I hate the whole daddy thing.
Pre-hobbying, I knew a woman who had lost her father to suicide when she was 14. Her father had been despondent because the family went from riches to rags after his entire financial portfolio was swindled out from under him by a scam artist. The shame of being cheated and the subsequent impotence of the justice system were too much for him to take. The woman, then in her late 20s when I met her, had always loved, respected and admired her father, and even in his suicide, she felt for him instead of resenting him or being angry with him. She hated the scammer and the situation, but still loved and missed her father and held his memory dear. The first time she and I were intimate, she let me know during foreplay that she wanted to call me daddy, and that her fantasy was that she was a little girl. I was absolutely mortified and turned off and refused to do it. I have no I interest in little girls, either real or imagined, and I wasn't having it. I could see tge psychological implications, and I wanted nothing to do with it. We got past that hurdle, she and I, our sex life was good, but she never let go of her fantasy (as is appropriate, I believe that the majority of people's fantasies should never be self-surpressed). After we went out separate ways, she pursued it with other men who were into it.
Fast-forward to present day.
I see a lot of providers who only speak Spanish, and calling a man, a male lover, a male sex partner, a male client "papi" or "papi chulo" or "papacito" is as common in their culture as baby, honey, darling or sweetie is for English speakers. As such, I don't have a problem with the first one, papi, but the other two don't do it for me.
Other than those father-related terms of endearment, a lot of these providers also call me amante (lover), ángel (ángel), bebé (baby), bonbóm (bon-bon, sweet thing), cariño (dear or darling), cielo (heaven), corazón (heart or my heart), niña (boy), but the most often used are amor (love) and mi amor (my love). Once or twice a very close relationship has resulted in a provider or two calling me mi vida (my life), but ever since I first learned of that one decades before I began hobbying, I've never liked it used in reference to me; I find it way too much responsibility for me.
In English, providers have called me baby, sweetie, honey, etc.
As far as names, I've never used my real name in hobbying, so they sometimes call me by the name I've given them. Once, 15 minutes into the date, a provider asked me, "Your name is _______, right?" I laughed out loud, she was off by a mile. I told her she had it wrong and I reminded her of my hobby name, the same name I had used in my phone calls to her, the last one being 5 minutes before I walked in. Honest mistake, we all make them (by the way, my review of her is on this website, see if you can guess which one she is).
I usually call a provider any or all of the feminine Spanish-language ones above, plus sexy, hermosa (beautiful), bonita (pretty), preciosa (previous), muñeca (doll), muñequita (little doll), garita (kitten), diosa (goddess), jovencita (young lady), and others I can't think of right now.
In a role-play setting recently (her review is on here too), I screwed up badly the first ten seconds when I called the provider by the name of the lady who runs the agency for which she works. The provider, in the spirit of a true actress, assumed that I did it on purpose as part of the role-play and went with it, but I called cut and we began the scene again, take two.
Final story. Two providers I reviewed here turned out to be roommates, and I later found out they had been friends for 7 years. I had seen the first lady a week earlier, and found myself in the same apartment but different bedroom seeing the second lady. When I told #2 that I had been in the apartment a week ago, she asked me with whom had I been. For some reason, my mind went blank and I couldn't remember #1's name. Like an idiot, I pointed to the wall and said it was the lady in the bedroom on the other side of it. #2 said the lady's name and I said yes, that's her. #2 said, "Oh, she's my friend," And that was that.
