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Re: Provider Alias?
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If she does have it figured out she can not post it here due to it possibly being a banning offense.

Based on some recent comments, I went back and reread a few of my own older posts, along with a bunch of threads on the general board, just paying attention to how providers are responded to when they engage. I wasn’t looking to prove anything, just to notice patterns.

 
And one thing stood out. We often hear that people wish there were more providers engaging on the boards. That providers might post on their local boards but don’t really engage on the general board. While I do see an uptick in provider engagement and I think that's great, looking through past threads, part of the reason seems to be a pattern that keeps repeating.

 
When a provider shows up and speaks calmly, tries to explain why something might be happening, and doesn’t soften herself or ask for permission, that combination can get read as condescending, even when it isn’t meant that way.

 
What usually happens next is familiar. The discussion shifts away from the topic and onto tone. Sarcasm creeps in. Then the exchange fizzles out. Not because the provider was unclear, but because she didn’t yield.

 
A few patterns of interaction I’ve noticed across threads amongst everyone:
• A lot of replies aren’t really about figuring something out together. They’re about signaling experience or seniority. When someone calmly reframes the discussion, it can feel less like disagreement and more like someone rearranging the room.
•  When substance gets uncomfortable, tone policing becomes the focus, specifically targeted at providers. Those don’t move the conversation forward. They end it.
• There’s also a difference in how disrespect shows up. Clients are often pretty overt with each other. Blunt, snarky, often outright insulting. That’s just accepted as part of board culture. But when that same edge gets directed at providers, it tends to go covert. Little digs. Sarcasm. “Just joking.” “Didn’t mean it that way.” It stays subtle enough to be deniable, but it still lands. Over time, that wears on people, even when no single comment seems like a big deal.
•  The “public forum” idea also gets used selectively. It’s a public forum when people want freedom to speak, but suddenly less so when a reply wasn’t expected.
•  It’s also worth remembering that TER isn’t just an info site. It’s an identity space too. A lot of men come here to reinforce that they’re savvy and not getting played. When a provider adds context that complicates that story, it can land badly even if it’s offered respectfully.
•  And finally, authority gets read differently depending on who’s speaking. A client sharing his take is seen as experience. A provider laying something out clearly is more likely to be read as talking down, even when the tone is neutral.

 
I get why some providers choose to keep things very surface-level or performative. That’s often what gets rewarded here. And I don’t blame anyone for playing it that way if it makes participation easier. But if the goal is more provider engagement, there has to be room for nuance without assuming every critique or reframing is disrespectful.  

 
We’re all adults. We can handle nuance without assuming disagreement is disrespect.
Just something I noticed.

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Re: Best post ever.   eom
Ditto, +1 and I agree wholeheartedly!!!

Paige-  One thing I'd add to your well thought out and well written post is.... that these Snarky men frequently put the women down because they're writing a threAD.  

For many of the reasons you point out I rarely participate on the Boatd because it's become so toxic.    

Thank you Paige!

Maybe some of us aren’t adults.  

In my case I find that sometimes a break is necessary when the boards get too confrontational. I find the posts of certain clients depressing and some downright insulting to be honest.  While I am tempted to engage at times I have found that it just tends to drain my energy and reduces my positivity.  I respect those who take the time to respond with wisdom and dignity but I am less inclined to do so myself recently.  

 
While I have always enjoyed the social interaction on the general boards I will admit that I am cognitive of the fact that my behavior is still a reflection of the image I am presenting as a provider.  So I try to stick to the old rule about not saying anything when you have nothing nice to say.  

and there have been frequent complaints that providers are being driven away. But that didn't stop anybody and it probably won't now.
To me, the main thing that's changed is it's much pettier now and there's less useful information.

it's that the discussions quickly devolve into nit-picking, back-biting and pettiness.

I blocked a couple of contributors on this board because they are angry trolls, but they also trained special viciousness on providers who dared enter this space. They are not alone, sadly.  

 
I have met several providers who avoid TER discussion boards like cats avoid water, and I can't blame them.  As you said, it sometimes takes no more than a couple of posts for a discussion of topic X to turn not only to criticism of those ladies who dare to voice an opinion, but also to contradicting and disputing a provider even when the original question was in the vein of "What do providers think about something, what do they do in certain situations", etc.

