When reading through discussion boards here on TER, do you view the way a provider posts/responds to certain topics as an indication of their personality/behavior in real life?  

Yes, I do. After all, it’s you who is posting. And, it wouldn’t surprise me if your behavior is different with a paid client. The term keyboard warrior was termed for a reason. People often behave differently when behind a keyboard. But I believe that’s still part of who they are. And, while your behavior is different with paid clients, it can easily flip if something triggers you.

There was one provider who used to post a lot here and she tended to be combative and she took a lot of flack for it.  

I would say yes, it is a good indication of their maturity and over all personality.

I had brunch with a provider who is on here frequently.  In person, she is gorgeous, sweet and very personable.  I think she's just very direct and that does not always translate well on message boards.

I  would  think  that  inherently,  said
combative  person  would   simply  "act"
endearing  in-person,  to  fulfill  financial  endeavors.

One of the many things I do in my research is look for her posts, either on a chat board or her SM, that gives me a glimpse into personality, which is huge for me. If I see a provider consistently trafficking in drama, getting in fights with board members, other providers, often acting unprofessionally, etc etc etc then yes, I will use those data points to make a determination whether to see her or not.
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But as you are stating, I would also expect a provider to stand up for herself if she was unfairly attacked, bullied, etc. It's not too different than viewing individual reviews of providers. If a girl has consistently good reviews, I dont get too worked up over a bad review, here or there, as they are just human and might have had an off day or the possibility that the gent had too high expectations going in and/or may not have done the proper research.
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Long winded way of saying each girl is different, each case is different, but if I find someone routinely bad mouthing men or constantly getting into petty squabbles day in and day out, I will most likely rule that person out because I cant stand drama in general. But I REALLY despise it in this lifestyle as I use this demimonde to get away from life's daily stresses and thus have no desire to bathe in them.

This board is a window of who you really are.  
When this board had more ladies participating, I met a few who did engage on the boards and sure enough.how they were on the boards, kinda carried over in their escort world.

I can totally relate to this. Thank you for giving her a chance!

100%  Agreed!
This  platform  should  be  completely  serene,
drama-free  and  exciting.

entertainers, and the best entertainers are great actresses.  There is no need to act when you're NOT getting paid for it.  That should tell you which personality is "real" and which one is merely purchased as part of a session.   There are providers I have gotten along with famously at the incall/outcall but did not like their personality when we would occasionally be doing something OTC.  

Yes. Experience has taught me that it can be a very good indicator. There were a few times I ignored a few red flags in the form of Social Media or TER posts and it did not go well.  
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That being said, there is a difference between defending yourself and being aggressive. Queen Bia gets a lot of flack on this board from people, but she tends to handle it with a lot of grace. I think it speaks volumes about her personality. If she wasn't a few thousand miles away from me I probably would have seen her. Another example is Miss Scarlet. She gets into tiffs and arguments with posters on this board. However, she never starts shit and is never too over the top. She does a good job of putting people in their place and speaking her mind while not being too aggressive or rude. I would see her too if she wasn't geographically incompatible.

When looking for a provider I look at a lot of things, including her behavior/attitude on the TER Boards and also on Twitter/X and other social media. You'd be amazed what one can learn about others by going through social media. When looking for an escort I'm looking for an escape from my daily busy life. I have no desire to see an escort who is argumentative or has an edgy persona on social media because there's a chance that persona could show up during a session.

Wow, I hope the experiences were more positive than negative!!

It  depends  on  one's  personal  interaction...
Thus,  one's  perspective.

Money makes everyone happier and more pleasant to be around, LOL. May I ask how spending time with escorts off the clock worked? Most escorts don't spend time with clients without being paid, so I'm surprised to hear that you ran into this issue.

I used their interaction on the boards as a form of screening along with thier reviews. Kinda  helped sealed the deal.
But that was then.

He was responsible for some of the most active threads in recent times, replying to every comment getting more and more crazy with each reply. I hope the girl was ok.

