TER General Board
Re: Tire Kickers......
It's the same in any sales environment - folks who want to interact with the object of their desire but will not take the plunge '
OOOoooo...I get it. Thanks Gregory
That time wasters don’t seem you know that we providers are on to them Within there 1st few words or sentences? I really do wonder what they must be thinking when they contact us and do the evasive inconsistent thing and expect us to take them seriously. Can any one give me just a little more insight on this? I don’t let it bother me because I have yet to waste time on them but I am wondering.
It's the same in any sales environment - folks who want to interact with the object of their desire but will not take the plunge '
I don't think all of them are time wasters. As greg said, it's the same in any sales environment. They want a little interaction prior to shelling out a ton of dough. They want to know if they will click. We wouldn't make a purchase without researching the product either.
There are genuine time-wasters though. My suggestion would be to give them more than a moment of your time and you may find that their intentions really are to spend time with you. Sometimes they just need a little hand holding.
Also, gents can sometimes be nervous when contacting a provider.
Sorry for my analogy to 'purchasing a product'. Hope it didn't offend anyone. I'm sure it will though.
No it’s ok (the analogy) I understand that and I have even stated to prospective clients that you seem to be window shopping and that’s ok ……But I do need to know who I am speaking to (as in verified) or I’m not speaking period. So If you (guys) are just Looking why all the nonsense?
well, of course, though I would have said purchasing a service or purchasing entertainment.....
folks really need to remember that at its most basic, this is a business transaction!
sometimes it becomes a bit more, sometimes a lot more, delightfully more - and sometimes too much more!
Cheers
Gregory
I am always nervous when contacting a provider for the first time. It is very easy to trip over your own tongue and blow the whole deal.
Yes but do you not provide her with basic lie your name... Your references...
The date & time of your request??
Do you write one liners.. ex:
Hi Are you available toady?
Come on now what is up with that?
I can understand a method to the madness but this crap is just nonsense
Typically I just delete them but every now and then like the tabloid headlines one gets me 7 and I have look .lol and see for myself are you kidding me..
I tell her my name, where I saw her ad, where I'm from, give a timeframe that I'm going to be in her area, and ask if she'll be available for an appointment then. I try to contact her at least a few weeks in advance for allow for screening procedures. Her response dictates how I proceed after that.
I always have a contact page of my own with the info I'm communicating and a place for me to enter the needed info from the lady when I make a call or emial. At my age, if it's not written down, it does not exist.......
Some mornings, I have to look in the mirror, just to see who the fuck I am...sometimes, I'm not sure.
doesn't work for me unless I put a post it note next to the mirror with my name on it......
OOOoooo...I get it. Thanks Gregory
this happens often enough in civvie life that it is no surprise. i've had friends or family members ask a favor in an indirect way that wasted time hinting until getting to the point. sometimes they are afraid of being turned down. sometimes they don't want to be in your debt and hope you will have an ESP attack and offer what they want. sometimes they don't know what they want and are just trying to find out. as many reasons as folks.
still no reason too indulge, though. if i don't want to play the game i usually ask the person to figure out what and whether they want and get in touch when they are ready to talk.
Livie, from a hobbiest point of view, I have wasted a lot of my time since taking this up. I have probably emailed 6 well reviewed ladies (some visting my area) with never a reply. In my email I give two very good references, my datecheck verification number, my work info and cell #. I also tell them a little about myself. I also give them options on times/days I can meet.
I've never heard from them. So I see time wasters on my end of the pole (he he) to the point that if they are that busy, then why are they posting on the regional board they will be in my area?
Just my .02
I agree with MR. Johnson. I've been in the "hobby" since the mid-70's and I'm forever getting nervous when contacting a young lady for the first time. I guess I'm afraid of crossing some unseen boundary or breaking an unwritten rule. Haven't had a problem lately, but the jitters are still there.
I think I may have that answer. When making contact with a lady you haven't previously met, you never know what to expect. I think the reason you and probably many others are afraid of crossing that unseen boundry is because, those boundries aren't always the same.
One lady may cut you off at the knees for saying something you would think is not inappropriate, as it wasn't with other ladies you've spoken with. So there is always that fear of saying the wrong thing.
To me, unless the gent comes right out and says something so obviously inappropriate I will give him a little bit of leeway. Some of my favorite gents were stammering messes with first corospondense. Remember, not everyone has the same phone skills, writing skills. Have a little bit of patience with a gent, you never know, you may have a new regular!
A stammerin' stutterin' fool. I still get nervous as hell when I first talk to a lady. My voice cracks like a teenager in puberty, and I'm absolutely certain that I'm going to say something incredibly stooopid. That's why I prefer a few emails first. At least that way, I can hopefully minimize my inevitable embarrassment.
taking up your time, getting you annoyed, etc. They are like people who make (or used to make) harassing phone calls. All of the excitement is in getting the attention that comes with being an annoyance. That's how they get their jollies. Sad guys.
Livie, after reading several of your posts above, it seems like you don't want to give a potential client the time of day. I prefer to interact with a lady via e-mail, PM's, or telephone before we meet.
Really? do I really seem like that? Well that is not true in fact I do like men very much. I also I know (been told) I am very direct and to the point and I usually know what I want and who I want it from and how to get it. So I admit some time I have issue with people that don't witch is why I posted this question. Hopping to gain more insight so that I can see things from another view and not be inpatient Also I have been spoiled the men that I have come in contact have been the like minded and not given me reason to look at any other prospective. Thank you for you post please free to continue to let me know what you see that could make a someone timid in their approach to me. I wont be offended I appreciate the feed back. Cheers Livie.
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