Lately in my area there has been a heavy volume of new providers touring in the city. I want to see some them, but none have reviews. The two I saw their services were lack luster, and I felt it was a waist of time and money.
A provider I've been seeing for several months now tours through my city a lot. So rather then taking the long "list of chances" we all know that could happen when seeing someone with no reviews, I have just been seeing her all the time now.
She always gets the job done (makes me pop). I know this may sound stupid, so please don't blast me yall. But do you see a problem with seeing the same provider two or three times a week? Or would you start trying something newer.
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some providers like variety and are perhaps not up front about it. if you see them more often than they can bear they may provide only extremely subtle cues that you are too frequent a visitor. their attitude and service declines and well.... if you don't catch the hint early enough YOU may be on their DNS list.
...and it's simply not true.
2-3 times a week with the same lady sounds a little extreme to me but I've seen it and I've experienced it before.
Everyone isn't out to sport fuck as many women as possible; some clients truly are interested in the path of least resistance so to speak.
If you like it and you're comfortable with it do it as much as you want to so long as the provider doesn't take your patronage for granted and starts giving half-assed sessions.
We each are individuals, and have our own tastes and circumstances so if see a gal three times a week or three times a day works, then have at her. If and when it doesn't work, then stop and do something else.
I do hope you write reviews of the lackluster gals so that other hobbyist don't make the mistake you did; or more hopefully, the gals in question learn of and read these reviews and adjust their services accordingly.
repeating is what i do. but, i am sometimes too optimistic and make too many "allowances for circumstances" and miss the cue that it is time to give something a rest.......
there are very special precious ladies with whom i wish i could repeat much more than i do.
It sounds like you have been discouraged by no reviews and the couple of ladies you saw.If you are comfortable with the lady you have been seeing 2-3 times a week and you are happy then I do not think it is too much.But,I would not write off the touring ladies that come through your city you might find a well-reviewed lady and have a wonderful time.I do agree that you don't know what you are getting with a lady that has no reviews.As the long as the lady that you regularly see does not seem to have a problem seeing you on a consistent basis,why question it?
If you are doing it and it works for both you and the provider -- have fun!
There are huge advantages to seeing someone you've already seen.
If you're going to see her this often, she might have something to say, and you should be having a slightly more open relationship than "knock, knock - let's fuck". It doesn't have to be all squishy and romantic, but I would tell her that you aren't looking for lots of variety and ask how she'd feel if you became a regular, and how often.
If she agrees, I'd also recommend checking in with her at some point down the road.
3/4ths of my hobbying has been seeing one woman only. But in each case, it was something I discussed with the lady when I decided to make sure it was mutually beneficial. Some ladies don't *want* to be the only woman you are seeing, etc.
Likely at some point I'll be returning to that approach.
It is very easy to get emotionally involved... it's natural for this with ladies we have great sex with.
With frequent visits, it's hard to keep things fresh. Also I've experienced the lady becomes complacent & takes client for granted (performance suffers).
I find I like to rotate among a small number of favorites... helps to keep my head on straight & keeps them on their toes.
I look at reviews differently now. I only book with ladies who I feel have the potential to become favorites. I think more guys do this than they admit, though TER is built on high review counts.
Best wishes, skb
With frequent visits, it's hard to keep things fresh. Also I've experienced the lady becomes complacent & takes client for granted (performance suffers).
I find I like to rotate among a small number of favorites... helps to keep my head on straight & keeps them on their toes.
I look at reviews differently now. I only book with ladies who I feel have the potential to become favorites. I think more guys do this than they admit, though TER is built on high review counts.
Best wishes, skb
Personally I could only see the same dude 3 times a week if he was, what I consider, easy to be with. Even them I'd need a week off every so often. But if this works for you and everyone is sticking to their respective expectations, then do what works for you and have a great time.
Seeing a single provider can be dangerous for various reasons. I was recently in a relationship with a provider about 18 months, the first year was strictly professional. The second 8 months lines were crossed and a relationship ensued. While it was a great ride and I had high hopes for it going the distance it all ended with all the glory of a true TER train wreck and that was two months ago and I'm still feeling the fallout. There is also the provider that gets comfortable with you because she see's you all the time. Since she still gets her envelope and odds are you have already reviewed her shes not out to impress you. The wildcat maybe come more like a kitten once she considers you one of her regulars. IMHO.
Not sayin that's what has happened, but this type of beavior could pre qualify you for the LG's sayin.
I have three main providers I see now. It's just this particular provider comes to my city the most, and we get along pretty well. Her sessions have actually gotten a bit better since I've seen her, becuase she's comfortable and learn to relax.
I don't see her back to back days as some may think. Like for this week I saw her on Monday afternoon, and went to go see her today on Saturday during the evening. She seems to be more comfortable with repeat clients, because she knows more about you. Which in turn gets her to loosen up a lot more.
As for as new touring girls. The past few girls with no reviews, have all been horrible. It's just I don't know how they got into this business, but they need to find a new line of work. They come all the way from the west coast to the east coast and give BS sessions.
I personally totally enjoy seeing the same person on a regular basis. (I dont think I have anyone who comes 3x's a week.) You would still want to keep things fun and interesting and once a week should be well worth it. Some girls are in it to make as much $$ as possible, and i guess in the end that is what it is about. But, myself finds it reassuring when you can see someone with ease, confidence, and comfort. It feels more GFE than any of the "advertised" GFE's. Just my thought.
xoxo,
Remi Martin of Atlanta
what provider would love a regular like you? Of course the answer is up to you. Unless the provider does not mind seeing you several times a week as you mentioned and you aren't growing bored of her, I don't why you shouldn't continue seeing her. Best wishes!
often, go for it. Regarding seeing the same lady all the time, she may become complacent with you and her performance may decline. Variety is the spice of life. There are plenty of well-reviewed ladies to see without having to see lots of ladies without reviews.
Don't worry about the opinions of others; they're just that, opinions. I do the same thing when my ATF visits, and see my other friends when she's away. This arrangement has worked for me for years, and I have no intentions of changing this anytime soon. I do have to say that I do not recommend seeing your provider friend exclusively, however...you want to have other friends to see, in case your current ATF stops visiting so frequently. Just my two pennies...
Do what makes you happy and do it with someone who brings value to the situation. Variety can be the slice of life but it can also get you busted if you're chasing too many rainbows.