Clients
Do you ever personally recommend a provider to people in your friend or social circle ?

I had a great wingman for years with whom I shared referrals. Once you know someone's taste matches your own you know you can trust their recommendations. It's a very valuable resource.

Yes, of course, guy friends often recommend women they think their friends will enjoy, and it really is a two way street. I have personally been on the receiving end of fantastic recomendations from not just guys here, but providers as well.
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In fact, on sevral very memorable occasions, a provider has said something like, “Rob, you would be a perfect match for my girlfriend.” Sometimes I will also get tips about another woman from a provider friend who has met her through a meeting a client arranged, such as a threesome date.
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I have also received recommendations from women who met other women at M&Gs or through other networking events. That said, I don’t want to imply that most recommendations come from women as that wouldn’t be accurate. 90% or more recommendations for providers come from other clients I know.

I do not. Mainly because I’m too paranoid to share my secret life with anyone I’m friends with irl. I do share with other mongers on TER. I have a few who I occasionally exchange messages with and we share.

That is my opinion exactly.  I will share with someone via PM on TER, but I don"t trust anyone that I know personally.  You never know when they will have one too many and tell someone who shouldnt have this info.

I run with a very small group of guys and when we do our guy trips to Vegas I’ll set them up. Because discretion is of the upmost importance to them, I’ll doing the match making or leg work.
But when we get home… nobody says shit. It’s Our lil secret

IDK if your buddies are married, if not you're probably good.  If they are married and someone gets divorced and if its a high value case, and, there is a nasty lawyer involved, there is a better than average chance this information will get out.

The best way to ensure that a secret stays secret, is to not share it.

And I trusted him explicitly. He didn't have the financial means to monger as much as I did, so he would live vicariously thru me and my stories. I did wind up helping him hook up with a hot blonde provider that I knew he would go crazy for. He surprised me by getting married for the first time at the age of 65 last year and he quit mongering for good after that. There are a few guys that I share stripclub adventures with, but I doubt they'll be another person IRL that I will share escort information with again.

So I’m not seeing a divorce anytime soon.
And so far, nobody has had their come to Jesus moment on their death bed , so fingers are crossed..🤣🤣🤣

I've found a few friends via TER. I've only met one in person so far but we meet for lunch regularly. So to be clear these are guys I did not know but for being members here. I'd never share with any other friends. I have no idea how they would react and who they would tell.  

I’m not sure how I would feel about that lol. One second we’re exchanging messages about who we have fucked for money and becoming Eskimo brothers. Then one day, someone decides to ask, “Want to grab a beer?” On the flip side, there is something alluring about the idea of having a secret friend who’s in it just like I am.

Sometimes I am not able to see someone due to scheduling conflicts, asking for something I don't offer, etc so I'll recommend one of my girlfriends who I think they would have a great time with.  I have met some gentlemen from friends referring me, so it works out well. Some of these connections have even resulted in duos once they realize how well we mesh.

We have some other common interests too lol.  

No...too much at risk to share the hobby with any of my circle of friends.....(Concerned that their wife, girl friend, or daughter may become exposed)  Plus---let them find their own---!

None of my real-life friends know of my proclivities.  However, much like HolyStoneTheDeck, I have made a couple of friends online through the Hobby.  This has spilled over into my real life and I now have a couple of golfing buddies and other activities.   And like Holy, it is nice to have someone to discuss all matters TER, women, etc.....

Maybe this is why I enjoy reviews so much. There is something restrained but intoxicating about being referred, a circle of trust and power that makes me a little weak in the knees if I’m being honest.

but who has the power?

Yes  indeed!

My ATF main squeeze has recommended several other companions to me over the years. Mostly women she had doubled with. Conversely, she has also warned me off of a couple of women that I expressed an interest in.  Who better to provide the advice and guidance?

Even when you’re made to think you do, it’s still hers.

It's an exchange. When my hands are bound, my mouth full, my eyes tearing up, it's hard to argue that I'm completely in control. No matter how much I may have wanted it, begged for it -- engineered it, even -- an essential reciprocation of trust has transpired.