Most of us have them.
Our main handle and our alias here;
Our personality when we are in session;
Another with a SO, family, or friends;
another at work...

a significant number of providers over the years.  They start as girls I see regularly, and we have a connection that exceeds the one we usually pay for until SHE decides to make the transition to real life.  At some point, they will say, "You're my boyfriend now, so you don't have to pay anymore."  Some work out really well, but others don't because it's hard for them to be in "showtime" mode 24/7, so you get to see the real personality, not the provider personality.  

Who wants to deal with drama? I mean I left the club because I was tired of the drama. Way too much that is my client not your client type stuff. While some guys may enjoy girl drama and even start it most do not. If they wanted drama they would go home and tell their significant other they were seeing escorts.

After all, we have hundreds of examples of people acting differently on the internet than they do in real life. From ceos to athletes using burner accounts to rant and do other stuff.

Sometimes its obvious if a person is being a dick.  However, I've spent 45 years communicating with emails, texts, and on forums.  Subtlety, sarcasm, and nuance gets lost in translation.

This makes a lot of sense, and I totally agree. I'll admit that I may have misinterpreted a few comments here and there and responded accordingly. My motto is to give others grace and never judge a book by its cover.

so while I agree with you as a general proposition that subtlety, sarcasm and nuance (and I will add, humor) often don't come across as well in texting or posting on a forum, once you have spent a significant amount of time with the same posters, you will see the personalities and know when they are using various literary devices for the entertainment of the membership here.  Stick around and find out there is some real fun to be had here when you get to know most of the posters.  

If a poster is active here, it’s like watching him/her participating in a round table discussion on a variety of topics! You see how they react to things! Are they practical, fun, clever, funny? Am I attracted to their personality? I don’t really make session decisions from this, but I have noted a couple of providers I wouldn’t see if they were in my area. I’ve never thought, “ she sounds fun and sexy, I’m going to see her”! Over a certain amount of interactions, I think even here you can see a person’s IRL personality.

…ghost people who contact them who are rude or uncouth like guys who lead with “ hey sexy, how mucn to get in dat fat azz! lol”

Something worth separating out here, and maybe nobody's said it quite this way yet... the clients in this thread who use board presence as a screening tool aren't ruling out directness. In fact, I think they like directness. It's reactivity they are looking out for. And reactivity and directness are not the same thing.  

CDL,

a universal truth for most provider-customers relationships that transition to real-life.  It works for a while, providing the customer is not counting pennies.  However, jealousy is the biggest threat.  I was never jealous of their customers (but I do know some customers who washed out because THEY got jealous), but the providers all eventually become jealous of the other providers I see even though there is no emotional involvement in transactional sex for me.  

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/if-it-flies-floats-or-fucks-328356
(GaGambler, August 5, 2009)
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"If it Flies, Floats, or Fucks, rent, don't buy."

Mary the rich buried in their work ones. Then use their money to fuck the hot slutty ones. Do not have an affair. They get attached and can fuck it up. But a good rental just wants your business.

I already know I couldn't date a provider.  Just not for me.  She would have to quit and move on to another career.  Which is risky because I'd imagine I would be the only financial stability she would have.  Meaning, is she with me because of feelings or money?  Unless I happened to meet her just at the right time she was leaving that field anyway.

Well, rawdogging changed everything! It resulted in two infertile people producing people. 🤣 So I stopped the business. He INCREASED his hobby after retirement. And I admit that my married sex is NOT the same as sex for profit. Well, sometimes it is but maybe 🤔 once a month? Other than that it’s just average housewife pussy 🤣. He doesn’t want me to work again but he lets me cam. And he built me a lil studio so… And I get to have 100s of guys watch me play with my pussy at a time… which turns me on…. Bleh. Life is just life-ing.  

