One lady I used to see a lot would spend a good half of the session talking about her boyfriend; and when she wasn't doing that, she'd ask all about my wife. Her absolute favorite two topics in the whole world. LOL (Why in the world would I make that up?)
Initially, I didn't understand it and it made no sense to me. It wasn't particularly problematic but it certainly seemed odd.
Eventually, I understood why she was doing this and it didn't seem so odd at all.
She and I are and were partners in crime to a certain extent.
LOL
I hate when I get asked if I have a boyfriend, I do not want to lie, and when I do answer truthfully, then it starts in with more questions or conversation leads to that person...
I want them to realize the session is all about them, no need to ask about other men! lol
I don't live in a fantasy world.
If the lady wants to talk about her boyfriend, that's fine. I certainly don't ask -- but if she tells, well, that's okay.
I understand what I'm doing, why I'm doing it, and why I am doing it with *her*. If she asks me about my wife -- that's fine. My wife's an extraordinary woman.
I mean, maybe I would rather not pay $7/minute for such discussion; of course. But the lady in this case routinely extended the sessions to make up that time so it wasn't a big deal.
I genuinely think guys come to see P4P providers to get away from their daily life, and stress! A escape, a fantasy, to feel single again! Even if just for a hour or two!
I would think the last thing they want to do is discuss their wives, or life, the main thing that they are trying to escape from for a little while, or take a break from... they have to talk about during their fantasy time...
That is just me?
I think you have a good handle on what most men would prefer.
I guess where I differed in this case is that, as I said, she and I were/are sort of partners in crime and that gives her a far wider range of tolerance than might be given to someone I didn't know.
In essence, because of that, it didn't really matter. Plus the fact I'm not a very fantasy-land kind of guy.
I'm like John, I'm not much of a fantasy land kind of guy. Like him, I know what I'm doing and why I'm doing it. My daily life is great, and I don't need a break from it. I just get this strange urge to have sex with a beautiful lady every now and then. 
But I get the impression that I may be in the minority, because I constantly see comments about what a turnoff it is to hear providers talk about kids and things like that. Anyway, I tend to listen to the ladies instead of revealing too much about myself. A little paranoia never hurt anyone.
No too much, she is in a business, after all. As long as it is not too long or distracting, makes it feel even more illicit, not a bad thing...
Providers talk to me about everything. Kids, ex husbands, boyfriends. Since I'm not looking for a girlfriend I don't mind, but I can understand that the guys that have to feel like they're the center of her universe may not like it. Personally I think it's interesting to hear what the ladies have to say. I like it better if they are themselves than if they try to act like what they think I want them to be.
and that is when the provider gives out too much information about other clients or talks bad about them.
ooooh I cant imagine talking about other clients with another client..... tacky
and unthoughtful, given that a part of the donation is going to an environment conducive to the "GFE illusion"
UNLESS
I am on a sufficiently friendly basis with her that we are in the habit of talking about our lives, in which case, it should be expected that the discussion may touch on the subject of other women on my part and other gentlemen on hers.....
If she's doing it to arouse me ("he bent me over a table in front of every one at the party and started fucking me"), it's okay, otherwise I don't want to hear about it
tell them to stop? lol
I think that could be better phrased as "I have this fantasy to be bent over and fucked in front of everyone at a party once... would you wanna do something like that with me? How about we practice it right now" lol
That seems more hot and sexy and a turn on lol
It's a turn-off to me. I don't want to hear about boyfriends. Some stories about other clients isn't that big of deal. I just like to be the center of attention when Im buying time.
I don't want to hear about other women, unless they're complimenting them, and I'm sure they don't want to hear about other men. I also don't want to hear about providers who bash other providers they don't know. If they're saying negative things about a lady, then don't you think that perhaps "they" are the gossipers.
I've heard a lot of that lately, and I think those that do it must be desperate for business and have very low self esteem issues. Be careful, guys! Some ladies who you think are very sweet and caring are spreading nasty rumors like wildfires.
You don't know who you can trust in this business so it's best to STFU (and I mean that in the nicest way).
Hugs,
Ciara
if she wants to talk about her girl friend, and how hot she is, and ask if she can invite her for a threesome, I'm all for it
That's the fucking WIFE experience.
Why would this happen when seeing a gentleman?If I was a man I would be totally turned-off.He is a client not the providers girlfriend having girl talk.I had a gentleman start talking about a fellow hobbyist to me and he started really getting into it I advised him he is here to see me not the hobbyist he's so intent on discussing.Or bashing other providers not cool.Now the only thing I will add about another provider is who I think is hot if I'm asked by the gentleman.No talk of guys it's not classy.
Don't want to know about him or her and this or that if there's drama attached to it. If I were visiting as a friend and she needs an ear, sure, I would give her my perspective. Some people talk too much, tell too much. I've had to say very nicely of course, STFU!
others BFs, GFs, families during a session. It's gossip... never know but can get nasty & you're not giving the client full attention. I really don't want to hear about anybody's love life... I want to focus on my own.
It takes dicipline to avoid topics that should not be shared... I avoid places where this happens, I don't want to be the topic with her NEXT client. Who knows what personal information of mine she'll blab & if the next client might somehow recognize an identifier.
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Some of these ladies have thugs as BFs.
When she tells me about her BF being mean to her, not working or not treating her like a lady, I take care of him for her, AKA 3 meals and a cot.
If she is talking about her BF there is a good chance she wants you to call crimestoppers on him ,and save her from more torment.
I was on an overnight with one of my favorites, we were comparing notes about things that worked, things that didn't and things that curled our toes. That was cool, but we know each other pretty well.
I was with one lady recently who mentioned her jealous husband just returned from Iraq, that sort of killed the mood, thinking about what I just did to the possession of a crazed trained killer. I wrapped that session up very quickly, and changed rooms after she left.
It removes the illusion of client as the main focus of the session, when you have other clients in the discussion.
