Escalade

While I somewhat agree with you, I think it comes (no pun intended) down to two issues: 1) we're clearly enjoying it and the lady doesn't want us to "conveniently forget;" and, 2) lots of guys simply let 'er rip despite website, review, and other admonitions to the contrary.

Some of my best experiences have been with ladies that don't allow it, but if it's a deal-breaker for you, plenty of amazing, well-reviewed ladies out there that do!

Happy Hobbying,
Twice

At least not until they know you well. Because guys do the kind of stuff mentioned in the previous post... sometimes by accident, sometimes on purpose. And some guys don't do the research like you do.  

My ATF does CBJs for this very reason - she really really hates CIM. So until she trusts you completely, it's covered

Not everyone is aware. Not everyone thinks the rules apply to them. Trust is earned, not freely given. And for me personally, YMMV.  

Mind you, I've never had to even utter those words. If I'm not feeling it, I simply don't let it happen so I'm just speaking in general terms. If you feel that strongly about not hearing those words in the throes of passion, why not establish that you are aware of the boundary beforehand. Makes everyone's intentions crystal clear

her teeth are right next to her lips. Ouch!

CIM

I never pay upfront. So I usually can get a provider to do CIMWS.

Isn't this what reviews are supposed to be about?

Regardless what a gal's profile says, if it comes down to a YMMV as to whether or not you get CIM, this should be noted in the reviews. If there's a pattern of "not on our first date" or "I need to know you better" that should be noted. If it's a big "maybe" be prepared to take your chances. This is why reviews are more important than the gal's profile.  Ciao!

Heck sometimes I wouldn't even trust myself.

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She had no way of knowing whether you knew she didn't want CIM so I think the gentlemanly thing to do would have been to let her know that was your understanding to put her mind at ease.