Isn't it somewhat paradoxical that you, who claims to have this deep connection with your clients, who adore you and you reciprocate back, wouldn't care if the guy climaxes or not..
When a guy doesn't climax a lot of women think that it's because he doesn't find them hot.. They kind of take it a bit personally. Guy climaxing is most certainly a form of validation to women that they are attractive.
Maybe you are not all that sensitive and warm hearted after all.. Just a cold hearted hooker who is pulling wool over people's eyes by purporting herself to be kind and sensitive.
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I have the opposite problem of ED. I stay hard as a rock the whole session but sometimes can’t finish. (I don’t watch too much porn and I don’t masturbate too often (once or twice a week)). Is this an insult to the ladies? They usually see it as a challenge.
I THOROUGHLY enjoy just being with these gorgeous women and having them work on me. I have no complaints whether I finish or not.
The "challenge" to make you cum is part of that process. If they can get you to cum they can get you out on time.
What providers see as a challenge is a guy who jackhammers their pussy non-stop in order to try to cum.
Are you taking antidepressants and/or blood pressure meds? Both of those can delay or prevent ejaculation.
I seem to have the same problem. I can go a very long time before cumming. Every woman I have been with has remarked.
“Are you going to cum?”
If wearing a cover, almost never. They seem disappointed, and maybe they think it’s their problem. Sometimes it is, sometimes not. I tell them it isn’t that there is something lacking with them. I won’t blame them for my problem.
If they ever know how long I have gone before cumming, they wouldn’t feel so bad. I don’t always finish in an hour.
The only reliable exception is a really good prostate massage.. Bingo! I have to really work to keep going .
Isn't it somewhat paradoxical that you, who claims to have this deep connection with your clients, who adore you and you reciprocate back, wouldn't care if the guy climaxes or not..
When a guy doesn't climax a lot of women think that it's because he doesn't find them hot.. They kind of take it a bit personally. Guy climaxing is most certainly a form of validation to women that they are attractive.
Maybe you are not all that sensitive and warm hearted after all.. Just a cold hearted hooker who is pulling wool over people's eyes by purporting herself to be kind and sensitive.
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there are other reasons she may not care. Maybe she's just not being judgmental? Or maybe she knows there may be a medical reason that has nothing to do with her service?
PS: Don't worry, I'll go back to being a miserable prick in 5...4...3...2..1...
ROR!
Telling us you are impotent.
Definitely not impotent.. Just ask ya mom... She will tell ya..
You worse than a granny-fucker. You're a great-granny fucker!
Ew.
You must not have heard of advancement in AI. Now you can take recording of a person's voice and make that person say outrageous things. There are funny videos making rounds on Social Media where Bush, Clinton, Obama, Dump, and Biden are playing Minecraft on Discord, and they talk outrageous shit..
I am sure we can go back 100 yrs and make "Swallow's" mom look like the ravishing brunette that she was in the 1920s..lol.
Douche and scum trying to gang up because neither are good enough either together or individually. The mom reply, and your felching partner has to chime in too, pathetic. Typical replies from the low life scum of the earth .
You respond right on cue like the well-trained slave you are. Your reliably repetitive and dim-witted reply is duly noted but utterly predictable. Just like your always thin skin.
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You took the bait and fell for it hook line and sinker and are still
Stealing, copying and plagiarizing my lines, sayings and phrases from the P&R board. Obviously you wrote them down for future use. It is understandable though, since you look up to me and admire me that you do so.
You will, of course, take the bait again and reply to this post because unlike me you need and crave the last word, it is the most important thing to you.
Do continue to make Pavlov proud.
You were doing so well until you totally lost control (again) and couldn't help yourself by posting again on an ancient thread and using another one of your feeble Urban Dictionary put-downs to boot.
What a pathetic spectacle you are.
And you don't even know it.
I own your wrinkled, old ass.
For the last word that
you take the bait again.
You are so easy to control and manipulate.
But you do not get the last word til I allow you
your replies and projection proves you are nothing but a weak puny little soy-boy
but you will take the bait again.
I admit that going after your mom was a very cheap pot shot even by my ultra low standards.
But damn it... you started it by calling me impotent..
Are you bragging again? Lol
That was a typo, it was supposed to say, "iimportant."
Are you bragging again? Lol
That was a typo, it was supposed to say, "iimportant."
Yes, but only modestly.
Then there’s that little self doubt that will creep in.But they get over it very quickly.
