One of the rules of hobbying is that the providers work under pseudonyms. I always respect this rule. I would never pry about a provider's real name. And yet, it does slip out from time to time. Another hobbyist once PM'd me about a young woman we had both seen, and he referred to her by her real name. Other times, the provider herself has mentioned it.
I thought I'd conduct a little poll, never having seen this topic mentioned on the boards. How many of you know the real names of providers? Or providers, how often do you let it slip out?
Most gals are very open with me in more ways than one.
Ilet them know who I am and they usually reciprocate.
patronized, It is a long story but these women are friends and some are patients. Of those who i patronized, I don't think I know any of their real names.
At least 6 and couple of those I even know their families.
I've never understood what the big deal is about first names anyway. But, if the secrecy is important to them, then it's important to me. I'm very careful to never use a provider's real name around anyone who doesn't know it.
Afer many years I now know most of the past ladies and current ! so about 30
Maybe its just me but,I feel this is something between ourselves and the special LADIES we have had the opportunity to meet and and not to be discussed.Its part of a bond and trust you developed between each other.I would not won't to break this trust. Sorry if I offend anyone but thats just me
All of them in which I have or had a LTR with. None of them who I’ve had a Short Term Relationship. Eventually we all slip up one way or another when we let our guard down as often happens with LTR.
I've seen ID or met family and or exchanged real facebook ids or myspace. Not just their work one but their one they to connect to family with. (be sure not to slip up though)
Lots of ways really if you buy airfare for them or go shopping and they use credit cards. Now that I think about it more than 6. lol
When I was in brazil last year a beautiful provider and i really clicked. She offered her name towards the end of our second date. I was taken that with out any prompting she told me her name.
I would never ask; however if the lady offers I feel it is a special gesture on her part.
Not really counting. Some have told me their real names after they are comfortable with me. Some have let it slip while we are together. Others have had to disclose because we traveled together or needed an ID for some reason. A few have moved from the provider client relationship to something more and therefore information was shared. The last and the most unfortunate type were the ones were I learned the real name through arrest records.
She let it slip during the halftime conversation. She was saying she had stayed at the hotel for so long, they new her by name and would say "Hello [realname]" when she came in.
I only know my own, and even that at times is confusing...lol
but over the many years I have been hobbying it must be in the dozens. I have never thought it was that big a deal. Of course besides having dated many providers I also have known several agency owners, not to mention all the provider friends of the ladies I have dated.
I still don't know what the big deal is.
Good response. And I will add this.
No amount of money will earn you the trust of another person, providers included. Where there is trust, there is a real connection; regardless of how limited, a connection nonetheless. That may be part of the what the original poster is looking for.
Just kidding LOL Hell I thought they all used thier real names? He He,
tell me because either she is tired of the charade or lets it slip. No big deal for me.
I know the real name of 4 of my lady friends.
We are or were close and there is no problem with knowing each others names. W e have seen each other quite often and are comfortable with it.
I don't know any of their real names and if I did I would not kiss and tell. I consider myself a professional hobbyist.
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I never tell anyone else. If they feel comfortable enough to tell me, that tells me I am doing something right with them. If they don't, no big deal.
BTW, the ones I have emailed already know my real name. Yeah, I know it is not a good idea, but WTF, I am old, retired, and single, so I should really give a shit? Hell no. I can't get arrested for emails, at least not the ones I have sent.
Bottom line is 'fuck it, I don't care'. The girls can be secretive, I am not about my identity.
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If I'm traveling with a client, clearly he is going to see my ID, tickets, reservations.
He will know my name.
If I enjoy a client and we see each other a considerable amount he will know my name BUT
I prefer he never use it because my personal / work life are still separate.
If I am incalling in a location which has security, unmarked cars or questionable activity, I'm generally low volume when I'm at home so I have no qualms about sharing my name so that he always has a plausible reason for being at my location if he's stopped ("we're friends, sure her name is XXX XXXXX")
It is inappropriate for a client to back channel a girls name so typically the clients I share my name with are non"hobbyists"/reviewers; they'r more "frige" or infrequent clients.
Inappropriate is a huge understatement for such a violation of privacy.
1,000,000,000% agree. Ultimate betrayal.
I got the impression that the guy who back channelled a provider's name to me in a PM did it innocently. I don't think he meant anything nefarious. He just slipped up. I just deleted the e-mail and forgot I'd ever been told.
To me, the confidentiality of the provider's identity is important, so it's best not to be too free with the real name. As others have said, things slip out, even if people have the best intentions.
I know several by their real names. A few of these ladies come to my home, and sometimes I am invited to their homes (the ones that live alone or with a girl friend). However, I have generally seen these women repeatedly and we go to dinner or meet for extended time visits. I do not know the real name of any provider who I have simply visited for an hour session.
Same here.
All the people who matter in my llife already know, so I tell clients when it's necessary.
Nine first names that I could remember, four first and last, 2 addresses and SSN. I'm not really sure how it happened, but it's really no big deal to me. There are way more ladies that have my personal info, or at least have seen it.
It is all about trust & I am fortunate that some ladies have become friends.