I have had this dilemma from about 4 different upscale providers. They send me texts asking for money to pay rents or other personal business days after our meeting. Now, these ladies I would like to see again but I am just put off by this attitude and I have not called them again even though I would like to. Anyone else have similar experience?

Do you just come off as a guy who gives money to others in need?  Has that come up in conversation in session?

Not sure why they would target you.  There has to be an explanation.  Maybe if you could give us some more information...

Are these actual providers, or sugar babies?

It's tacky and very unprofessional. If you wanted a sugar baby, I am sure you would be on a sugar daddy site and not TER. That is typical SB behavior and should be frowned upon in the escort world. Simply avoid the texts and move on to someone else. You did not sign up for the hassle.

upscale providers do not ask for money to pay their rent..and you had four!!.unless your forehead said ATM and they could stick a credit card in your mouth..i seriously doubt this fairy tale..

Never came up in conversation. Just your typical meeting usually 1 hr. I must add that it never happened with providers in my city. I encountered the 4 over a period of one year while on business trip and after  outcall to my hotel room and 3 of them were in LA. I did not even tip.

I understand how you feel. Believe me when I say upscale, I mean upscale, well reviewed on TER, posting on P411, eros etc. Never a BP. This is why I am surprised and disgusted. However, I have also seen some very nice ladies who never asked for such and are very professional.

They sound more like strippers...

My thought exactly. Well articulated by  u n thanks. I just wanted to be sure it is not that common practice as I am not a veteran yet .

Maybe someone should define who an upscale provider is. Maybe my sense of the term is warped. These ladies have very good reviews on TER. One is a well known pornstar which is saying that much for how much was paid for a session. This will be my one and last pornstar experience though.

4, 5, 6, etc hundred dollars PER HOUR runs out of cash.

I mean, what is she buying?  A new car every month?  $10,000 birken bags every week?!  A pair of Louboutons every day??

there are Favorite ladies whom I will repeat with.   But the P4P rule is to consider any money given to a provider is gone.  They might offer to work it off (but often suddenly become hard to reach) or pay you back (stranger things have happened but it's rare).  So if you want to "help her out" you do so by booking an appointment, getting the services / leaving the donation.  It's just playing safe with your funds.
This topic comes up pretty often & I know there are fellow hobbiests who have successfully advanced funds to providers & have had the agreements fulfilled...   but many more have not.  A few admit to a 50% ratio.  
Personally, I can't afford to be their ATM...   If I'm about to book a meeting I might shift it to her, since she's now on my mind...  but she goes back in the rotation after.   Even going exclusive with one eventually leads to a drop in service quality.  
"Upscale" is an advertizing term, but true upscale providers are careful self-managers.  
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Very useful advice. Thanks for ur thoughtful write up

I have had this happen to me, and the lady absolutely fits the definition of upscale.  For reasons that are too complex to go into here, I chose to help out, knowing full well that the money should be considered gone, and that I should probably be tattooed with the word "sucker".  But I did it anyway, as the amount of money was kind of trivial, and I chose to give her the benefit of the doubt, regarding the situation she was in.

What she does not know, is that she ended up making a very bad business decision, by chosing to target me this way.  I had full intentions to become a regular client, but as a result, I have seen her for the last time.  This will cost her thousands of dollars in lost opportunity.  So even though I gave her the benefit of the doubt this time, I have no intention of maintaining any relationship whatsoever, with someone capable of being a financial train wreck.  Too bad, since I REALLY enjoyed her company.

i agree , it really makes me feel like they think im a sap, so its a form of dissrespect. If i was oblidged . She would be my wife. And a wife that cooks , cleans & does laundry. Want you to suc seed London .

for sure..by the way..brigitte adair and edrienne cole just texted me..they want me to pick up their grocery tabs this month..

did he say succeed? or suck seed..i think rooster has a boner..

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It doesn't mean you have to do it. Giving money for rents leads to money for the car payment which leads to money for... the list is endless. I agree with whomever said these were sugar babies looking for a daddy and not your regular escorts.

If these ladies are asking you for money outside of a meeting then they are NOT upscale providers! Simple as that. Find NEW providers who respect you

You call or email her when you want to visit.  Period.  A girl should NEVER EVER contact you.  Only exception is if you have given her permission.

xo

Come on guys, these girls are after your money period.  They don't care anything about you as a person, they are acting. They are professional actresses, hired by you to star in your private little movie.  The only difference between them and most BP girls is that the BP girl makes it clear that she wants you to get your nut and get out of her life.  Before you allow yourself to believe you have a friendship with this person that lies to her family about, well (EVERYTHING), take a step back and re-evaluate the investment your making in her.  She is a professional liar, and a very good one at that; if not you wouldn't want to see her again.  Thats really why guys go for the "UP SCALE PROVIDER", not just because they are beautiful, but because they can make you feel like they care about you as a person; (and thats great as long as you know its not real)  because it's not, thats what wives and girlfriends are for.  If you want to pay someones rent call a BP girl, you will feel a lot better about yourself; with money to spare.  Protect yourself Monger, I'm not talking about condums either.

It's just my opinion, I could be wrong.