How important is the care and cultivation of regulars?  How do you keep them coming back for more?

I think that healthy mix of regulars and new clients at any given time is what makes us ladies feel safe on one hand and excited on another.  For me this mix is 80/20.


How we keep regulars coming back?  Better ask that fellow hobbyists with ATFs ))


Lina

By treating then with kindness and respect and on occasion, doing something special.

Flip side..if a guy who is a regular starts to demand this and that and take advantage of me, that's the time I wean them off and eventually stop seeing them.

why you are so well thought of.

By the way Sophie, sorry for all that slobbering I did last time.  I just read your post where you said you weren't a big fan of that!

My bad.

It is easier for me to retain my regulars than it is for me to get a new client to become a regular.


I have a connection with my regulars but the connection is not going to get out of control with boundaries being crossed.

I send my regulars birthday cards, get well cards if they are not feeling well, run specials for my regulars only, make them snacks, I already know exactly what they drink and exactly how to relax them. I know their favorite colors so when I go shopping for my sexy clothes it is them that I dress to impress.

My #1 ATF is a whole other story.....I take him to dinner....get the hotel room....and all that....but we are very aware of our boundaries....and have been for years.

I know what they like and dont like, I fake orgasms very well for them, mine are reliable.......but I cut them off if they ask for discounts or get weird on me, that's usually a small percentage.

Being SEXY has it's rewards. When you've got it, it shows.

Understanding needs and desires is rewarding and also opens the door to more.  

I come up with ways to give back to my friends so that they can afford to return as often as they like.

Some of my friends want to meet every week. I want them, too!!  So I do what I can to provide for their needs.
I take my time. I am genuine with my desire for my friends and that IMHO makes a difference. I also take my time to listen. Have conversations. Share. Sometimes it is not about positions in bed, it is about intimacy and companionship.

Or lunch. Or cuddling.

They come before any new person and many times myself. I do spend more time with them and they are and should be treated special. When you share so much of one another and don't hold back a deep friendship is born. This is not for everyone but for the gentlemen who are looking for more than the physical it is very comforting.

Kisses Haley

All you gotta do is put yourself somewhere near myself on a regular basis '

and I'll be as regular as you want me to be

and you already *know* that we get along '

muah

GTM

I hear you( a few for quite a long time)...mine definitely get the  royal treatment and these few guys are so incredibly respectful and would not dream of pushing the envelope.

It is very improtant.  I exchange emails and texts with my regulars.  We share things about our lives with each other.

I cook for many of my regulars.  We enjoy some play time.  Then we take a break for a nice meal that may or may not include a bottle of wine.  Then we adjorn to the love den for more play.  

I thoroughly enjoy my regulars and have been told that our encounters are the most passionate they have ever experienced.  Of course, I tell you this to brag just a little. Why not?  lol  Seriously though, my clients have told me this.  It's nice to hear.

So I guess beween having a nice meal and passionate sex, that's what keeps them coming back for more.  Plus I'm a really nice person.  My clients are lots of fun too.

Best, Betty xoxo

Not to be accused of being a shill, I'll speak generically and not identify the provider.

Generally, I reserve the term "ATF" for someone I've seen more than once. But I had a recent experience with a lady that qualifies as ATF by a country mile even on a single visit. (Which is good because she lives far enough away and my home situation is such that logistics are pretty tricky.)

Obviously, my tastes aren't mainstream in some respects; so the fact that certain attributes might make someone an ATF of mine doesn't mean it would work equally with other guys. In fact, it might scare the hell out of them; but that's okay as many ladies could find me scary too. (*grin*)

Here is what she did right in advance of the session:

1. She did not approach me with prurient garbage, porno pics or even anything sexual. She understood that my penis doesn't rule me -- my brain does. So she worked with the brain.

2. She got me interested in her first as an interesting person worthy of respect quite independently of whatever bedroom skills she might have.

3. She paid close attention to many aspects of who and what I am and even my minor likes and dislikes. She synthesized this into a psychological profile that; while necessarily incomplete; was pretty good as she used extrapolation and interpolation to fill in the blanks. I very strongly suspect she also did some independent research. Therefore --

4. Well before I laid eyes on her, she pretty much knew what made me tick; what would work -- and what wouldn't. The FBI should hire her to profile criminals.

I won't describe the session itself, but will describe some of the elements that made it incomparable:

1. Even though I know intellectually she is an actress, I couldn't tell. And I'm pretty damned sharp. This is the first case of a first meeting with a lady where I couldn't tell. I didn't have to "suspend disbelief."

2. In every respect, down to the most minute detail, the encounter was absolutely indistinguishable from a comparable civie encounter -- and I've had plenty of civie encounters with which to compare. Everything from genuine eye-contact to humorous conversation was dead-on perfect. Absolutely a woman I would normally ask out on a date.

3. Everything in the session was tailored to my specific desires including the banter and attitudes  -- but so transparently, that I had no specific awareness that any tailoring had occurred at all. It all could have been her natural state for all I knew. This made the session like the best of civie encounters.

4. Connections weren't just physical. They occurred at other levels as well -- activation was pretty much across the board at an emotional, intellectual and physical level. I felt like we were making love rather than having sex. The only thing left out -- was the spiritual dimension accessible only to committed monogamous couples.

5. And, like the best of civie encounters, she brought out the best in me.

No, I'm not infatuated and LG won't be hearing from me. LOL

But I can most certainly recognize and respect an artisan who is an absolute master of her craft.

In fact, the only encounters I have ever had that were better were with my wife, back when she could make love. But this is not surprising as I discovered that the provider and my wife have certain unexpected things in common.

The only trouble with ladies like this is how high they raise the bar for others.

I am always myself and very friendly, my regulars can call me just to chat and i do not have them on the clock and im flexible with $ when times are rough. It is all about being caring and considerate for people you meet. Oh yea and maybe an awesome sexy time too lol

if shed alight on me now and again I'd be happy '

Regulars were the foundation of my early business and entrance into the hobby. Later, regulars became the men I depended on to support my financial needs-  now my regulars are the friends I meet with on occasion when I decide to play in wonderful exotic places.

Regulars have always been the most important aspect of my client base. Even before I retired, I would have a week or two set aside each month that I would cater specifically to the regulars who supported me.

In answer to what I did to encourage a gentleman to position me as his ATF-  I would be flexible and accommodating and always leave him walking away feeling like I had exceeded his expectations. For many of my regulars, accommodating the unexpected and understanding specific needs became a benchmark to the service they expected.  I cultivated friendships that were built on respect and flexibility, on both of our parts in addition to meeting the demands of a gentleman's ever changing needs and schedule. These friendships remain with me even after having retired as an exciting walk on the wild side when I want to escape my routine schedule these days.