Currently had a few of these happen in the past week.
Reach out per their directions (email or text).
And after 2 days no response?
These are higher reviewed ladies, I am p411 member but dont understand how many times this happens.
After a day or so do I reach out again? I know they get busy or spam can happen, I dont want to be pushy but as a business man I have always believed in "don't make it hard for people to give you money "
Ladies? Gents? Everyone in-between?
Thoughts...
On to the next one.
Its as simple as that.
No need to get in your feelings about it just move right along, using the reviews on this site as your guide.
Usually means it went to spam . I know for some ladies though if they screen you and don’t want to see you they just ignore. I feel this is unprofessional though. I think you at least deserve a response back to know the email was received. I understand not everyone is a good fit for some but don’t ignore them.
I hope you get your answer .
Thats my theory, just lie and say your booked.
I can be conceded and believe im a good fit but I respect their decisions.
I have moved on and hours later the 1st one gets back to me then I feel cheated I didn't get my 1st choice lol
Cheers
I reach out once. I ditched p411 because I believe it’s not what it once was but if I remember correctly you can see when someone reads your message.
I usually will follow-up once. It could have gone to spam. Could have been at a busy time. Could be on a multi-day booking. Various reasons.
Million reasons why she hasn't replied and most have nothing to do with you. Plenty of other girls who would love your attention.
Yep. I like dealing with people who have their shit together. Poor communication is a red flag to me.
I responded ASAP.
Some TER & P411 members seem to feel entitled & don't read my website before reaching out. I still reply.
I have noticed an increase of time wasters. Who reach out to chat 💬 and ask a bunch of explicit questions just because they have lots of okays & reviews. I am going to stop responding to people who have not respectfully cared to read what's created to eliminate this problem.
I read on another board a member blast a well or highly reviewed provider for blacklisting him for not respecting her screening protocol. There is two sides to every story. I don't participate in the blacklist, but I recently had a TER member contact me to look him up on the list. 🤦🏽♀️
I would say it depends on how you reached out when contacting the provider. The best thing to do is always read the providers website & TER reviews prior to ever wasting anyone's time. Respect is a two way street.
First impressions count.
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Thank you,
I agree, the last thing I want to do is waste their time. I know a lot if guys do that and I try to respect their guidelines. If im intrested im willing to jump through whatever hoops they want, just communicate to me....
1000 percent agree with that. The best way to get a hold of a provider is to go to the website first and fill out the screening / booking form and that will get to us a lot faster. I do try to get back asap as long as I am not busy with a client. I like to know what my day / week is like ahead of time and so I do try to get back with you as soon as I can..
The only time I do not respond is if they come off disrespectful, vulgar [sending unwanted ''pics''] etc, at which point I just block and delete they are definitely not the type of client I want to see.
…if it’s a week or so ahead of time I’ll give it two-three days max. If I want to schedule 2-3 days out I’ll give it 24 hours max. I always reach out via P411, that way they can verify me at the same time as my request which speeds up the response time.
I would say the email went to spam, I like resending emails . I think it’s rude not to reply either way .
and get a shock, how long do you wait to try it again? If you have made a proper request for an appointment, with all of the information a provider wants to know about you in order to make an informed decision about whether to see you, the burden moves to her to respond, it doesn't stay on you to keep trying. If you don't have a properly drafted request, then she is likely to think you will be a high-maintenance rookie and she will have to spend too much time coddling you and pulling information out of you.
Providers can tell a lot about us from the way we frame our requests for an appointment. They hate time-wasters. When I decide to see someone, I frame my request this way . . . . . "Hi, this is XXX. I'm going to be in town this coming week, and I would like to request an appointment for one/two hours on Wednesday at 1:00p. I'm a business executive and have been seeing providers for many years. I'm Caucasian, 6', 200 pounds, with a muscular, athletic build. I have looked at your website, so I'm aware of your rates. Here are two recent providers who will give me a reference . . . . Tasty-Lips, phone number xxx-xxx-xxxx, and Toe-Sucker Sally, xxx-xxx-xxxx. I look forward to your prompt response. "
As you can see, this provides everything a provider may want to know about me. She may still ask some questions, but it won't be because I left anything out that MOST providers want to know before booking in my appointment request. Because of the completeness of my request, I will wait 24 hours for a response from a provider before choosing another girl to see during my requested day and time, but only 2 hours if she works through an agency.
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All you need to say is:
Hi ___. My name is _______. I noticed your ad on ______, and was intrigued. I would like to meet you on ___ at ___ o'clock for _______ hours (specify incall or outcall).
My P411 ID is ________. My references are _____________________. If you require additional information to screen, please reach out to me.
Thank you, and I look forward to hearing back soon.
If you are missing elements in your initial email, you may get ignored.
I’d add phone number. Add note not to call or text unless gentleman initiates. If phone number is connected to iCloud iPad at home etc etc.. get a hobby number to use consistently 
Burner app, Telegram, and others.
I personally prefer email communication so texting you won’t happen unless you text me first 😊
adding contact information is essential. My bad!
My initial contact will have all of the information that they'd requested. But, as has been mentioned, I've had initial initial contact emails go to Spam.
After the initial contact, I'll wait 48 hours. If they have an alternate contact method (text, web page booking form, etc.) I'll use it. If not, I'll use the same channel and say "I sent an inquiry a couple of days ago, I'm checking in to see whether it got misplaced." And, include all of the same information.
If you don't hear back after that, move on. It wasn't meant to be.