 
My hat's off to the intrepid ladies who venture here and I'll do what I can to be supportive.

You are 100% correct.  But we also need to take into consideration just how much the industry has changed since the inception of TER in the late 1990s. Criminalization was more focused on the providers, although a "John" might have been snagged once in awhile. Screening for safety was unheard of and murdered sex workers was not that uncommon. Because, let's be honest, sex workers were seen as less than human by most of society. We now see the shift to clients being the focus of the criminalization vs. the providers. And yes, I have heard some clients grumble they "lost the upper hand" when it comes to provider/client interactions. The vast majority of providers now require screening information, condom usage, and many also require deposits. When I started in sex work years ago I for sure was worried about the person responding to my ads if they were LE. This is something that does not even cross my mind anymore. I choose my clients now on safety and compatibility, not just if I am for sure they are not a cop. I am sure that many clients worry about being arrested in a sting as well as the huge amount of scams that are out there. No consenting adults should be criminalized in a consensual transaction, but unfortunately that is something we still have to deal with in the US.  Many providers jumped ship when the industry shifted and they knew they no longer needed the reviews to be successful. Many felt the reviews were degrading and did not want the super specific details of their bodies and sexuality posted all over the internet. I am 45 now. I never thought I would still be a sex worker at this age but plan to retire in another 5 years or so. Where will the industry be then? Where will this site be then? The answer is I don't know. I don't know if anyone does at this point.

I agree with everything that you wrote! Thank you!

Waiting for the inevitable negative responses to this. I'm guessing the first is a blanket disregard to anything typed due to a grammatical error, followed by pictures of Ahnald

Plus some of the guys who stick up for ladies are branded "white knights" and "simps".

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Are providers able to use an "alias"?  
I'm asking because I don't know (before the nits rain in)

Maybe that's a way for providers to partipate without some of the usual nits rip ping into anything that is posted.

They probably can, but what would be the point? Just so you guys know it is very easy to tell whose alias belongs to who. You are not fooling anyone. lol  
Providers also post and engage here for business. I have lots of clients that read my posts and then I get an email saying "I saw your post on TER and want to ask you a question! That was a great comment you said, I agree with you!" If I posted from an alias my regulars (or new clients that want to get  feel for my personality) would not know it was me unless I told them, so it would be completely counter intuitive. Do I find some of the guys (and gals!!) that post here entertaining and/or educational? Yes, for sure. But I also know a lot of my regulars read my comments and appreciate my candor. In the end though this is business. If providers do not feel like they need to post here on the boards or have reviews here to be successful as a provider they are not going to bother. That is really it in a nutshell.

If the provider wanted to convey an opinion or make a statement but didn't want any blowback personally, why WOULDN'T she use an alias to do it?  Have you figured out my alias yes being it's so easy?

If she does have it figured out she can not post it here due to it possibly being a banning offense.

I would never out anyone, fyi. Not even about being banned from this site. I would never out anyone because I am not a shitty person.

That wasn't the point, it was more of her saying it was so easy to figure out "our alias's" and thought I'd give her a good test because I haven't used it more than 2 or 3 times in forever.  Trying to figure out if she's now a "mentalist" that can just figure this stuff out.

You seem to have forgotten who you are conversing with my dear.  LOL  
I know all of the guy's alias's that post here. And no, I would never out anyone. Even the ones that can be giant roundheads. I am true to my word.  
Providers should not have to take any "blowback". That is why so few of us even post here, alias or not.

Give me the first, fourth and last letter of my alias and I will link a photo of a $400 donation to the local Christmas for Kids in your name.

LOL  
Nope. Nice try though dragging the kids into it!  
As I stated I am a provider true to my word.

Sorry, only one L and no "O"s.  Thought maybe you were banging a mod and had access to the secret details and it would cost me $400.  Glad that's not the case so I'll put it back into play.  

 
We'll just chalk it up to yet one more thing that you've said that isn't true.  You don't know all of the aliases.  

Oh boy, here we go again.

