I have one favor to ask of the gentlemen.

I give references, nods, vouches, and referrals....

I understand the sites and ladies who are calling me need the information and are very serious. I also get it that what I tell them is CRUCIAL.

However, when I get a call from a lady who is nice and says:

"Allure, Jim says saw you 10/07 once in a hotel in California. Is he ok?"

I realize the provider should have just skipped using me as a reference....but gentlemen I cannot hardly remember where my underwear are half the time. So me trying to remember you from years or months ago is not happening.


Or when I get an email from a verification site and it says:

We chatted via messenger
We exchanged emails

That will get an automatic declined request and a load of questions from the site you are trying to register for.

The verification site is TALKING ABOUT HAVE YOU EVER BEEN A PAYING CLIENT NOT A CHAT ROOM BUDDY.

Or....(my biggest pet peeve)

I met her on 02/09, at her incall, she is a nice lady.

I think I can speak for 98% of my co-workers...........WE DESTROY YOUR INFORMATION AS SOON AS YOU ARE OUT OF OUR CARE.

I think a viable solution is to please email/call me and warn me that you are joining one of the verification sites (it jars my memory if you at least can give me DETAIL OR TWO OF OUR MEETING) or you are asking another provider to call me for a reference....just warn me please.


(Mumbling to myself....this is why I love men who are reviewers....I can just re-read my review I got from them and my life is made easier when I have to give a reference or a referral)


If the guys can offer some help to me or their fellow hobbyist on this topic it would be appreciated.


Thanks..............

Guys, here's what you do:

If you want to give provider X, the name of a provider (Y) you have seen before, call or email Y and remind her of who you are (full name, when you last met (date and time) and where (city, hotel, etc.).  Also, any identifying information that can help Y remember you:  ("We talked about baseball", etc.)  You should have seen Y in at least the last three months.

Tell Y that you would like to give out her email and/or phone to X so that you can see X.

Wait for Y to get back to you to say "OK", then contact X with the referal.

my pubs....  and I think I missed the toilet... no, not #1, #2.... oh, and I was the guy with the two toned underwear... brown and yellow?  that ring any bells.......    and I almost forgot... the cigar that fell off the night stand and burned a hole in your teddy...

this ring any bells darlin'.... so comon, gimme that great reference cause I am such a charmer! lol!

but i have never forgotten any gent that i have seen, ever. i don't know if it's the fact that i see very, very few gents only once (a one-time date for me means no chemistry, bad match), or the fact that i take so much time getting to know each gent before ever meeting them in person. but someone could contact me after a two year absence with only the vaguest of details, and i would remember them based on their email address (just sticks in my memory), their phone no., and absolutely their name. i would remember them and all that we did together, how many times we met, and probably what i wore for them each visit. am i unique in this respect...is it more typical for providers to erase people from their memory banks?

The average provider from TER she interviewed has seen (up to that point) over 860 total unique clients.

Well -- if a guy is number 723 in that mix; I can understand how he'd be about as memorable to the provider as he is to the clerk at Jiffy Lube.

From your description, it sounds like you serve a very different market; so these problems wouldn't apply to you.

is this for real?? you remember each name and description of every man you met personally or thru chat room and/or emails?
wow! u have a memory and half!

I recall a provider whom I met and on the first date we chatted a bit and I mentioned my kids' first names and what they were up to in school, etc.

On the second date about two months later, we asked how each was doing by name in their respective school careers.

I was mightily impressed with that.

It's all I can do to even remember my kids' birthdays.

Please provide complete information.

That is what the website forms are for
it gives you a list of the things we need to be able to verify you as quickly and painlessly as possible.

Please guys !! No more appt. requests like this..lol

Hi I'm Joe I have seen Wilamina and Jezzebell
when can I see you?

i just remember every man i have met, but to me this only makes sense as we have exchanged emails, talked to one another, gotten to know about each other's personal lives, and of course have been sexual with one another. how on earth could i forget?

but then i am "low volume" as well, very selective with clients and my motivations have nothing to do with "business." that 860 number john mentioned is jaw-dropping for someone like me, who does not see more than a couple dozen different gents in the course of a year.