I saw a provider once who married a multi-millionaire. He was a high up executive and very busy with work. She got bored and the sex with him was infrequent and not good. She liked his money and since he wasn't around much she tried to stick it out anyway. But she couldn't resist and started escorting again. She did it more because she was attracted to the lifestyle. She worked appointments around her schedule. But eventually, he found out and they divorced. When I saw her it was well after this all happened. She was no longer married. But it was an overnight and we had time to talk, so she shared more about herself than what you might usually get.

Way back (I hadn’t even gone independent) I was sent by the agency  to see a guy who was a multi-millionaire. Young as well - early 30’s. We connected immediately. He booked me again several times and then asked if he could see me for a coffee during the day. I liked him so had no issues with this. Never saw agency (no needed tipped so well) but he did have my personal email.  

Agree with this Mr F.
I’ve always been me on the boards.  
I’ve always know that there will be people who like you and people who don’t. You’ve a better chance of finding the ones that do if you show your real self. When you connect, it’s easier and more enjoyable for everyone…

Sounds like you dodged a bullet in the end.

often get stale.  The woman picks a man and hopes that, after marriage, he will CHANGE into the man she wants, while the man hopes that the woman REMAINS the hot horny babe she was before they were married.  Neither one generally gets what they want and that is why marital relationships often become boring after several years, and sex with someone else fills the void.  

There was another guy (probably still lurks on here) that used to see higher end ladies when I was higher end.
Blew an absolute gasket with me before met (can’t even recall why) and held a very angry grudge for 5 years - I mean, what??  
I had flagged him up to some of these ladies but because his pockets were very deep they almost gaslit me about it. The he turned on a well known high end provider (who didn’t know how he’d been with me but knew I’d tried to warn others) and she was outraged with him and the women who tried to placate him. He turned out to be a real threat to this lady…
If he’s still lurking you were an absolute bell end back then and probably still are…and I’ll die on that hill

What ya see is what ya get.
As real as can be and I say it like it is 24/7  
Too many fake humans on earth putting on a facade.  
Life is too short to be anything but real. And kind. We need more of that .

Nice.  

That our pal Nicky here cant bust a nut anymore? True story.  

He claimed earlier today he had me on "Ignore."
And his entire post above is a complete fabrication and lie-fest.
Clearly, I am deep under his skin and living rent-free in his tiny brain

There are no referees here.

For all we know, the old man might be shouting at a cloud.

Ageist, stalker and white knight at the same time.

Oh, Nicky. None of that is true, and you know it.

You continually play the age card. The least you can do is cop to it.
Not to mention Partisan Hack.

Old man, you’re in the General Discussion forum. You really should take these comments and accusations back to the Politics & Religion Forum, where they belong.

You play the Ageist on both boards. And everyone knows it. All you've proven is my comments belong right here. Your posting proclivities are the same no matter where you are.
Get a grip.

Can you guys keep your flame wars contained to the P&R board? Somebody else mentioned this on another thread involving other combatants but… it is exhausting when every thread gets hijacked and turns into a series of insults unrelated to the original post. It would be one thing if your arguments were at least related to the topic at hand but that is not the case. I assure you nobody cares about your personal beefs or opinions about each other.

I hope not.

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I also remember when we had a member here with the handle SenatorBlutarsky.

@inicky46.... yeah, didn't I see you in that clip in the background as one of the extras???

For a bar fight, it's hard to top this one.

Because you have just made a complete ass of yourself again.

We told you two to give it a rest. Now give it a fucking rest. For the record both of you look like gigantic asses

"We told you"????? No, YOU told us. Everyone else was having fun with it. So stop playing Board Cop. You look like a gigantic ass.

himself and his pet gerbil.

It is just you and CKS, not everyone else… and if this is your definition of fun then you need to get out of the house and find a new hobby.

The irony is strong in this one, but your likeness to the photo in Nicky's post is also very near a rules violation.   Lol

I really hope we weren’t trying to combat ageism with our replies… because the fact that every single one of us pulled a different clip from somewhere between 1960 and 2015 absolutely told on us 😂

with your link.  Harve Presnell is not as well-know from this time period as Gordon MacRae and Howard Keel but was cut from the same mold with a similar style.