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Re: Not Starbucks to me either!
dantananot 12 Reviews 150 reads
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mattrad, i assume you close the loop if someone else gets back too late and it's a gal you like.  part of my OP is coming from not knowing certain women well enough to know if they are flakes or just lower traffic/slower.

dantananot1528 reads

it's like putting a piece of baloney on a dog's nose and telling him not to eat it!  i have money, time on day xx, want to schedule a fave.  how long should one wait when contacting a repeat provider before reaching out to someone else?  i know the "splatter" method of yanking ten chains at once is frowned upon.  But if you contact one person, wait don't hear back, contact another, wait, don't hear back, etc. it can have the same net effect.  what's fair to all concerned including oneself?

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mrfisher358 reads

then try second contact.  If no response in 24 hours, move on.

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mattradd311 reads

Other than that, how long you wait is dependent on how long you want to wait, your degree of impulse control and level of frustration tolerance! ;)

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dantananot265 reads

Yeah, I think there is a "fair", even if you just look at it as business transaction.  since it's pretty personal, even more so.  hence the OP question.

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mattradd178 reads

Some guys have plenty of time, others don't. Personally, I have very small windows of opportunity, so if a woman isn't available the day I'm available, and I don't get a response from a call or email within an hour, I'm off looking for another. It's nothing personal or depersonalizing, just if it's going to happen, that's how it is. Everyone Hobbys according to their resources of time and money.

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dantananot151 reads

mattrad, i assume you close the loop if someone else gets back too late and it's a gal you like.  part of my OP is coming from not knowing certain women well enough to know if they are flakes or just lower traffic/slower.

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GaGamblerssmarterbrother204 reads

If you are planning a week or two in advance mrfisher's advice is fine, if only a day or two then his advice makes no sense at all, if you actually want to get laid at least. lol

So let me ask you, how far in advance are you looking at?

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dantananot157 reads

prefer repeat to new screening, kind of picky, so i get stuck waiting a bit more than i'd like sometimes.

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GaGamblerssmarterbrother131 reads

Now of course for me, planning an international trip more than a day before I leave is considered "planning in advance" lol, but with a two to four day window I would give a few hours for my first choice to respond and then start moving down my list. If choice number one call back before any of the others, so be it. If not than choice number 2,3 etc is a hell of a lot bettter than not getting laid. lol

Obviously some times one or more of your other choices will get back to you after you've already booked with someone else, but no woman with any class is going to get upset if you politely tell her you've made other plans and that you'd love the opportunity to try again some other time.

I know a lot of guys here will expect you to wait for days for your "first choice" to respond, but I am willing to wager those same guys sit around with their dick in their hands a lot more often than they would care to, while guys like me are actually out getting laid. lol

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anonymousfun265 reads

When you first make the contact, you let the person know that if you don't hear back with such and such time, your are assuming that they are not available for the requested date time. Then you can move on. I have done this numerous times without any problems. I typically try to book 3 or 4 days ahead of time.

Posted By: dantananot
it's like putting a piece of baloney on a dog's nose and telling him not to eat it!  i have money, time on day xx, want to schedule a fave.  how long should one wait when contacting a repeat provider before reaching out to someone else?  i know the "splatter" method of yanking ten chains at once is frowned upon.  But if you contact one person, wait don't hear back, contact another, wait, don't hear back, etc. it can have the same net effect.  what's fair to all concerned including oneself?

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mattradd145 reads

If done right, it tells her the parameters you're working with, and she can determine if she can work with them, without any confusion.

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dantananot166 reads

proactive, i like that

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Leah-Lemay201 reads

If it is someone you have seen before... you are already screened... depending on how bad you want that provider ... I would give it at least an hour .... They may be "busy" for an hour or so ;) Though I have never emailed two hobbyist  and say " hey I am free at 4:30..wanna play?"  to fill an hour of my time... I can understand when ur horny your horny... so I would have a plan B :)

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Vanica242 reads

I hate to say this (as my sisters in the biz might get upset), but this is a business, and in this technological age, waiting or taking for response 48 hours is crazy!!!

My average response time to e-mail during regular hours of 8AM to 10PM is about 27 minutes. I actually checked the other day as I want to get my numbers up. If one e-mails me late int he evening, it is longer because I'm usually sleeping. :-)

If I took 48 hours to get back to someone he could have called another lady, finished screening and had an engagement all before I got back to him. With Blackberries, iPhone, netbooks, tablets and what ever else. Slow responses, (more than 10 - 20 hours) only come from girls who deep down don't really want your business.

As for phone calls, this is a little different. Being in a place where I can talk freely is not always doable. And some of the messages guy leave, have names and no numbers,  numbers and no names and sometimes neither. It's not that I don't want to call back, but the gentleman has not given me the information I need to call back.

Some e-mails do end up in spam. These are often mass e-mails sent to more than one lady, e-mails with photos or attachments, or from strange foreign e-mail addresses. 99 % make it through.

However, there is the group of gentleman because of language, vague request and so forth their e-mails get ignored. So if you e-mailed me in the last 3 - 6 months and received no response, it's most likely because your e-mail was crass or lacked basic info like ...ummm let's see... your name.

My ad e-mail does have a auto-responder (which I know some hate), but it details what e-mails to me should entail if one wants to see me in the next 48 hours. I cannot tell you how many people e-mail and call and just say "Are you available?"
Available? When? Where? Who are you? Do you want to talk to me or any girl who will answer? Etc...




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