I do not believe this one bit:

"I  think I can speak for 98% of my co-workers...........WE DESTROY YOUR INFORMATION AS SOON AS YOU ARE OUT OF OUR CARE."

once when she worked for a "madam" and the "madam" rushed my date and shorted me about 5-10 min... instead offering me a view of her plastic boobs... well, about a year later, after the lady went indy, I called her, not knowing she was the lady I had seen in the brothel.  She answered the phone, and as we were setting the date, I asked if she needed a reference.  she replied, Nope... we've met.  I said that we had not and she then proceeded to tell me every sentence we said to each other, and the conclusion of our date.

yea, some are just like that.  ME?  on a good day, I can't even remember my kids' names!

Guess I'm a product of the 60's and my mind doesn't hold that much info.

Now if I find I like that person I make little notes so I know who and what matters to me but to remember every person I've had la-de-dahed I'd have one of those photogenic minds if thats the correct label.

I think it's only a few people who are capable to remeber like that.
I wish I could it sure would make my life a lot easier! lol

In my case, if I use any ladies as references, I usually include something that will usually uniquely identify me.  Usually I can remember something unique.  For example, one provider I taught how to play video poker in a casino once.  Another one we left the hotel door open by accident (and nobody in the hotel noticed...).  I can only think of one provider that I don't have something to uniquely ID, at least in my opinion.

Often times my day goes more like THIS...

I'm driving in the car and I see an unfammilar number coming in on my cell phone... "Hi, this is DAVE" the caller informs me. "Are you free later this evening??"  "Yes, I have some time available later on... but Dave, I don't recognize your number... Have we met in the past..?? And if so, about how long ago...??"  Now SOMETIMES "Dave" says "No, but we talked last Thursday, remember- I have seen your friend Tara...??"  But OTHER TIMES "Dave" says "YES, we met ONCE, a year and a half ago- REMEMBER ME...??"

This is when it gets dicey...!!! I have an EXCELLENT memory for strange trivia about the guys I see... But very, VERY often when I then ask "Dave," "Can you please be a dear and help jog my memory... Maybe mention what you do for work and something unsual that we talked about etc..?? I'm sorry- Im driving in the car and I'm sure that once I am able to put a face to your name I would love to meet with you again, give you a reference etc..."

At this point FAR too many "Daves" will either start describing *ME* ie "You have long blond hair, are a vegetarian, mentioned having a few small dogs etc.." (This makes me laugh and roll my eyes and say "DAVE, I know who *I* AM... I'm trying to place who YOU are...!!" OR "Dave" will say... "Well, I'm about 5"11', 45 years old, medium build, I have brown slightly greying hair..."

ARRRRGGGHHH!!!

When "DAVE" knocks the ball out of the court and says right off the bat... "We talked about collecting antique books and how my past girlfriends have complained because I don't like to spoon or be touched when I sleep..."  OR "You commented about my long eye lashes and we did silly roleplays where I pretended to be Bill Clinton" etc Etc ETC... THEN I am ESTATIC...!!! Ha!

Guys who I saw a LONG time ago and possibly only saw ONCE... who IMMEDIATELY come out with identifying information like the LAST two examples... These guys are a pleasure and a joy..!!!

Guys I see more OFTEN (who have common names AND MULTIPLE PHONE LINES,) I usually give NICKNAMES to... ie "Blue eyed Dave from Holyoke"... "John with the motorcycle from Connecticut"... "Massage Mike with the Puggle dog"... That way, WHATEVER NUMBER they call from, I still have INSTANT RECALL!

I often assign NICKNAMES before the person leaves on the 1st or 2nd visit, but lots of times "Dave" STILL forgets to mention these sometimes GLARINGLY obvious things that set him appart...!!!

Oh well...