What? Tight, short skirts and hooker shorts 'can be worn at work or at the club?' What kind of hookers are you fkin? Anyone over 22 with a career would not be caught dead in that crap. Stop justifying your slutty attire on her dime. If she went out and bought it just for you, no you don't have to pay extra... she's just stupid, but don't sit here and act like most professional women would wear that tacky crap anywhere but inside a hotel room. I would burn it on the way out.
I'm wondering if you boys pay extra for special location requests when you want to book a specific lady? Isn't it the polite thing to do since she's accommodating your incall location request if she didn't advertise for that area? There are some areas that cost a lot of money so my location changes and I rely on secret hotel deals for the best value. I do not have the money to just throw around on expensive locations and I see few people where I can't simply drop an extra 200 dollars just to make sure guys are happy with my location and incall quality for the day.
Any thoughts on being compensated for special requests
and the negotiation power of both sides are what drive the decision.
In your case, if you want to have a gal go to a five star hotel at $500/night instead of a 3 star that you can get for under $100 on Priceline, then yes, you better be prepared to pay.
A more typical case is when a guy wants a gal to wear a specific outfit and she has to go and buy it. If it's just a few bucks, she won't even mention it but what if it's an outfit that costs hundreds and she's never had a request for it before, and most likely won't see one again? The client should foot that bill.
There's a lot of gray area in this discussion
As stormy noted, I believe the OP is a lady asking permission to charge more. And stormy's answer is perfect.
If some client wants you to go to a special hotel, it is completely reasonable to:
a. expect him to book and pay for the hotel
b. charge him for an outcall.
If he wants incall, he goes to your incall.
Will some guys give you crap for that? Sure. Do you want them as clients? The dollars may seem nice if business is slow, but in the long term you are way better off without that type of business.
I agree that there is potentially some negotiation involved, but if a guy is asking you to spend almost your entire fee on getting a hotel he likes, then he either is an asshole or an idiot, and in I do not find negotiation with assholes and idiots to be productive.
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If a guy is making special requests of any kind that involve serious money, you ought to ask him to pay some or all of it, be it a room at a nice hotel, clothes, or even expensive toys.
For more niggling expenses, probably good marketing dictates that you eat the cost and hope to be able to use the item again for another client.
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I just wrote that gents are welcome to provide outfits, and I put my sizes on there, lol. If they want me to buy something special and it's within reason, great! I also ask for notice for requests. (A few days.) I agree that if it's a few bucks, no worries. I once bought an outfit for the amount the guy paid me for the appointment. I was new and wanted to impress the guy, but WTF? LOL.
Your incall is your incall. If you are having an incall where he wants, that is more like outcall.
and he's the only one she's expecting to see there, then I'd expect (as a client) to either rent the room myself or compensate her in cash for doing so.
Remember, as a client, never leave a room you've rented in the possession of a provider... she uses it as her incall & you are responsible (and your CC possibly charged) for damages or mini-bar. Even if you pay cash, the room must be guaranteed with a CC. Surprise!
If I asked a Gal to change location, it becomes a grey area but if it was to accommodate my request, I'd expect some extra charge. It might be subject to negotiation but if there was a 100 or 200 added cost, perhaps splitting the extra would be reasonable.
Now if a client requests a lady wear a evening gown to accompany him to an even, she may not own a suitable dress... he pays & she keeps the dress as a tip.
I think that's a perfectly reasonable thing to expect. In fact I've gone ahead and rented a room myself when I wanted to meet in a specific location. What's less reasonable is the lady telling me after the doing of the deed that "by the way I rented this room just so we could meet so could you please pay for it". Because she was otherwise a nice lady and I had just had a great time watching her and a girlfriend get it on I was willing to chip in. But I let her know that was not cool.
If you are traveling to a specific location to see just one client and no one else I don't think it's unreasonable to expect him to pay for the room. I simply handle this sort of situation as an out call and book the room myself but some guys are not willing to have their name on a hotel bill. You may have to book the room but, again, if he's your only client, he should be willing to absorb all, or at least half, of the cost.
If you decide to advertise your presence in that particular area and use the same room to see other clients I don't think that the fellow making the original request has any responsibility for the room cost at that point.
i only hobby to experience a specific type of session. however i am totally upfront about this in my initial email contacts with everyone.
most ladies are into it, some more than others. some have called me names.
only a few have asked for more $$$. then we negotiate.
only once did i pay extra $$$, because the lady led me to believe she had specific outfits that accomodated my requests. turned out she lied.
i also ask for outfit requests, but nothing out of the ordinary (short mini skirts, short shorts, tight t shirts, high heels...things i am sure most ladies have in their wardrobe, even if they aren't in the hobby lol).
only a couple times have the ladies gone out and purchased clothing for our meeting. since i made it clear in my requests that the outfits were not deal breakers, i don't feel i need to compensate them for their purchase. everything i ask for can be worn in other venues, not just in the hobby, so they could easily wear their outfits to work or to a club or etc, in other words i don't feel that they laid out the money strictly for me.
i also often purchase clothing myself for my dates, having gotten their sizes before hand.
i have found that, and maybe it's just the couple of dozen of ladies i've seen, but every time i slip in an extra $$$ in the envelope, it gets me literally nothing back. not to say i'm expecting more time or an extra bj or something, but i am telling you truthfully i have never even gotten a "thank you" or "come here and kiss me you big lug!" so, since i have never even got an acknowledgement of my extra trouble, i no longer put anything more in the envelope than we have agreed to.
if you feel as a provider you should get extra compensation for a specific request, then by all means let the hobbyist know early in the communications. nothing's worse than an upsell there in the room (that's happened to me, too, oddly enough by the same lady that lied about her wardrobe).
just my 2 cents
What? Tight, short skirts and hooker shorts 'can be worn at work or at the club?' What kind of hookers are you fkin? Anyone over 22 with a career would not be caught dead in that crap. Stop justifying your slutty attire on her dime. If she went out and bought it just for you, no you don't have to pay extra... she's just stupid, but don't sit here and act like most professional women would wear that tacky crap anywhere but inside a hotel room. I would burn it on the way out.
i write a post and my asshole comments...
You should tell your asshole to find classier hookers. Just sayin.
Anything else would be downright fkin' rude.
make for a smooth greeting...
It really depends on the rate. I included incall and up to 2 hours of travel time in my rate, but any less than that rate, it would have been an added travel fee. If I live in Destin and a guy wants an incall in PCB (about 1.5 hours away) it is logical to assume there is going to be not only an extra charge, but a deposit as well. I would not ever suggest any provider drive 2 plus hours and rent a hotel room on faith, that said client is not going to flake... that's pure stupidity. Cover your ass, or no one else will.
Definitely the person whom request it should compensate for it, especially if it out of pocket expense...
The Negotiator??? LOL
I don't have the means to even ask for high society type of dates like that...
I always think about when I was a waiter when it comes to working with an escort.
When I was a waiter. I took care of my good customers..
I made sure the cook gave them the best cut because I knew they would appreciate it.
Then tip me...
So the way I see it...
If you are a great customer... She should pay.
If you are new to her.. You pay.
I pay 100%. I don't like in call and would rather pay the extra cash.
Incall for me registers as disgusting. Just my
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