Of course I’m referring to the ladies who take this shit seriously.
The CG’s and low renters won’t give a shit.
Then it's not the typical SSRI antidepressant failure-to-finish side. The SSRI effect is very well documented in the literature the manufacturers distribute with every prescription. If you don't have that anymore, WebMD, Mayo, and other web sites state the effect very clearly.
No, if you can cum, just not in the company of hookers, it's a mental thing. What may help, and BBFS providers love, is for you to finish the job yourself. Get yourself to the point you're ready to come, pull out, and jerk off onto her whatever. It can be hot to watch your cum pooling on her belly, dripping off a nipple, or what have you.
As an alternative, have you asked them for a HJ when you're ready? I still love watching my cum drip down over they're hands. It's hot.
Is whether YOU care? If YOU care, book a longer session, if you don’t, let them know and they won’t care either.
Guys that are slow to cross the finish line are a lot more work. If it’s not going to make a difference to you, you might be a more valued customer if you tell them they don’t have to knock themselves out to wring an ejaculation out of you.
I agree with CDL.
Let them know early on. The best ladies that I've been with are mostly concerned that their performance is meeting/exceeding my expectations. Their ability to get me to orgasm is a reflection of that.
As for causes, for some, its a combination of reasons. Age, weight, PIED, stress, guilt, etc. Try to eliminate any of the possible causes, then...
Relax and have fun!
I agree. Guys, You should email the female first or text her and lay everything out on the line.
Medications are not the problem, I have no trouble finishing solo. Last time I was able to finish when she finally used her hand. I actually didn’t jerk off for two weeks before my last session thinking I would be ready to explode. Turns out, that was a huge mistake, it was very hard to finish. Next time I will jerk off the day before. I’m always horniest the following day for some reason.
It’s not a problem for me, I love the whole process. I will definitely let the girl know what’s up next time so she won’t get offended.
Maybe it's the condom then. Seems like the past year or so I have more trouble getting over the finish line. I would never even suggest BB, so I don't know for sure.
It also doesn't seem to matter how tight a woman is. Many can read this and I end up with a nice HJ. As far as I'm concerned HJs can be awesome and are not often appreciated!
When I was in my forties I could last for as long as I wanted to, back then i was in great shape and really enjoyed being inside of a young lady and wouldn’t cum for a long time, now that am in my sixties I sometimes have a hard time staying hard, but I still have a wonderful time, I just enjoy being in the company of a beautiful woman, I had stopped p4p for awhile because it was frustrating for me, not to be able to finish, but since I got back in I have found just hanging out with a awesome provider is just as rewarding as it was when I had no problem finishing!
Stee,
I know that I do care (Only because when I am with a client. It's for mostly pleasure purposes). My question is on a scale of 1-100. What is your satisfaction level?! I mean I always get the highest satisfaction that I possibly can get with each client. If you are ever in Atlantic City, NJ. Then Text me and let me know the things that you want to do.
JANET
(609) 431-1393
I honestly just want you to have a good time. Relax and do not feel pressured if you can or can not release. I know that sometimes there are factors; E.D, medications or nerves; which If that is the case let it be known before hand. Letting us know will make the session more enjoyable for both.
As a true professional I know that there are many factors to play here. Personally, climaxing is not everything. Depending on your personal issues it may not even be a possibility. Having a hard cock that works sounds great, do you make the ladies climax? You may have a lot on your mind. Stress is a big factor.
I really have no problem with it. Like I said, I enjoy the whole process and finishing is just one part of it. I will certainly let the ladies know from now on.
Hi Steve,
From an escorts perspective who enjoys pleasing their partner I would say ladies like myself care only about you having a fantastic time!! So if it doesn’t bother you it certainly wouldn’t bother me, only making you happy is what I would care about x
I've had this problem for years and initially felt shame and embarrassment bringing it up to providers. I thought they would take it personally and I usually overcompensated with the "It's not you, it's me" talk. Just like the OP, the problem is the opposite of ED, truly opposite as he describes. I can get hard and stay that way for an hour of longer, no blue pills needed. But finishing is far from the main reason I do this. I am looking for intimacy, companionship, and yes sex, but my pleasure is pleasuring.
These days I bring up the issue early in the session and tell my companion that at some point I realize it's not going to happen and we can agree to keep on keeping on or to wind down and enjoy each others company. Rarely do I have a companion who doesn't understand, or accept it and insists on doubling down, but I calmly let them know what I'm interested in at that point of the session. What I find helpful is building good relationships with a few regulars to avoid having to explain it over and over, which can add to the stress.