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LMAO are you serious? This is exactly the kind of crap the ladies are talking about in this thread. You even acknowledged that it is hard for providers on this forum in this thread. Does this kind of childish crap make it harder or easier for providers? If a provider read this exchange, would they be encouraged or discouraged from posting here? I don’t understand why a handful of guys take so much pleasure out of trolling the handful of providers that regularly post here. It’s not funny or entertaining, just immature.

Is even worse when it starts with trying to bait somebody  into doing something  that could get a poster banned.  In this case said poster is too savy for that.

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Who I'm starting to think isn't so much a neurospicy dude (those are often WAY more consistent/patterned in their thought processes and oddly, more self aware) but rather a run-of-the-mill contrarian narcissist.🤷🏻‍♀️ But I'm certainly not a professional... of the sort to diagnose these things anyway. Just making observations...

That wasn't bait, it was a challenge.  There's only one motherfucker that I've ever wanted banned from these boards and as far as I know he's still around.  He's a fucking predator that preys on those that are vulnerable.  You know him.

 
Scarlet loves to make great claims that simply aren't true.   She has chosen to take things wildly out of context and attack me so I've decided I would at least keep her honest.  When she lays down untruths, I correct her.  I didn't start this pissing match.

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You didn’t start it? Objectively false, you’re the one who replied to her! Also, that’s a very childish and immature response. Anyway, see you on another thread.

This goes back several months.  See you soon, I'm sure.

I don't treat a woman any different than I would treat a man that intentionally makes outrageous claims to bolster their argument.  She takes great issue when proven wrong but yet continues with the gaslighting.  

 
Whether or not you're amused or entertained matters not to me.  

Ug. OK, let me spell this out for you again. I have a total of *ZERO* issues when "proven" wrong. You target several individuals here on this board constantly to "prove" they are wrong. Everyday. Constantly. You troll the boards to find anything these people post so you can antagonize and "prove" them wrong.  I am here to have adult conversations. I am not here to "prove" I am right or to gaslight anyone. And yes, as Eva accurately pointed out it is childish and getting very, very old. How about in 2026 you just focus on treating all men AND women that post here with respect. That is something I think everyone can do together in the New Year.

Give it a rest man. Yes, you're entitled to post what you want and we're permitted to ignore them.  But it feels like you take up so much space and oxygen that each thread in which you involve yourself gets diverted to some schoolyard slap fight between you and another poster. In this case, as others have pointed out, you're demonstrating in real time and in vivid technicolor why some ladies avoid this board.  

It's not all about you man.

I frequent Las Vegas and the escorting Industry has changed. We have more Massage Parlors and Asian Agencies with much better prices/services that talking with a regular provider that's old and charging $500-700 for a non-GFE session is a non starter. We have nothing to talk about.
The competition has started to shift and the old standby escorts with the VIP label and GPS are just not that popular any longer.
So for me I'm not missing anything by them not participating in the forums because we are not seeing eye to eye anyway.

I think many of us don’t want to participate in drama which is what some of these posts become. The other thing is you don’t get any notifications on these posts so if someone posts and then leaves they probably forget where they left off. I know I have that issue when I comment on something and then I return to the after day and forget where I last commented.

I have the same issue trying to remember where I commented in order to see responses and follow up. It's annoying.  

 
It would be nice to get notified when someone likes or replies to one of your posts.

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just hit MyTER and then navigate over to My Board Posts to see what you've been saying and check the post to see if anyone commented.

So far, the board trolls have not come out on this very well conceived OP.  Personally, a lot of times these boards just seem crazy to me, given the "identities" conveyed in the posts.  Here is the second question:

How much does your clientele seem like the personalities conveyed here?  My own answer, after reading these boards, is that it must be really scary to be a provider.

I've never spent time with anyone who conducted themselves the way certain personalities here do... because I'd walk out, or call security if he chose not to leave when asked.
 
I'd never *willingly* meet with a few of these personalities. But I have to acknowledge that it's entirely possible a guy could air out his ugliness here yet still submit to and pass screening/deposit, and that I could have a great time with the wonderful side of him without any idea that he's one of the asshats who only engage in rage baiting, logical fallacies, misogyny and arrogance here.
   
