Thanks for the advice folks, I do appreciate it and wish to avoid any pitfalls in the lifestyle. I am open to any and all criticisms, good or bad.
Answers to the questions in no particular order.
1) Yes my wife has way more sexual power than me.
2) She is the one that suggested it first, we have been experimenting some to gauge our reactions to different situations.
3) The money will not be an issue.
4) Yes we have slightly different rules for each other, but in any situation we also have veto power over the other.
5) I married her with 4 kids, adopted her youngest, and dealt with her psycho tweaker ex-husband. We have been through so so much. Now we are stronger than most. Our relationship transcends the ordinary.
6) We spend an inordinate amount of time and money in strip clubs and on strippers, there has never been any jealousy issues, ever.
7) No she isn't lesbian or bi, she buys me dances at the club and gets turned on watching.
8) No I wasn't getting a BJ when I typed the original post, but I got one this morning. And I had told my wife the content of the original post.
9) And most importantly, I do have an amazing wife.
Just found this board tonight. I have to say I'm seriously blown away. I had no idea how this industry worked. I read a lot of the posts and reviews on the newbie board. It is all very exciting to me, but I must confess to being a little overwhelmed ( in a good way ).
My wife of 5 years and I have decided to have an open marriage to spice things up. Oddly enough if you actually trust and love your mate it makes things better between you and not worse. Because you are basically giving your mate what they have been told for so long is forbidden and wrong, ( I hate religion btw ).
We have rules about this whole thing too, I can't be with anyone I will see in a work/social/school environment. The relationship part of our marriage is very sacred to both of us.
I think I'm in for a very cool ride!
Does anyone else see the irony here? "I hate religion... The relationship part... marriage is very sacred..."
Seems to me you've found your religion....! N'est pas?
"seriously blown away" has me thinking he's getting a bj while reading our board. Now that would be a keeper of a wife.
You stated, "My wife of 5 years and I have decided to have an open marriage to spice things up." Just out of curiosity whose idea was this? Very likely Rooster it was yours.
You can see it's not difficult for a man to arrange an encounter with a provider. This is a business arrangement that is clearly defined. However, your wife or any average looking woman could go to a bar any night a week to find her extra-marital partner. However, you/she may find those types of encounters are more difficult to define a may end up being more than just sex.
Understand you are entering dangerous territory. Many relationships do not survive being opened. I mention this only so that you consider all of your options both positives and negatives. Are you willing to lose your wife over what you call casually, "a very cool ride?"
I agree, especially considering the amount of $$$$ you will be spending that, presumably, she may not be / may not have to be spending...
Thats exactly what I was thinking, doesn't an "open marriage" eliminate the need for seeing providers for the most part?
Knowing your wife will certainly not be seeing male providers, but like transcend said, bars/work/grocery store, etc are all fertile hunting grounds for a woman
Maybe getting into swinging together would be healthier for the marriage and cheaper, too
Thanks for the advice folks, I do appreciate it and wish to avoid any pitfalls in the lifestyle. I am open to any and all criticisms, good or bad.
Answers to the questions in no particular order.
1) Yes my wife has way more sexual power than me.
2) She is the one that suggested it first, we have been experimenting some to gauge our reactions to different situations.
3) The money will not be an issue.
4) Yes we have slightly different rules for each other, but in any situation we also have veto power over the other.
5) I married her with 4 kids, adopted her youngest, and dealt with her psycho tweaker ex-husband. We have been through so so much. Now we are stronger than most. Our relationship transcends the ordinary.
6) We spend an inordinate amount of time and money in strip clubs and on strippers, there has never been any jealousy issues, ever.
7) No she isn't lesbian or bi, she buys me dances at the club and gets turned on watching.
8) No I wasn't getting a BJ when I typed the original post, but I got one this morning. And I had told my wife the content of the original post.
9) And most importantly, I do have an amazing wife.
It's hard for me to relate to your present situation and goals, because if I had a wife like yours, all I'd be thinking is.... WTF am I doing HERE?
I like her spunky attitude.
I agree with the other gentlemen, I think open marriage is probably a bad idea, and won't work,. But we aren't here to judge. Have a blast! The bottom line is everyone is here to figure out how to have fun and how to have the most fun for your $$$.
But who knows maybe youre the exception and it will work, but I understand trying to use it to help, but be careful!
-m
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