Hi everyone,

I wanted to get your opinion on what I should do because I am currently a victim of harassment from a previous client and TER member.

I saw him for one session and he had some curious skin tags on his shaft so I told him that I could not see him again. He told me that he had gone to the doctor about it and confirmed that it was not an STD. I told him I value my health above all else and he needed to understand I did not feel comfortable.

Things were fine for awhile, but then he started texting me for another session and "just saying hello"

I told him to please stop since it was my work phone and that I did not like paying for his extra texts. He got mad and said that he was just trying to be friendly. I told him to leave me alone very sternly.

That is when he went off the handle and said that he would tell everyone he gave me warts, that I was not worth the price I charged.

I was panicked and I told him I would blacklist him. He said if he ever found anything bad he would sue me.

Then I tried to calm him down, and it led to him asking why we couldn't "be together" or have another session.

After a few hours of trying to be nice, I just said, go ahead and do what you want. I just do not want to talk to you anymore. You can't get the hint.

Then he said, I will post your incall address publically and tell everyone that a whore lives there. I was distraught.

So my question is...what should I do other than the steps I have already taken?

I have already
-changed my number
-saved his texts on a program
-sent a message to TER admin (they have not yet responded)

Thanks for your feedback

1. agree to meet with him and then have bubba there to kick his ass. (bubba is my bad ass blue doggie)

2.  threaten to use his screening information against him to make his life hell. tit for tat, there's more than one way to skin a cat.

3. tell him since he wants to be a bitch, you'll help him out and place him a craigslist ad every day for the next month,  under mfm looking for big cock in his ass all night.

4. blacklist him and ignore him


the solution is #4 if you want to really end it. he'll get bored and go away if he doesnt get any response.

but if you're a drama junkie,  #1 or #2 will give you the fix you need.

#3 is just to make you laugh.

most importantly, never let them see you sweat.  

getting ho-razzed by bullies is just a part of the job but as soon as they see you're not going to be an easy victim, they always back off because only a total wimp would start that crap.  

call me if you want.

If you were doing incall from your home you should think about your options.

Moving is a hassle and expensive, but peace of mind is worth something.

I would try to distance myself from the whole thing as quickly as possible.

Changing your number was good step.

Block his email address, and block his PMs if he is on this site.

The idea that he would sue you is laughable.

You should use back channels to let every provider in your area know about this jerk.

incall is a good idea. I just am getting one and one of my policies will be only to ssee regulars there or people that are WELL referred by providers I trust (which are mostly the only ref;s I accept anyways)
but I agree that oyu shouldnt let him bully you! WTF! Tell him to bring it! Im a nice gal and wouldnt hurt a fly but if someone's gonna threathen ME Im sure as hell gonna backfire times 100! I can hook you up with some people in the "protection" industry that would LOVE to have a meeting with to discuss this situation.... Unfortuntally its a professional hazard. Just like having a Gyno, Lawyer, Accountant and stylist =)

Guys like that, psychos, get off on the terrified responses and feedback you give them.
They can smell your fear and they play you for it.

Tell him that if he says an ill word about you publicly you will scan and publish your phone records and post them on every review site relevant to your market and blacklist him on every DNS site.

If he counters with that incall bit tell him that you are NOT afraid to go to the police because he is threatening you harm.
If he wants to fuck his life up he can go right ahead but you have the means to bounce out of that location and get another.

He'll STFU.

On another note, when you have reasons to not see a client again...uh don't tell them why, duh.
Just be conveniently unavailable.

Girls get themselves into trouble when they feel obligated to full disclosure.  You don't owe anyone any explanations and offering them nearly always stirs bad blood.

the pig likes it

The lady who advise you to escalate this by threatening him aren't taking any risks here, YOU ARE!

Don't make it worse for you.

Why provoke this guy at all? Do you really know what HE IS CAPABLE of DOING TO YOU?

You have to think about your safety at all times.

You should have NO contact with him at all.

Get out of this mess before you get hurt.

Suggest a meeting between you him and your protector in a city alley to try and explain things more clearly to him.  He is a wimp and would never show.

The Cyclist is right on.  Do not threaten and do not answer in any way.  And be sure to look over your shoulder.  You can blacklist if you believe he will not be able to get that information.  That is Plan A and hope it works since any Plan B will be more difficult to implement.

and are just there to frighten you. He can't prove a thing. Did you give him a receipt that says "$X received for sex?" All he can do is defame you and open HIMSELF up to a lawsuit.

