Alright so most guys don't mean to cause pain.. but there must be something in the air...the last few days, my tits have been subjected to the bread dough treatment. Ice pack worthy.

I hate to ruin the mood, so I tolerate it as long as I can, then mention it nicely..Which 50% of the time, goes in one ear and out the other.

Should I start sending a "predate" note mentioning (in a polite, non explicit way), pinching/kneeding isn't cool?
I'm about to snap like The Hulk.

Thanks

Seldom does a lady have to saying anything. I can tell, if she's being honest, if what I'm doing is giving her pleasure or causing her pain. If the guy is too obtuse to get the message, then just say, "Ouch, that hurts." Don't let him play with them again until he shows he can play nice.

it would be very distressing if you experienced something that was a turn-off and didn't say anything.

now a little pleasure heightening pain (love getting a little scratch of the nails i do), a little bite or slap can be very very nice. just not too much.

and things that cause discomfort should be off limits. There are no end of pleasureable, and in fact mutually pleasurable things to do, and which fall in line with a quality of service that merits the donation. Suffering abuse of any kind is not required.

I have never minded a lady telling me if she did not like, did not prefer, or was uncomfortable with something. In fact, such clarity of communication and mutual respect usually channels the session in a direction that makes it a fantastic experience for both parties....

and it 'chills' the session.... it is MUCH better if she just tells me, it is ok to touch the gals, but no rough stuff.  that is cool....

and I have had "the Hulk" experience - that is NOT cool! lol!

once you have told him to stop, then you are within protocol to end the date.  Your boundaries should not be crossed.

The GFE should be a two way street. I would want to know if I were causing discomfort or pain and I would not be offended. The more I can please the lady, the more enjoyable the experience is for me.

it is just as important to pleasure the lady I'm with.  I am not into give any pain, in fact, I have to work at light spanking if I know she enjoys it.  I would prefer to know what you enjoy, going into a session.  The session is always better if we both enjoy it.

BLG

I know you're asking the guys.... I'm butting in..

My nipples are very sensitive.  If handled correctly I can come close to an orgasm with just nipple play.  At the same time, I am very vocal and let the gents know what does and/or does not please me.  I would expect the same from them.  

Don't ever let it get to the point of being painful before you say something.

Most guys are willing to take notes on how we like our breasts played with or massaged.  You wouldn't be ruining the mood, it just may intensigy.  
I've gone through this issue before, and still occurs every so often.  Literally, it felt like the gent was trying to remove them, so he could take them home.  I kindly said, you can play, but you can't have.  He giggled and burried his face inside.
FYI...guys stubble hurts, and as much as we'd like you to rub your face inside our boobs, it is much nicer when your groomed...

As far as during the "predate" getting to know each other phase of the appointment, I think the moment he does something that is too rough, let him know.  This maybe his way of seeing if you like it or not.  
Good Luck
XOXO
McKayla Woods

Was with an ATF last week and started rolling her nipples between my fingers...which she usually likes. She stopped me...just two days until her "time of the month" so her breasts were sensitive.
I got more gentle.

Her roommate likes it rough...no matter what.

It's all about communication and respect for one another.

No, it wouldn't offend me one little iota. If I'm causing the lady any level of discomfort, I want to know right away and I'll stop.

I'm with BLG...  I'm into giving as well asa recieving.  NO guy should think that rough handling of a tender structure is ok...  It sure would not be if it was reversed!
The thing is to teach them gently at first, then more forcefully...  teach them how to carress them.
Now you are sensitive because some baboon has roughed them up!  Some ladies tell me it varies with hormones.  Guys need to learn this too.

I dare say the hulk treatment, would bring the momentium to a stop...  but so does being hurt!  Try "Ouch!  I'm too sensitive for that" & cover them with your hands.  
"Be gentle".

If it was me, I'd take them gently into my mouth, tease them with my tounge, sock them lightly, flick them for a second...  
skb

I'm a guy.

Therefore I'm basically clueless.

If I do something on a date with a lady that bothers her, I would not be offended by a gentle pre-date note.  At least, I think I wouldn't.

On the other hand, I MIGHT be irritated, for at least a moment, to get such a pre-date note in advance of a FIRST date -- if it were something stupid that I already know not to do.  After all, if I figured it out, it must be pretty basic, and if she thinks a mention is necessary, that sounds like she has a pretty low opinion of my intelligence.  On the other hand, I might just shrug and say "boy, she must get a lot of idiot clients, if it happens enough she has to send this to new clients."  

That's your biggest problem, probably.  Guys always think descriptions of idiot behavior are about somebody else.  We have an almost infinite capacity for self-delusion, including thinking "oh, that's only a little caress or gentle squeeze" while you're experiencing the Vice Grip of Death.

Hmmm, with that in mind, I don't RECALL any pinching/kneading recently, but I will have to ask some of my ladyfriends whether I've been guilty too.

I am always a gentleman and I like the soft touch approach.  I am not aggressive in my civvie life, so I am not aggressive in my hobby life.  I had a ex who left me because I was not aggressive enough..OH WELL

sorry you had that experrience.

to let me know what feels good to her. What can I do to make her experience with me as comfortable and pleasurable as possible.

Coach me! I know what I want. What do you want?!

I'm easy. I'm just not cheap!!!

Mikey P

I guess it works both ways.  Occasionally a provider, while giving a BBBJ gets some teeth into it.  I try tolerating it too but then kick myself later.  I also do not want to offend.  If I mention it, is it easy to keep the teeth away or am I just talking myself out of a blowjob?
That brings up the age old question of whether any blowjob is a bad blowjob?

I guess it works both ways.  Occasionally a provider, while giving a BBBJ gets some teeth into it.  I try tolerating it too but then kick myself later.  I also do not want to offend.  If I mention it, is it easy to keep the teeth away or am I just talking myself out of a blowjob?
That brings up the age old question of whether any blowjob is a bad blowjob?

A guy would be completely justified in wanting to take them home.  

Like you, I never mention it.
Once I got my nipples so red and in pain I had to cancel my next appointment!