyone who uses an alias is a douche, that's how I feel. As anyone can tell from my accelerated post count, I've been controversial though never disrespectful, and I don't need to hide behind an alias because I am a man.

-M

... I have nothing at all bad to say about providers. Wives, yes. Providers, no.

Try filtering the posts you read with "Lex Luethor" -- those tend to be the most light-hearted and insightful.

I use an alias because sometimes sticking up for yourself or making a reasonable request is grounds for a verbal attack around here.

TER members by a few a-holes that do not respect ladies for being women.  Many of us really treasure the time we get to spend with you wonderful ladies.

It seems that it's just part of the human condition to come up with whatever exuse in order to cause pain to another. Though, there was a recent study, posted on the internet news a few weeks back, that indicated that even toddlers could identify altruistic behavior, and would choose those objects that demostrated them over those that did not. I just wanted to throw that in so that no one gets too discouraged. If we can raise this generation right perhaps we will not destroy the human race afterall.

Yes, we can learn to meet each others needs and create win-win situations.

It is understandable for ladies to use an alias when expressing something that may have a negative impact on their income. Protecting the very thing that pays the bills, feeds the kids, etc.

b-

If a man pays us to use our services and calls us degrading names, well he is a major idiot.  Really we are all in the same boat here.

 A woman who gets paid to give..a man who pays a woman to get.I say the man and the woman are on equal ground.  Some say its a sin to accept money for "intimate pleasures", and they also say its a sin or wrong to pay for "intimate pleasures.  LOL

 If anyone trashmouths women in this industry..THEY are the trash. They dont have enough good inside of them to respect what choices people make for themselves..then these "trashtalkers" arent worth my sweet little mind to worry about.

 Also I dont agree with men or women calling providers certain words.  Women in this business are escorts, providers, callgirls or even prostitutes.  Women inthis business are NOT whores. That word, is rude and disrespectful, and plain wrong.  We are NOT trash..we are not whores...whomever decided to link that word with escort ect..is lackin class and respect for women.

I see it as a service industry. Essential, as old as civilization, and I thank God the service is provided.

I want a provider to be comfortable with her lifestyle and straightforward because it makes it easier for me to have a good time and keep the relationship in the correct perspective.

All that being said, it is a very intimate act and it is predictable that your going to run into your share of jerks or even worse. That's why I try to be particularly thoughtful – like many service professions, this is hard work.

And, yes, I totally agree –  there's no possible grounds on which the provider is "lower" than the hobbyist. They are equal.

we are all assholes at least once in our lives to somebody and nobody is an asshole all the time to everybody so i judge people solely on the way they treat me.

I pretty  much stay out of the drama here. I'm not sure why providers seem to have been attacked lately.  Sometimes I think because for the most part we are anonymous  here(especially when someone uses an alias), they feel like they can be as nasty as they want.  Added to that, for the most part, everyone here are total strangers to one another, and probably will never meet.
I use TER to learn about the hobby, women, etc, and spend my time here reading informative posts, and posting when I have something to say.
Please don't lump all of us respectful hobbyists in with the others.

do you have a technique to share?
Your input is appreciated.

-- Modified on 1/9/2008 4:20:12 AM

You're right, Stacy. I've noticed the bullshit over the past few days. I don't think I have taken part in any of the "Bashing", but if I have offended any providers, or hobbyists for that matter, please accept my apologies. We are supposed to be able to come here to ask questions, maybe learn a little somethng, or help someone else out a little, and above all, have some fun. Reading the posts of people calling each other assholes, whores and trash is getting pretty far off base. Let's have some fun!!!