I wold make sure it was her idea and she REALLY WANTS to do it. Or else it could be a very bad memory, even if she seemingly had fun. Your call.

couples pick-up a lady for an evening of fun.

Seems to happen in Vegas quite a bit, check that board out.

To be truthful, I got a bit jealous the first few times. Now I just enjoy the show.

will screen both husb & wife.  Will also want to speak to the wife to be sure she wants this.  There are a few horror stories about husb & wife show up at provider's...   wife flips out...  runs out...  husb goes after her.  Provider is stiffed her fee & compromised so she must bail to protect herself.

switch it up..suggest a mmf ..if she likes the idea you have no worries..she is ready for anything..how about you??

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Is she doing it to please you?
Are you doing it to please her?
If so.. DONT!

Are you both being honest about expectations and desires?
How you invision it to happen?

Have you talked about rules? for each and what happens if

Do you have a code word or signal to let the other know one is not comfortable with something?

How well do you know the 3rd party?
Are you sure no one will have regrets..
Is the 3rd party fully invested and comfortable with both??

IF you can't answer 1 of these questions then you need to STOP, DISCUSS AND WAIT!

YES! I have done this with my BF and it went well.. mostly..There was this one time in band camp but that is another story??? LOL

Actually, I am the wife and suggested it to my husband. I knew it was a fantasy of his when we first got together 14 years ago but back then I wasn't ready to entertain the idea. We've had an amazing relationship and it is always interesting and fun in the bedroom. I actually suggested it to him because I  want to do this with him. He was thrilled but we both decided we would want to have it be with someone we don't know - so as not to worry about forming any attachments...and we wanted a professional since it's our first time. We have exhausted our conversations about boundaries and what we are comfortable with, safe words and I picked out the lady and have been in communication with her. (We'll be meeting in Vegas).

We thought about swinging as we have friends who do that but again, the issue with relationships-forming attachments is something we don't want to mess with, and he's not comfortable with another man with me yet. Not sure how I feel about that either...that's another conversation for another day.

So, just looking for any feedback or advice.
thanks for the responses...we're both really excited- and neither of us feel pressured to do it for the other person...we're just excited to explore this facet of our sex life together.