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Re: Silence is Golden...?
azuremike 59 reads
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I like a little chat before the action and maybe afterwards--if we have time.  But, I prefer no unnecessary talking during sex.  It's distracting.  I get enough of that yak at home.  Now, a little feedback, that's different.  "Keep sucking", "a little slower", "mmm that's nice".  

As for the handshake, that's just plain weird!

TaylerLakeFL1362 reads

Ladies, do you ever think you are doing something wrong when a gent is super quiet or just stares at you the whole time?

I totally understand being shy, I'm not very vocal myself ...But when a guy is quiet I wonder if A) his fantasy involves no uninvasive small talk to fill silences, or B) am I not physically appealing, do I smell, not doing this and that right? :-/

Second most awkward thing is the "handshake"
goodbye..LOL...I don't get that, I mouthwash like it's going out of style, wtf?

xoxo
TL

that is halarious...when my guest is very quiet i just assume that he doesnt want to talk, I may make small talk after or before but if he doesnt engage in the convo.I figure he hears enough rambling at home. i leave it alone and show him my many talents that he came to see. lol.
stay safe, sunni

I note that your review history begins in March 2009. I do not know whether to infer by this that you are new at the game......  but it is important to establish a comfort level, a rapport with your visitor. In my view, it is encumbent upon the provider, as the professional, to develop these skills, to be outgoing without being threatening, to be welcoming and open. I have a bit of experience in this hobby, and can be quite assertive with ladies I know well, but with a new lady I take my cue from her, because I do not want to make her uncomfortable.....  my favorite thing in the world is when a lady shows *interest* as soon as I walk through the door - dfk, lead me to the bed, etc etc.

Not sure of your bedside manner, Tayler, but your on my to-do list since you arrived in FL. I'd be curious to see his review, if there is one.

Hmmmmm I always hear about showers being Golden.

HavingFunInOC131 reads

You are gorgeous!  All guys are different.  Besides the physical attributes, I do enjoy getting to know you as a person.  For me, personality counts big in rating a session and is a big part of my decision whether to repeat or not.

Oh yea I always ask for feedback during & after, I like some direction as well, sometimes it's like pulling teeth though, no matter how friendly you are.  I some are scared to really ask for what they want?
He's a semi newbie who doesn't review, but went home with a smile. :)

Now I sound like a suck up, lol (guilty as charged).  But seriously, some guys don't know what to say to a pretty girl. Guys that haven't been around a lot of women, sometimes have a difficult time relating to women. They freeze up. Other guys feel a natural comfort around women.  I wouldn't worry about it. I doubt it had anything to do with your actions, he just may have been intimidated. A handshake does seem a little weird after an hour of love making.

GaGambler99 reads

but I have to admit there are many parts of her anatomy that I would love to suck on. Better be careful though, those nips could put an eye out.

I gotta go along with the handshake thing though. You would think that after a hour of having sex, you would be past the handshake phase. lol

notaboxer102 reads

Thats kind of funny after making love.....leaving and saying cya later (handshake). Must be a really socially akward guy.  Kind of reminds me of something ud see in a movie like superbad

Some get-to-know-each-other time is important to me, and I really enjoy that pre-fun time immensely (uh, usually, with only one real regret in that department).

I know some gents like to get right to business, and I appreciate why.  But I don't hobby that frequently, and I always want to make sure the lady is just as comfortable as I am.

I think you're talking about a specific personality type, and often the only sexual connection that is reasonably probable, for them, is with a provider, or someone with the same personality type. If you would like to know more, PM me.:)

my date.  On the other hand, you are a real beauty and he might be awestruk by your physical presence.  I have had my eye on you since you moved to Florida.  I hope our paths cross soon.  You can PM me if you like.

too many variables left out. Age difference? May think what could he possible say to a young girl that she'd understand or be interested in. If you aren't adept at making it a relaxed atmosphere for even the most introverted guy (which is not easy by any means) it will take a few meetings for him to realize it's cool to talk about whatever. Please no one think I am slamming Tyler just offering my .02 as i started out like her date. Only after hobbying for a while did i start to relax and fortunately saw some really cool providers that got me to relax and as a result in the civie world I am actually envied by some guys for my ability to start a conversation with almost any girl. I would never have done that before hobbying. I'd like to say thanks to all my friends that like Tyler that give us shy and quiet guys the patience for us to enjoy a more normal live. xoxo to you all!

I guess it comes from my days in a strip club, where you buy a girl drink and they would talk until their three songs was up. All you wanted was a lapdance.  So I started to get real quiet and the silence would kill them so they would ask "do u want a lapdance hon"

Duct tape comes in a veritable rainbow of colors. So don't let color coordination hinder you when you are trying to work duct tape into your fashion plan.

I'm usually silent afterwards.  She's usually in my arms and I'm resting and reflecting the nice time we had.  And has anyone told you that you resemble a younger Nancy Botwin in Weeds?

I am pretty outgoing.  If I cannot bring someone into a conversation and have them feel comfortable with me, then there's a problem. However, some men are shy and -- on occasion -- do not want to talk at all. I have only run across two in my years as an escort. Even they had something to say to me.

Hugs,
ciara

Some guys are just quiet like that. I've only met two individuals like that and so I don't push conversation. I just lightly touch upon some talking but let my body do the most important talking : ))

Those type of guys are rare and I don't know what their issues are, if any, but just try to enjoy the moment for what it's worth.

Have fun!


Mackenzi : ))

I need someone to let me know they are at least enjoying what i'm doing. Some sign if not telling me exactly how, what and where sometime during our time together.

Handshake...I haven't had one of those since...Hell never...

My tongue is in a man's mouth faster than you can say HELLO...I can't imagine a handshake after that.

azuremike60 reads

I like a little chat before the action and maybe afterwards--if we have time.  But, I prefer no unnecessary talking during sex.  It's distracting.  I get enough of that yak at home.  Now, a little feedback, that's different.  "Keep sucking", "a little slower", "mmm that's nice".  

As for the handshake, that's just plain weird!

I had a similar experience and was left oh so very baffled and wondering if I didn't do things right or was appealing enough.  I THINK he liked me.  He did arrange another appt the week after....

Am still relatively new to this so worry a lot.  This is the first client I've had like this and I don't mind the silence- just hope that he's having fun..  

Am glad I'm not alone in my confusion.  Am thinking/hoping some guys are just quiet when making love and their silence has nothing to do with us?  I am so not used to silence and an occasional smirk...

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