am i thinking wrong about this?...how often,if ever,does a regular appt fuck-turn into REAL intense love making?....can clients&providers really become lovers??...do multiple toe-curling orgasms mean you're in love??...is that what we are looking 4?...just had local regular-use the "L" word and it caught me off guard...we have fun,but its hard too get to know someone 2-4 hrs at a time to become" lovers"...sooo..guys and gals...even with ur best hangs...love making or hot sex????..

Perhaps the provider feels like you have awesome energy or an amazing connection and that equates to making love.  Raw primal fucking can be making love too.  Hopefully, if professional, she is just catering to your investment.  Mwah.

And they sometimes transpose that love to the person who was the giver. I've been there.
It happens sometimes. Specially when you instantly like each other on the surface and then you have that sexual chemistry.

...calls it our own kind of love making and, while it certainly encompasses a lot of hot sex, I see her point -- there is some passion to it that goes beyond the "usual" hour's worth of client/provider time.

I suppose that some of us may view very intense, no holds barred, totally gratuitous, completely exhausting, previously unequalled, satisfying sex LOVEMAKING and I have no problem with that or the characterization......however I would note that  I still don't think I have had the best ORGASMS of my life, yet.......nexxxtttttttttttttt.
Suzee

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Diversify your emotional risk; see two other girls before seeing her again; and keep repeating this cycle. A good provider is selling a fantasy— and it’s easy to get sucked into the vortex. I know. Been there. Done that.

That is, that one little word can mean many different things.  You can be in love with a person. You can love chocolate chocolate chip ice cream. And everything in between.

I've met ladies where we both seemingly had an immediate affinity for each other, and the sexual chemistry was beyond belief. There was a certain level of intimacy that is on-par with displays of love...but at the end of the day, all parties remained realistic and kept emotions in check.  

EVERYTHING that happens during a paid session is part of a fantasy.  It can be intense, but not real love.  If you start dating her OTC on the outside, then the relationship is real and its possible to find real love together.  Until the girl says the magic words, "You're my boyfriend now, so you don't have to pay anymore."  whatever happens between the two of you is part of what you're paying for.  I agree it can often be intense, but intense sex does not automatically equate to love.  I have only gotten to this point with 6 out of 600+ providers.   Many of these 600+ where long term regulars that I would see off and on over a period of years and the sex was often intense.  Providers will often use the "L" word during a paid session for a variety of reasons, some good, some bad.   It could be because the sex was good, or because you tipped them, or merely that it is time for you to leave.  I wouldn't read too much into it during a paid session.    

With two girls I'm seeing the Sex is off the charts Awesome. Am I in Love with these two? Oh hell yeah. I spend some OTC time with each of them. With two others I'm seeing the Sex is great. But it's sort of like two good friends having Sex. Nothing more. I guess it depends on  the personalities and attitudes of  the girls and how things go moving forward.  

I agree with trex44. If the intellectual and chemistry connection is strong with a client I've seen at least several times, I do classify it as its own unique brand of love-making. Still, as is the consensus here, end of day this is not a culture of falling in love. If that happens, I'd expect it would change the nature of the relationship and shift it back to the civvie universe.

But of course, it isn't.   It's just real good sex.   Don't settle for less.

hookers. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH......

... that after seeing over 600 providers, you believe that "EVERYTHING that happens during a paid session is part of a fantasy."  I haven't seen anywhere close to 600, yet I know there's fantasy, of course, but also there's often (usually, in my experience) some very real stuff that happens during a session with a provider.  It could be (and often is, but not always) real O(s).  It could be real emotions and responses expressed.  It could be thoughts honestly expressed, without pretense.  Love, of whatever kind other than love of the physical acts?  That's much more rare.  And that's a good thing, because if a provider ever told me she's IN love with me, it would be the last time I'd see her.  I'm already in love with one woman, and although I can and do love many people, including some providers, I make it a habit to be IN love with only one woman at a time.  

..i prefer tiger balm...

Why not both? You can have both with a partner so why not with a SW? I definitely have and one is not better than the other - both are fucking amazing to be frank - and combined create great balance that sustains what you have. Have I ever ventured outside the veil to see if the chemistry we have transcends how we met? Sure...but always tread carefully...

...having both with a partner develops over time...there's often a clock ticking when with a provider...it takes a few times together to have it become more than just fucking...overnight/weekend hangs allow time to get comfortable..clock is still ticking,but at least i can hit snooze....how much time do you hang with ur favorite "friends"?/how often do you see them?-how often does it become more than just physical?

Both Hot SeX....and LUV..WITH Hot SEX

that happens, but its mostly physiological and not emotional.  She cums, you cum, the endorphin rush starts, which can often be confusing because those same things happen in a real life love relationship.  Ask your current favorite sometime after a session if she would consider waiving the fee because you have real love for her, and everything seemed so real to you emotionally.  If she says yes, then she loves you too.  If not, those feelings were part of the fantasy she created for you and she is good at her job.  Comfort level, friendship, honesty and trust are emotionally based, but not the same as love.  

and have such a powerful orgasm from love-making that is brought on by a full body presence, expression and acceptance.  Being in tune with our own bodies, the build up not just in the groin, but our mind can create full body pleasurable orgasm that blurs the lines of fantasy.  I have said "I love you".  And in the truest sense, I do.  But like Tartus said, it's fantasy.  I am not in love with you.  

ROGM`s post is spot on and I agree with his spin. I have two ATF`s that I see continuously for the past year and a half since getting in the hobby. For me it`s all about the connection and it`s there with both, big time. Friendship, bonding, affection, intimacy and sex. Not any one without all the others. They`re both like ripe fruit, sweet and delicious. Some days I want the apple and some days the orange.

... and see what happens.

HA!!!!..you get married!!!

As with any relationship money plays a factor in keeping it going. It's not the only factor. But it does play into a relationship to a certain degree.

Oh yeah, very true. If you have a nice car you have to put gas in the tank to get where you want to go right?

still struggling with this concept..is there a tipping point where sex becomes love making...ladies and gents in this hobby who have a real life relationship...is sex different with ur partner than with a hobby friend?...do you compare?...you make love or just fuck?...have you been with someone in the biz that gives you same feelings as ur partner?...is it just personal emotion?....my partner of 14 yrs passed from cancer..she was bi-i think we spent as many 3some weekends together as we did alone...no matter how hot the sex ,i never felt that i made love to another woman...