At the end of the day, he can be as big a jerk as he wants online as long as I know nothing about that connection and he treats me with kindness and respect while we're communicating/together. Yeah, I'd totally kick myself if I found out after the fact that I'd shagged certain folks, but the relevance of real life, enjoyable experiences trumps the issue of self-fellating keyboard assholios.

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That sums it up perfectly. I even warn other ladies that they need a very thick skin to post anything on this board.

because there has always been guys that have no respect for women and go out of their way to refer to them in the most vile ways.  I can't speak for other regional boards but will assume there are similarities but there was a day when MPLS had local mods that were able to flush out the bad actors.  It took time but it worked.  

What an eloquent observation Paige.  As some other posters have said, many times the discussion rapidly devolves into name calling and who is trying to prove they know more, along with the inevitable trolling and stalking accusations.

One thing I have noticed is that so many of the posts are from the more mature (age-wise) ladies.  I have seen very few posts by ladies in the younger age brackets, at least here or on the NY Board.  You seem to be one of the few.  I wonder if it because the younger ladies are fixated with their phones and social media, some of which I have experienced in person.   Or perhaps the culture and attitudes in that age group has changed to the point where they do not feel it necessary to engage except to arrange meetings.

Message boards in general are from an earlier era of the Internet, when things were much more textbased and less visual. And the entire tree based, top down, hidden sub menu structure doesn’t make a ton of sense to younger folks who are accustomed to multimedia based, algorithm driven platforms like TikTok.

So I think TER feels familiar enough to be accessible mostly for those of us who were already using the Internet when it was founded.

I rarely engage on here or the regional board in Phoenix because most of the threads I have read have pretty negative and I try to stay in a positive space and light. But I really enjoyed reading your post this was very enlightening honest and true. Thanks for posting.

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On the one hand, I think part of what you are describing isn’t unique to TER, but is part of Internet Culture. If you log into twitter or reddit you’re going to find plenty of combative people who fail to pick up on nuance. People want to speak freely while being able to block out voices they don’t want to hear. Tone policing is rampant across social media as well. Misogyny is also rampant across multiple social media platforms. In that sense, TER is not unique. I’m sure it attracts and concentrates certain toxic personality traits compared to other spaces but I wouldn’t call it unique.
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I think what makes this place, and other boards, different from Social Media is that, as Paige says, this is an identity space for clients. Most clients can’t openly talk about this whole endeavor in many places. Boards are the only place where clients can share information and vent. Sometimes the provider POV can get in the way of that. From a client’s POV, it can definitely get frustrating when a client complains or vents about an industry practice only for a provider to come in and defend that practice. I’ve also noticed that some clients get annoyed by a provider trying to promote themselves as well. However, providers are only going to post here if it gets them business.

What always bugs me is when there is this emphasis on client vs provider when I would appreciate celebrating our commonalities. We are part of this crazy business together and I know that I enjoy swapping stories and being part of this community, not just from the perspective of selling services.  I may or may not be unique but I don’t share this part of my life with many people, so sometimes I like to connect with others who can relate.  I’m sure there will be someone who will challenge me on this, but I have always chosen this as a side gig because I was actually enjoying myself for the most part.  The vast majority of my clients have been awesome and I believe that the members of the boards likely are similar, with a few exceptions that unfortunately often set the tone for all.

Well said.  I don't talk to anyone in my life about my extracurriculars, and it's nice to have a community with other like-minded individuals on both sides of the business.  I'm naturally curious and love learning new things about this shared experience from both perspectives.  For me, it took a long time to open up, out of fear of documenting my "transgressions".  But I've been working on moving past that and feeling more at home here.  It's nice to hear both sides of the story, and I hope more providers can find it a safe place to engage, share thoughts, and have healthy disagreements.  Sometimes the anonymity of the internet makes it too easy to be an asshole.  I'll try not to engage and take the bait.

Well, for starters, we got loose lipped OCD old guys like Snafu, who like to use this place to vent due to their lifes shortcomings. This type of incessant goofy posting directing negative vibes to the providers isnt a good look at all.  

So when you wonder why many providers dont continue to post here, thank your boy Snaf for that one.

These obviously will be my thoughts and my thoughts only.  

