So I realized something yesterday, probably many years (and thousands of dollars) later than I should have.

I visited a very sweet, young, attractive provider.  I paid her full service rates (she is a FS provider) even though what I asked for (and what I almost always want) is an FBSM.  I love a BBBJTC ending if I can get it, but more often than not the ending is just a HJ, which is OK too.  There are a few reasons for this preference -- one of which is that I admittedly have a fetish about massages and massage therapists.  But also, at my age (late 40s) wearing a condom can be detrimental to performance, and I also just really like being spoiled.  I like paying someone to take care of me, with me doing very little of the work.  I want a nice relaxing massage, with some teasing along the way, that ends with sexual release.

FBSM only providers (especially non-Asians) have become harder and harder to find over the past 20 years, especially in small towns, and especially with the demise of BP and the CL massage ads.  AMPs are always available, of course, but sometimes I get bored of that experience and want to find someone non-Asian as a change of pace.

So yesterday I visited this lovely young woman.  The session cost me about three times what an AMP visit would cost me; and quite frankly, it was nowhere near as good.  The provider gave me a back rub, which was fine.  But there was no teasing, no build up, nothing sensual about it.  It was just a standard back rub you might get from a friend.  She didn't rub my ass, my inner thighs, etc.  She then had me flip over and immediately started a BJ.  Again, no teasing, no build up, no preliminaries.  Just a back rub straight to a BJ.  And, to be frank about it -- my performance suffered.  I was not able to come, even though what she was doing felt pretty damn good.  20 years ago, I would have had no problem.  But now, I need for it to build up a little bit.

I don't blame this provider; I was asking her to do something that's not necessarily her specialty.  But I've made this same mistake in the past, and I've finally realized it's my mistake, not theirs.  I need to stop paying FS prices and for FS providers when all I want is FBSM.  I miss the days when the Backpage "body rubs" section, especially in a major city, would have given me plenty of ladies specializing in that service.

So yesterday I left that girl's apartment and went straight to an AMP, where for a third of the price I got what I wanted.  Yes, the first provider was more attractive and I got to see more of her body, which was nice.  And yes, at the AMP the ending was HJ instead of BJ.  But the overall experience at the AMP -- for what I'm looking for -- was so much better.

The point of all this rambling?  I don't know.  I guess it's just to get down "on paper" the lesson that I've learned, which is that it doesn't make sense to ask a provider (and to pay a provider) to do something outside of her specialty.  Sure, you might get lucky and find that she's really good at it.  However, that has not been my experience.

From now on, if I want FBSM I'm going to an FBSM only provider, whether that's at an AMP or somewhere else.

I came to after many years of lousy sex from CMT's trying to make extra money with full service, and conversely, FS providers wasting my time with half-assed massages.    About ten years ago I quit accepting massage from SW's.  Likewise, I don't seek sexual services from CMT's.  In fact, I will often have a session with a provider and then go to a CMT for a good massage afterward.  

And my clients love my Nuru and escort combo

defy conventional wisdom.  Kudo's to you from doing your best at everything you do.  Not all providers are like that.   If I was a premature ejaculator and could cum in less than 40-45 minutes, I would love to try your combo.   With the number of PE's on this site, I'm not surprised it's popular.  Lol

Yeah.  I'm still always looking for the unicorn -- the provider out there who is good at both.  I've found a few in my career, but they are rare!!

That's an amazing -- and in my experience, rare -- combo!

...that is best to stick with the specialists. If I'm craving a happy ending from a cute Asian woman, I'll hit an AMP. If I'm looking for some skimpy outfits and a lapdance, I'll hit up a stripclub. And of course for that intimate girl-on-girl encounter, it's an escort all the way. There's plenty of crossover in the different types of services offered that it can be difficult trying to get it all from one gal. But part of the fun is in the hunt, right?

Love the LBD, ever get to the East Coast?

This is the right approach.  I mean, you don't go to a steakhouse and order tofu, right?  

I've been told time and time again that my body rubs are amazing. I always bring my special sunflower seed body rub oil for anyone who wants a massage during our date. I think I'm fairly skilled at body rubs and very skilled at FS

I have a state license that requires fulfilling CEUs in order to stay current annually. A therapist will typically have “good hands” if they have a steady practice over the years. I am pretty into anatomy and kinesiology and love to study it in school and on my own. It is said the profession chooses you-you don’t choose the profession. Very tough to make a living at it however. The other thing I love started early in my life and very naturally I might add. (Anyone remember the book “The Happy Hooker?” I was intrigued, appalled, and curious about that woman) I feel it was destiny to provide both trades with excellence. If that is a Unicorn well hot damn!

It's interesting, right?  In some ways, full service is easier for the provider than FBSM, lol!  Conversely, because it's a "less intimate" service, I (like most guys) expect it to cost less than FS.  This is tricky.

However, independent of any sexual activity: getting one's butt rubbed is one of life's greatest pleasures.  

I'm sure you are!  Not at all saying it's impossible to be skilled at both, but I think that person is harder to find.

You are indeed in the exception group since you are skilled at both. If I lived in your neck of the woods I'd definitely book you for a couple hours of massage-based sexy fun!

I see you also have a table, which is another big plus (and a sign that a lady takes the massage portion seriously!).  If I find an excuse to get to Boston, I might just give you a call!

I provide an awesome NURU massage that includes gfe as well. It’s an amazing experience.

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Juliette, I saw you a little more than a decade ago, and your massage skills were AMAZING!  There wasn't Nuru involved at the time, so I can only imagine!!  I have to find a reason to get back to Nashvegas....

I agree with you Mya, massage is hard work, I do admire the ladies who give massages all day, the different ladies I have had in my life every time they asked me to give them a massage, I would hate it, because after about 10 mins my hands, fingers and even my arms would start to hurt, I know their a trick to it, and if you doing it for a living I guess you know how to give massages!

I’m a CMT & FS provider and I definitely don’t half ass any of the experience

If you were "full-assed", you would not be slender and hot-looking.  Lol