This is an actual condition and I've talked with both my MD and a Psychiatrist, who both listed age, stress, drug interactions, loss of sensitivity (hence super difficulty with condoms), and other causes. Unfortunately there are no pharmacological treatments at this time, although I hear of blue pill testing for it.
No, it does not bother me if you are not able to. But some gents unfortunately want orgasm to be the goal and that can take away from a fun session. It only bothers me if a client acts like it is *my* fault, which thankfully seldom happens. The journey is often the most fun, not always the destination.
It's tough to cum nowadays for us oldies.....(mid 50's)
especially with a condom.
Last meeting with a gal, I had seen her roommate previously and used that roommate as a reference.
She told me that her roommate said that I take a LONG time to finish. LOL
I told her that it isn't the end-all for me to finish.....
As long as she knows up front, she shouldn't care, especially if you're respectful.
Mid 50s is NOT old....you have a ways to go buddy!!!
I don't mind at all if my client finish or not as I understand every men is different, and I've had a good handful of men who come in just to enjoy me and my service without the need to finish. So if you don't mind, it would be great to communicate that.
On the other hand, if I was expecting to release you and aren't able to, I personally don't think it's an insult, but it can be disappointing. A lot of us independent providers aim to be successful. If we get to the end of the time you are booked for, I'll just ask if you want to purchase extra time--IF my time allows.
I realize I have no problem finishing while looking at some of the porn I pleasure myself with. Would providers be insulted if I wanted to look at my phone during a session? Do many guys want to do this?
Look man, if you can't nut with a 3D woman, you have two options, one, swear off 3D women altogether, buy a fleshlight, call it a day. Or two, get yourself right.
ED like that is a good representation of poor health, both mental and physical. Both of those things are fixable in the near term, like within a year, no problem. It's almost always going to involve losing weight, getting some exercise, getting consistent sunshine, abstaining from masturbation or at least manual masturbation (fleshlights are helpful there, particularly low-stimulation models), keeping your dingus well moisturized with something containing vitamin-e, taking supplements like ashwagandha (before bed) and Lions Mane Mushroom, and taking time out of your day to stop and breathe, do nothing for like 10 minutes on purpose.
You won't be able to perform like you're 20 again, that ship's sailed, but, you can perform well and get back to good function with this advice, and it won't just benefit your bedroom activities, but your whole life.
You are correct that I need to make some changes. I'm in good shape, the problem is 100% mental. It's not that I jerk off too much it's that I never get to have sex (that's a whole other story). The rare times I do get to have sex, it's a completely different experience than I'm used to.
them about the porn, some might not, but I bet most will!
Or show it to them and ask for them to duplicate the moves!
It’s kinda understood that we’re here to help w your release of pressure. Dicks that don’t cum are more work. When u don’t cum, a lady will likely find herself searching for a solution. It takes a while to realize that these penises are responding like a Strap-On. So the job is “connecting “ w the person, the human, and that’s a deeper level of work. Maybe let her know upfront so she doesn’t spend all her energy trying to breathe life into a dead horse.
Let me just say that you are a lucky guy. I wish I had that issue. It has taken my years to not climax within 10 minutes, and I watch TONS of porn and jerk off at least twice a week. Once, I was in your predicament, and I told my ATF that "it was okay. I didn't need to cum." I'm not in this hobby for the orgasm, I like the excitement and the variety. Of course, my ATF wasn't having it. She said, "lie back" and went to town on my cock with her mouth and hand until I came.
I guess some of them do see it as a challenge.
Also, a work ethic thing and they are providers, so they are going to provide!
It's their job, is how the girls I see, see it.
For many years, I saw a lady in LV that for a time was known as one of the top ladies in LV. If it said her name, some of you would recognize her. But she retired a few years ago. So, I will not mention it. Anyway, what she told me (and I have heard this from several ladies) is that you don't have to climax to have a good time. The important thing is to have a good time and a lady will do everything within reason to make sure that happens. If u don't climax don't sweat it. Its not the end of the world. I suppose when u are in your 20's you probably fill a bit asharmed. But the older gents (like me) will know what I mean.
Some do others don't. They tell you that they don't but if you're attentive enough you'd see a shade pass over their faces sometimes.
But even those that do can't care all that much because if it bothers them they can't possibly do this job imo, or like one provider I know would have an upward age limit.