Tweeting is just adding an additional element of risk and exposure.
Recently had a lady friend tell me that it is indeed a social networking site that is under great scrutiny when it comes to this hobby of ours. 
But I do agree with another poster, in general, both sides to the "party" have been exposing more and more about each other, that it should leave both sides feeling uncomfortable.
What ever happened to discretion ? It was once part of what made this "hobby" so delightfully exquisite to partake in... the ability to have another life, that was indulgent, pleasurable, and so divine, and caused for those smiles that made people wonder what you had been up to.
You might think it's fun to tweet something like "ewwww, sweaty trick!" right after an appointment but imagine how that makes your client feel.
He selected you over hundreds or thousands of other ladies. He spent a considerable amount of hard earned money. He just had a great time. And then he see this tweet from you when he gets home.
Well there you have it a provider review board so to speak. I guess that will be a new section in reviews, was the lady rude enough to tweet about your date? Talk about no discretion. Ladies if you tweet about your date there is nothing discrete about you. Please remove any such references about you being discrete from your site.
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How does that have anything to do with discretion? Unless she named the client no one would know who she was talking about.
Many people vent about their jobs on facebook / twitter whatever. Why should sex workers be different? It may not be a smart business move to do it, but it's hardly a breach of confidentiality.
i agree it is very rude and im glad to say i would never do that because believe it or not i like all my clients in one way or another.
There is something I lick, I mean like, about all my clients...LOL. I do not think it is discreet when a lady tweets about her clients because then everyone knows her business (or the business she is in). What is discreet about everyone knowing what you are up to or who you just did?
Don't wear your feelings and sensitivity on the shoulder. Think about some of the reviews providers have to put up with.
Keep on moving on!
I've never seen that happen before. but if it is constructive criticism is that a good thing? perhaps it can make me a better lover? Unless it is clearly an insult.
but some ladies are just too narcissistic to care. these are a bit dangerous and need to be avoided.
i once met a lady in a bar. she was on her cell, back to me, blabbing away about the business of a "friend" she was meeting. i heard much not pretty about me while i called her name to get her attention. finally i touched her shoulder and she hung up.
needless to say the meeting didn't go well. i should have walked and risked the NCNS. the incident is on my mind since it is relevant to a post elsewhere. this weekend has been "interesting" but that is a post for a different venue.
i think it is a legitimate item to note in a review. be prepared for the "lady's" defenders to make things uncomfortable for you though.
if it didn't take place during a meeting or in setting up one, there is no place for it in a review.
its definately rude but so are some clients.
why would anyone do this is beyond me but when you read reviews they aren't always nice so you gotta know there are comments out there about rude clients. The more vast and open the internet gets the more yo will see things like this.
you all want to believe all men behave well in a session well thats not so and if she wants to cry about it inspite of what it can do to her business so be it as long as she isn't using names wheres the discretion issue here.
I know I wouldn't do this I have no use for twitter.
Look, just behave yourself and be a good client and no one will bad mouth you.
while finding, selecting, communicating with, arranging a date with and meeting a provider that gives him a reason to be concerned belongs in a review
If more guys would mention flaky unreliable communication, tardiness, broken commitments, specific poor business skills, and any causes for alarm in their reviews, it would save the rest of us a lot of wasted time and frustration.
Rarely play here but I find it ironic ( to be polite) that you would want a gent to post neg review, under his handle, and reap the " benefits" of such , yet you offer this wisdom under an alias.
that might honk someone off - or better yet to never use your "real alias" at all.
And don't give providers your TER handle.
That way you can move freely, speak freely, review honestly and not have to put up with bullshit.
The OP already said that it was not him that was the butt of the comment btw.
Principle remains intact - reviewers out to be honest and complete else the review system is a joke (guess what - a lot of reviews are already lol)
Respect that you did not attack, but does not matter if OP was butt or not.
My issue is that you post under alias, do not give your handle to providers, (guess) that you don't post reviews, yet you expect others like myself, to post honest , negative if ness, reviews for you to benefit?
Seems fair.
it sometimes does not work as sweetly as you describe. in the main you are right but that isn't an invariable rule.
i deeply regret not having written a review to reflect the behaviour in my post.
First and foremost, providers using twitter or other networking sites need to realize that the security on these sites is zero zip nada.
I understand that this gives them a way to interact with other providers, feels like community of a sort. But it is entirely public.
It is extremely unwise to make admissions against interest (ie admitting turning tricks) on these sites. "Tweeting" anything that she would not say in person to a total stranger who might just have come from the local donut shop is not wise.
Ladies who really let it hang out on twitter go on my personal DNS list.
Then there is the matter of lack of good judgment / unguarded moments. If she does not value her own privacy she sure as hell does not value mine.
I have seen providers "twit" comments as you describe before. Absolute turn off. Completely uncooth. Zero common sense, deplorable lack of respect for the very hobbyists that put money in your hand and food in your mouth.
She does not need my patronage.
but it's really not ok. I have (mostly) delightful memories which make me smile... and which I will take with me to my grave. Would a lady be so indiscreet? I will use the same standards I apply to the male side of the hobby.
A secret is only a secret when only one person knows. Best friends get drunk, P.O.'d, break it off... and blab... and can do everyone great harm. I will not give someone else that power over me & I will not see those who do.