I view this forum (general discussion) as a place where everyone - from clients to providers - talks about any topic in the hobby. We discuss things, argue things and converse about things. Disagreement, critique and back and forth are inevitable just like in any online community and/or culture.  

 
The type of tone is typically dictated by the mods and community in these kind of forums. Ie, if you conversed at four chan a decade ago the tone there would be a lot more different than tone used by a College professsor.  

The mods are fairly laissez faire here, so yeah.  

 
Now, this forum is for all of those things but one thing that it's not for is ads. It says so in the rules, and I'm a big supporter of that. I'm here to shoot shit, not hear or see an ad or someone trying to get noticed. Thankfully it's not too common but it's also not rare. Some will make a comment about threAD but typically posts don't get removed. So to me that's one part that is a nono. Typically Id treat those posts like I'd treat Google ads on a non ad blocker environment. Scroll through them. But when someone keeps doing those ads I stop trying to read their posts, we are supposed to be here to talk to each other and shoot shit, not get ads or matchmaking. There are dedicated forums and places for ads.  

 
It's like chopping it up on a fridge lovers forum only to have some manufacturer to keep posting pics of them and their fridge in every other post. Eventually I see no reason to converse with them if they manage to turn every post to essentially "buy my fridge it's the best, ya heard? Here's the link in case you forgot my site". I don't want to buy your fridge and I don't want to visit your site. I want to talk anonymously online about fridges, fridge prices, fridge marketing techniques, etc. And I feel that's a fair take.  

 

The general discussion forum isnt a "dear abby", column, nor is it a "providers perspective of things". It's more of a clients and providers just talking about topics. The ratio does not matter that much. We're not in a club. Yes, typically provider perspectives are interesting and always welcome; sometimes they are not relevant to review consumers, sometimes they are more than relevant.

 
But I don't see it as a goal to have some kind of speicifc engagement. You engage if you want to, just like if you'd talk to your acquaintances. If you don't then you don't. I dont think anyone deserves to be disrespected for entering or not entering discussion, but also I don't see any quota requirements. It's great for providers to have a voice and anyone online should have one. Now, this particular site is geared towards more of a  customer voice when evaluating the services, but hearing the sellers perspective is also great. But if  providers don't want to interact with the forum because of some critique or a prolonged argument, well, the solution shouldn't be to eliminate critique or prolonged arguments, should it? What I'm saying is, I'm sure engagement would go up with a more sterile discussion, but would a sterile discussion be worth it?  

 

 
Let's talk about next part. I'm a firm believer in no double standards. Hence, treating both clients and sellers the same way you'd want to be treated yourself. This is indeed a two way business
This means everyone's time is equally important, everyone's safety and security is EQUALLY important. This is one rule I abide by. If I see someone who will not criticize a provider only because it's not a "gentleman" thing to do, on a review site no less, I will call them out. It makes no sense. If someone calls subset of mongers "stupid", but can't do the same for providers then we have a problem. Both clients and providers do bad things, both sides aren't immune from criticism. Both are human beings with feelings. Respect goes both ways.  As does criticism. I don't think anyone should get slack cut because of their gender or their profession.  

 

I don't think there's anything bad about disagreeing with others and criticizing their viewpoint. It's a natural part of conversation and argument. As someone who is extremely argumentative and - admittedly - often combative, I generally get stuck at this part for a bit. However when someone starts to get personal or use fallacies of appeal to majority or appeal to authority, they do themselves no favors.  

 
Last but not least, let's address the "clients vs providers " thing. Here we need to be clear. Clients are either paid or prospective customers, for sellers in any biz their goal is to sell and advertise their product/service. A seller will rarely say or admit things that might be detrimental to their bottom line. For example, a seller that requires deposits will typically almost never say "don't pay deposits" to anyone even if it's the right thing to say to someone who wants to eliminate all risk.  

So yes, there is a certain bias here and incentive for providers to favor practices that they themselves favor, not think what's best for the client or a subset of clients. So already client best interest and sellers interest diverge. As a customer, I'm not interested in whats best for the seller. I'm only interested what is best for the buyer. I don't care how many fridges you sell or if you don't sell any. That's the reality. But for the seller, I expect you to at least to pretend to care about my wants and needs. After all, I'm the paying customer.  

