when i am soft . or just not super hard ...  it's tough to keep from cumming  when getting a hand job..  but when i am super hard i am go for as long as i want.    

I don't experience the same thing.

more than ten minutes KNOW that if you are not hard enough for penetration at a reasonable point into the session, they will make a conscious decision to get you off with a more aggressive hand job than they use for the earlier foreplay.  The reasons for this are 1) If you are still not aroused enough for penetration after BBBJ and hand-stroking, waiting longer is not going to improve the situation, especially after the cover goes on for fucking, and 2) they want to save you the embarrassment of trying and failing to enter their pussy with a hard member.  

 
The solution to occasional failure to harden is to get the 20mg size of generic sildenafil.  They are dirt cheap compared to the Viagra brand but are exactly the same drug.  Start with 2 tablets and see how it goes.  You can increase the dosage each time up to a total of 5 pills.  (100mg total)  

 
If you are still having problems, see a urologist and get the trimix injectable cure.  Start where you doc tells you, then you can experiment with the dosage until you find the duration of time for a rock-hard boner that fulfills your needs.  

 
BTW, if your failure to get hard is at all psychological, trimix doesn't care what is going on in your brain.  The right does will keep you hard for one to two hours if that's what you like.  Longer than that is not advisable unless you have been kidnapped by a bus load of college cheerleaders that want to gang bang you.  Lol    (The ONLY downside is that you have to be willing to stick a very small baby syringe into the side of your dick to deliver the medication.)  

Ouch CDL...
Reading your post will make any dick go soft....for a week.....   LOL

Your eyes may water a little the first time (Lol), but after a couple of tries, you'll know what to expect and it's easier to take a breath and man-up.  It's a similar sized needle to what diabetics use, about 3/8's of an inch.  It's so thin, you will wonder how it could possibly be thin enough to get the medicine delivered.  

 
I will admit it's my LEAST-favorite way to enjoy better fucking through chemistry, so I usually limit the use to a one or two times a month for doubles sessions.  I have a friend that uses it four or five times a week.  Don't like to think about what that would feel like.  

 
If you have any doubts, try it once.   Read my post, which will make you go soft, and then shoot up and see what happens.  Lol         You can only get it from a compounding pharmacy, so a urologist can set you up with the right strength.

i see my message could be easily misunderstood.  

i have no problems getting hard most of the time ... but not always ...  issue is .. When i am HARD i can LAST a long time ... if i am soft and getting a HJ i find it tough to NOT pop quickly ..    weird huh ..  just a quirk i guess .. fortunately between cock rings and Viagra i am hard and can go for as long as i want   ... in fact as i type this about to hit my regular lady shortly  he he he he he

Hey. High five. They don’t care. You do you bro. I’m getting older it’s life.

maybe your brain is just psyched out about being 'nevertoolarge' and you should try a new handle like 'nevertoosmall' cuz it might be all in your head.........
It's late and i couldn't resist