Sometime within the last week, appropos I forget what, one provider weighed in with a post stating that she does not like daty, never has, and will not sit [or Lay?] still for it.  She was quite firm in her opinion.

So, inevitable question for both Ps and Hs.  for those of you who do not like daty, please share the reasons, if you would be so kind.

Since I was invited to the DATY party, I've always thought of it as the great equalizer.  No one wories about tongue size, it doesn't have to be stiff, and it tires far less easily than the other male tool.  Of course, there are minor inconveniences like stiff necks, sore upper backs, etc.. to consider.  And the party line, as i've understood it, is that women appreciate a first-rate linguist far above that of a the gents packing 10-inchers.  Could this be disinformation spread by parties unknown for reasons unknown?

I've met women, not many, both providers and civvie, who do not like daty.  Let's just say, I was so surprised, and disappointed, that i did not at the time seek to  explore the reasons why.

So now is the chance to school me.  TY.

I do not think it is the word that needs to be spread.

Thank You
2007=27

What bothers me is when a profile says that a lady likes DATY and touch pussy inside and when I get there I find out that is not true.
 Those are both so important I would not schedule an appointment if I didn't think that was on the menu.
  Ladies, if the information on your profile is incorrect please get TER to correct it. If they won't then ask one of our champions - the mods, how to get it changed.
 Thanks for the topic SH.

As Beret pointed out and I thought I would try and clarify.  Those of us that like it and have finger inside..love the sensuality of it.  Now if you want to bulldoze your finger and jam it in like a jackhammer I would pass and say no.  A finger is not a dick..lol

Just a thought.

I’m so glad SH came up with this thread. Being in the medical field & analyzing STI samples on a daily bases tends to put a damper on that activity. Matter of fact I was never into oral (giving or receiving) from the beginning since high school. Thinking about it now, I believe it started during Sex Ed. when I was showed pictures of genitals w/ end stage genital herpes, gonorrhea & syphilis. As much of the sex addict that I am, I tend to let the provider know up front so I won’t have an awkward session. It sometimes really amazes me, just how many people love oral, sometimes reading some of the reviews f/ my fellow hobbyist pertaining to DATY, at times make me nauseous, sorry just my little old opinion here. I tried daty a hand full of times, women (civies & my ATF) love my skills, but just not my thing. But I will say, I love finger play & that tends to be a compromise w/ the ladies I’m with. Also, after I arranged an appt w/ a most beloved & respected lady in my area I read one of her blogs speaking of her herpes simplex (Ewww) & how she had to cancel some appts. until she was “cleared up”, of course I never saw this lady and now I don’t kiss let alone DFK. Aahh, it feels so good to finally get this off my chest.  
BTW, I have a lot of female friends & we have an open dialogue about sex and I would say about 60% of the females prefer size (moderation) over oral. I believe the analogy I was told “when dining (no pun intended) you would be satisfied w/ the main course vs. the appetizer”.
Generation Y

Xmas wthout presents, New Year's Eve without alcohol, the $th of July without fireworks, etc...

My sentimentss exactly.

TY, I aim to please.

this is by leaps and bounds my most hated sexual activity, HOWEVER i do not hold it as a limit...if, after understanding that it's not something i like and therefore they will get no positive feedback from me, a client still wants to go there, i do allow it, within reason.

why do i hate it? well it's primarily a psychological thing...i've always had a naturally submissive personality and nature, have always felt it my place to serve and please others. when someone tries to serve and please me, it reads as awkward and unnatural for me. and because most men who DATY do it for the purpose of pleasing their female partner, i do not like it. then there is the physical position of it...him usually below me, having to look up at me, me above him, having to look down...very very backwards and wrong-feeling to my subbie nature. and lastly there is the physical sensation of it...either dreadfully boring or highly irritating. the sensation of a tongue against any of my nether parts simply has never done anything for me. and having my clitty played with is very irritating, sometimes painful. unless you want me leaping up in pain and agony, it's a no-touch spot.

but the primary reason is again the submissive factor...i do not want a partner, in or outside of the hobby, who does anything from a position of trying to please or worship me. i like a man to be a man...to freely and without shame or guilt take what he wants, make it all about him, because that's what feels best for me. i make sure to warn all potential clients, in a subtle fashion, that i do not care for DATY at all, so that if it's that important to them, they can steer clear of me.

Submission seems to be a mental state.  I see the woman as submitting to my bases, innermost, slurpy desire to mouth, lick and slobber over the object of my lust.  You will take the position(s) that I fantasize about, making yourself accessible to me.  I don't get a stiff neck, I don't look at you unless I want to.  

So if you think you are not being submissive, think again.

cuppajoe, my sentiments exactly. I want to chow down on that gorgeous thang.

Lilli take note.

Most don't know what they are doing, and even if you tell them what turns you on, they still don't get it right

For myself, I like everything gentle~~~~ I hate being poked around with a finger. Concentrate more on my clit, BUT GENTLY PLEASE, and please please..pretty please, don't try to suck my clit as if you were trying to suck a worm out of it's hole..that hurts!!! lol  I love it when a man just gently laps at my clit up and down and sideways.. mmmmmmmm... that is enough to make me cum very fast

...you would enjoy DATY just as much with a girl who obviously disliked it, and had no physical response (drippiness, orgasm, etc.) to it whatsoever?

while i won't generalize and say that ALL men DATY with the goal of pleasing/arousing their partner, most do, and any activity done with that purpose in mind will be a turn-off for me, but for some reason DATY is just at the very top of the list.

you're right that positions can be adjusted beyond the typical so that it's not so male-submissive, and that makes it a bit more tolerable for me (like the time someone bound me in a very uncomfy position and then proceeded to DATY). but something about the act still strikes me as submissive, could just be the way my brain is wired.

I know I could never see you!  DATY is a sine qua non for me.

If a provider doesn't offer DATY and i was wanting it,  I would give her a horrible review

I'm not a big fan of DATY, either. I've let very few clients perform it on me.

I've gotten infections twice from men who didn't know what they were doing. Poking and prodding my private area is a huge NO-NO.

just don't seem to be into it and gently disuade me from doing so.

On the other hand, we find other things to do that tickle our fancy; women's bodies provide a nearly endless plethora of toys to play with.

sorry to hear about your issues with DATY Lamaya...unfortunately some gents just don't know how to be delicate with our tender bits.

not ban it outright, but let them know politely that it's not my cup of tea and if they want to do it and get the typical reaction (horny, orgasmic girlie), that won't happen. but if someone asks or even proceeds to go about DATY during the course of our time together, i will not reject or try to stop them. there are two big reasons i would never ban DATY: 1. as a submissive provider, no session should involve catering to me; and 2. many men would find something suspicious in a girl who refused to let them DATY (like maybe she has something to hide health-wise).

I LOVE IT, LOVE IT, LOVE IT!
But please start off Slow and gentle. Never use teeth. And wet fingers are awesome as long as they are not being rammed up to my tonsils.

For me lilli while it is certainly nice if she likes it and shows a reaction it is not a requirement. You just don't know how hot you are down there and I want to get as close as possible!

It's not about entitlement, you are paying a lady for her time and accept what is freely given. Giving a lady a bad review because she doesn't offer what you want is horrible and not what reviews are about. Grow up!