He can't practically sue you for failure to provide an illegal service.

BUT -- if he publishes YOUR information you can most assuredly sue him into oblivion.

One thing you CAN do easily -- though the wisdom of doing so is debatable -- is take out a Domestic Violence Restraining Order. You can get that initially based on your word alone.

He will enjoy receiving that at either work or home. At that point, if he tries to contact you AT ALL, it is a criminal offense for which he can be arrested.

A month later, he can show up in court to try to beat the order. Odds are, he won't show, and it will be permanent. At that point, he will fail all future attempts to get a job and his life will essentially be destroyed in many respects.

Easy as pie -- and completely on the basis of your word alone. He has no effective defense.

The reason I say the wisdom of doing this is debatable, though, is because an otherwise non-violent fellow can sometimes be moved to violence when the hand of the police is brought to bear on him. So you have to use your judgment.

BTW, it is my opinion that all providers should attend the Lethal Force Institute and/or Gunsite and pack heat.

he will eventually get tired and go away after a while.

your history, a single session, does not seem so very complicated. it became more complicated when you responded after he started texting for a second session. instead of telling him to stop, it would have been better risk management to simply ignore the texts. just delete them or block the incoming text.

if you Google (block text messages) you will find instructions for how to do that for all the major cell phone providers.

just don't engage in any dialogue at all. using a third party to send him a message can only make things worse. the best way to continue from here is to resolutely ignore him and not interfere with his life in any way. be patient and wait it out. let him get tired. if he escalates, like by showing up _then_ get the domestic violence protection order.

He may come to this board and will figure your talking about him. Now you are in the position of having to do something or he knows your not going to do anything. He also knows you reported him to TER which is what he didn't want.

I have had stalkers and there's no easy way to remove yourself from their minds.You don't fall in love in one visit nor is any BBBJ or pussy so good that you can't find another one. He's not after you for that reason but on a mission that he himself can only stop.

I hope he reads this and tries to understand the warning signal he is giving. It is a very dangerous game for a few moments of passion. If you can't take control and move on go get help. I am sure this is not the first time this has happened in your life with someone.

Kisses Haley

If a girl gets busted, serious trouble and as bad as having drugs even if she is licensed to carry.

Illegal activity + weapons do not mix.

Definitely -- firearms and illegal stuff don't mix.

Ana gave you the best advice. Ignore him. The longer you let him push your buttons, the more it's going to escalate. You have the provider's board, and there are other sites where you can blacklist him, if you choose to go that route.

You should have in your Roledex of friends a Police Officer, Hell mine have gotten rid of husbands, wives and weirdo's as you mentioned. You just dont use that card in your Roledex lightly, serious threats only.  Maybe you have a friend who knows a cop and you can keep this as quite as possible. Good luck.

I would think every girl has at least one LE "friend" and if not, at least a 'chained gorilla type" that for a freebie would pay a visit that was peaceful, yet got the point accross that further hassment of you is likely to cause the former client a level of discomfort he will not enjoy.

Since you have changed your # and notified
admin I would walk away from it.
If you give him feedback you are only
fueling the fire.

File an order of protection  if he continues
or suddenly shows up at your door.

If he submits a false review at least it his history will have already been brought to the attention of the staff /admin and members to warrant a deletion of the said review IF he goes that far.

Good luck
Angela

It goes without saying; this so-called hobbyist is an immature, sleaze ball. His balls should rot off.

If you please, where did these mishaps occur?

With  all sincerity, we don't need him in our community. He'll be removed.

Truly yours,

Sheika Fatima
[email protected]

I have read everyone one of your responses and I have taken it all into account. Currently, I'm ignoring him, but I have not heard back from TER admin. I sent them an e-mail with all the information that they should need to [email protected].

All I can say is Thank you all for your comments, and I will contact anyone for advice that extends it to me.

after we had moved on, an ex of mine once had a lot of trouble getting disentangled from drama associated with her "next ex".

it was tough, but she did get through it with the patienct ignoring thing. i was able to help a little to talk her through it. she tended to be a little hot headed and patience did not come naturally to her. we still chat about it now years later.

let him talk, who cares

depending on his TER history he might actually have a friend who is a provider who might tell him. or it might leak out in an unintended way.

ignoring him is by far the best unless he shows signs of escalating.

since it was only one visit that took place, simpler is better: ignore, ignore, ignore.

I won't dress up like a cop (felony) but a chained gorilla I can pull off and used to in  a former profession. LOL