 

There are many instances in which selers input, while good, is irrelevant to the buyer/reviewer.  
As a seller, the last thing you want to do is to tell a client  "you think you do but you don't".  

The moment I tell the fridge seller I don't want a device that requires an internet connection - it's a fridge after all - and then the fridge seller tries to argue with me that I don't know what I want or that I'm wrong in wanting what I want, I view it as insulting to my intelligence.  
On the flip side, it's in the fridge sellers best interest that people don't criticize the smart fridges publicly, because it can hurt their sales. Yet it's in the client's best interest to know what information is sent by your fridge to the server and how that can be detrimental to your privacy or how maybe the company can shut off your device for any reason they want to. And I want a device if bought I can repair myself or even upgrade the firmware myself.  

 
Anyway, you should get the point. The point is while clients and sellers have equal footing to engage in a discussion, sellers especially have a vested interest here and a certain incentive and bias. Clients on here don't have this incentive. We also don't have any incentive to post for "engagement" as the endgoal to show ourselves or our goods. Clients on here post without ulterior motives. So when the discussion comes around as to what's best for the clients, I would think the clients would know best what's best for them, not a seller who typically has an interest at stake.  Also, truth and quantative analysis >>>> perception and fluff.

 
Also one more thing. If someone disagrees with you and your post, your response shouldn't be "you are trying to win the argument" or get personal, I think this is when many of the arguments start going south. It's not really about "winning" the argument or anything. It's about recognizing points and arguing for and against them.

 
Just my two (long) cents. Cheers.

Maybe it is or it is not .
That being said the purpose should not be to take  shots at most every post by a provider , her stand on  issues, or her standing in the community.  
By the way did not read your complete post as got bored.

I haven't noticed too many shots at providers or their standing in the community. We discuss many issues on here and many times the providers are talked to in a tone they might not like, but not dissimilar how us clients address other clients. Aside from maybe few exceptions I haven't seen clients stalk providers. I also think if a community revolves around reviews and someone doesnt like reviews, well it logically follows that they're kinda anti community... and there's nothing wrong with saying that imo.  

 

As far as you not reading the complete post, well of course it's up to you, but it's somewhat ironic to say so in a topic on engagement.

I just made a post about this happening to me RIGHT NOW. This should NEVER happen. Once again it looks like the entire point being discussed here went right over your head.

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If you want people to read your posts you should make them more concise and less verbose.
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Your original question was "is provider engagement the endgoal of this forum?" I don't know if it is the end goal, but it is definitely a goal. Let's take a look around real quick. This forum has a providers only board. This forum has a photo's only board, for providers to post their pictures. This forum has a "buzz" board for provider's to post their ad. There are a number of clients who say, in this thread and in other threads, that they want more provider participation. Based on that information it is pretty clear that both the operators and users of this site want providers to participate and engage in the forum. Do you disagree with that observation?

I dont see anywhere that it requires provider engagement.
So yes, I disagree with your "observation".

This thread essentially boils down to "engage in a way we want    you to if you want provider engagement"

And I say, from my point of view, for those who don't really care or think this forum requires provider engagement , why should one change their engagement just for that payoff? If it's a payoff at all?  

 

How about this. We engage they way we do on these forums, and if providers want to engage, great. If they don't, fine. I don't see it as a goal of the forum. As long as we're within the confines of the rules and moderation, it's all good to me.

 
As far as not reading my posts, I dont care whether people read them or not. I just find it's ironic because we're talking about engagement and here it is again "engage a certain way we want you to engage or else". Or else what? You will go out of your way to tell me you didn't read my posts while you're also replying to them ? I mean, sure. Lol.

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First thing, this is just your personal opinion. I’d also be willing to bet that many clients, if not most, do not share your opinion.  
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Also, this is an instance of your actions don’t match your words. If you don’t care about provider engagement, why do you constantly try to engage with them? You recently created a post asking why having a lot of reviews were a bad thing. You were also asking providers why they might charge more for a threesome. Here you are responding to a post written by a provider. I mean if you didn’t care about provider input, wouldn’t you just ignore them, or at least not ask them so many questions?
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Finally, if you don’t care about people writing your posts, then why do you post so frequently? If you didn’t care, you wouldn’t be posting on the board. You’d just be reading and writing reviews, like a majority of TER members.  
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See you on the next thread.

Of course it's my personal opinion, hence me prefacing my post with its my thoughts only.

 
I engage with anyone on this board if there's a topic to discuss. I didn't say I don't want to engage with them, I said it's not a goal to improve provider engagement.  

I didn't say I don't care for provider input. I said I don't care whether or not they engage here. There's a big difference here. Im talking to whoever is here. Even if there's no one left to talk to here, I will still post.  

I responded to this topic because I felt like responding to it. What's so wrong about it? If this topic was written by a client I would still reply the same. I don't get your point.  

 
"Finally, if you don’t care about people writing your posts, then why do you post so frequently?"

Do you mean reading my posts? I post because I feel like engaging in discussion. I engage in a way I engage, and if you don't want to engage in a discussion with me, that's fine. I don't need an audience. I post what I feel and then talk about it.  

 
But to keep replying to me and saying you didn't read my posts is actually an instance of words not matching actions or just being rude on purpose.

Like I've said, treat others how you want to be treated.

1. 99% of providers/clients have no interest whatsoever reading the twitter-like debates often about nonsense with no redeeming qualities (IMO)
2. TER has been infected by the social media culture where total strangers battle back and forth without ever coming to anything remotely resembling an understanding.
3. TER, for better or worse was a place where men read other men's experiences before booking a provider.  
4. TER boards are nothing more than another one of those pointless dung heaps like Instagram, X, FB, etc…
5. 99% of those that don't hang out here don't need to know that MommaBia is an AMAZING single mom. Hurray for her.
6 If this isn't already obvious Big Bad Scarlet is an expert on any subject here, henceforth why should you ever have these childish debates. Just ask Scarlet and move on.  
7. Adios, au revoir, and bye.
8. Oh if Scarlet disagrees with my post then I am absolutely out of line and completely wrong.  
9. Ciao baby!!

Newto1000105 reads

Congratulations - you are the winner of the Howard Cosell "Telling Like it Is" prize

Your post actually makes me realize that Holly Evans was right when she said that this website is toxic for providers and their mental health.

And then complain about the men that have the silly notion to fight back?

There are no fights here. Your constant posts of needing to be "right" and to "win the fight" are just so childish and mentally draining. We are all adults here. There is nothing for you to "fight back on" nor "win". Why you continue to circle back and to continue to say this is just so mind boggling. Just sad all around that this needs to continue to happen. This and the over the top harassment I am receiving via email are just getting to be too much.

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John_Laroche87 reads

Create a new thread to rant about unwanted emails.
Get's more troll-mail than ever.

....the next thing to come out of her mouth will be accusing me of sending her these emails.  I've never called, texted or emailed this woman in my life in any manner and I've put it out there before that if she can offer any proof of such, I'll remove myself from the boards all together.  

So, loud and clear, not from me.

We all put this snafu halfwit on block, or simply ignore all his future posts. As the proverb teaches, never wrestle with a pig in the mud--You get dirty and the pig likes it.

I think there's a block feature on here so you could try that...or don't throw rocks.  There's a pattern here.  

Tbh being a single parent sucks, but this TER board is funny for me & that’s why I am still here. You boys are amusement to me. I am raising young men in training. My oldest is on the Principals list. I made him attend Navy Seal Bootcamp this summer for one week no cell phone it’s tuff love that built grit. I am the grittiest.  

You TER trolls 🧌 are  very immature people. Definitely not what I am building my young men to be. Mindset is everything and I feel sorry that the majority here will never evolve it’s sad. You boys are not men. You’re not gentlemen.  

Continue to post your hate & negativity that’s all you know how to do. You’re great at it. Where is Holly Evans? Why did she stop posting here? Mental health is very important.  

I have older brothers. I was on the boys wrestling team in middle school & high school. I am built different. I have all boys for a reason. I am a boy mom. I am a proud Super Mamacita indeed, so if that offends you I feel sorry for your mother. You’re not a kind human who has empathy and that’s what’s wrong with this World.

Ol man snafu doing a great job making a case why escorts shouldnt bother to post here to begin with.

Carry on....

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