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good or bad. I don't quite get the whole tweeting, facebook thing. I guess I am too old.
This shows a lack of professionalism and seriously bad judgement. I doubt that she will be seeing many repeat clients.
I only discuss clients with other providers if he requests that I give him a reference or if it is a safety issues that other providers need to be aware of.
..intimate details about an illegal enterprise. Not sure who's dumber here, the gal who does it or the guy who books an appointment with her...
ever know what someone else was tweeting about.
I would have no idea if a provider I was seeing, or anyone else for that matter was sharing intimate details with the public at large, which in itself is a rather sobering thought.
Well, you never REALLY know much of anything about a total stranger but you have to put some faith in your own ability to choose wisely and avoid flaky providers.
LMAO! I didnt even know girls did that kind of thing....that is so unprofessional. But hey you fellas do it too!
Glad I dont tweet...twit...whatever. But I have seen hobbyists tweet about me! I googled my username and whatdoyaknow someone tweeting about my goodness LOL
Tweeting is just adding an additional element of risk and exposure.
Recently had a lady friend tell me that it is indeed a social networking site that is under great scrutiny when it comes to this hobby of ours.
But I do agree with another poster, in general, both sides to the "party" have been exposing more and more about each other, that it should leave both sides feeling uncomfortable.
What ever happened to discretion ? It was once part of what made this "hobby" so delightfully exquisite to partake in... the ability to have another life, that was indulgent, pleasurable, and so divine, and caused for those smiles that made people wonder what you had been up to.
...speaking of which...what HAVE you been up to Darling? Vegas just ain't the same without ya!!
XOXO as usual..now grab yer ankles (please)...LOL
Well at least I said 'please' this time!!
Send me an email!
Oh and so I don't get slammed for being too far offtopic...I don't use the social networks hardly at all, twitter is a nuisance in general and for sure should NOT be used to share private info of ANY kind! There's an unwritten rule about confidentiality in this playground, and it works both ways.
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but deleted my profile because I received so much spam, and so many "friend" requests from people I did not know. It was obvious there was very little control over the tweets, and no privacy at all.
I've read posts by other women who thrive on Tweeter, but I thank you for posting this here. If they choose to use that venue, hopefully it will make them rein in some of their more idiotic comments.
What happens in fantasy land stays in fantasy land.
I don't think that is a nice thing that was done. So why not create a list of girls that do that and pass it out to seasoned guys?
Please don't take it out on other ladies who don't behave like that. I do know that most hobbist's make a point to be squeeky clean and should not be thrown into a pool of ones that don't.
just draws more attention to this *illegal* business.
I prefer NOT to wave a big red flag of activity other than ads and my site. No facebook twitter or anything like that I see it as over expossure and we really don't need it.
...is that a bad thing? I think the general public needs to be more informed of the realities of our endeavors, that not every woman who gets paid for sex is a 14 year old illegal alien sex-slave with a gorilla pimp, and I think the media and LE promote that image cuz it's good for their revenues. If my personal interactions with my GF's is cause for alarm and hue & cry, then tell me why? I gave MORE money for sex to my exwife and other 'Civvie' GF's than to my GFE's & casual friends...and the sex is (usually) WAY better, too!! What's wrong with it being a straight-up business deal?
Look what's happened with marijuana, it's not so harshly 'demonized' as even 10 years ago - partly due to 'positive' exposure and a strong dose of reality...I hope to live long enough to see that happen with other victimless 'crimes' involving personal choice.
pot is something a great many ppl do and have no problem admiting to, but most men can not admit to this, their wives just wouldn't go for it.
moral walls will not come tumbling down for this behavior in this country any time soon. I am certain I will be a long time retired if not dead and buried before any head way is made in that direction. Too many crazy baptists and religious freaks out there. too much chance of desease spreading and all around the majority of this country sees it all in the wrong light. The more its pushed into the light the tougher the laws against it will get. They are srtengthening the laws as we speak. They see this internet expossure as a slap in the face to the law and LE takes it personally. Basically we are breaking the law and singing about it all over the net. All I have to say is don't hold your breath.
Any politicial known to have voted in favor of this, well first they have to explain to their wives why they voted this way and next they HAVE THE VOTERS WHO WON'T RE ELECT THEM. they vote in favor of their careers and thats not always in favor of whats right good or their opinions. Prostitution is illegal a moral judgement and frowned upon by just about every wife out there...religious figure and political machine. It is what it is and thats not going to change any time soon. voting in favor of legalization is a career killer politically. Never mind a strain on their marriage. they may agree with us, play in this field also but they are not going to shout it from the roof tops OR vote it in. harsh reality but I am afraid the witch hunting will continue.
As much as i hated reading and accepting the truth you write, i have to admit you have spoken the hard reality. Don't count on politicians for all the reasons you state.
We are lucky its as prevalent and as easy to find as it is now.
but also on Facebook, various boards chatting with other local providers, and LinkedIn of all places. I mean, LinkedIn? What possible use could that be?
I happen to be a member there with plenty of professional associates that I am linked up with in our various professions.
Two providers recently attempted to link up with me, which I never responded to, but still WTF are they thinking.
There might well be some other professionals within LinkedIn that are also hobbyists. Like that matters? These two providers are also very popular on my regional board and one of them on this very board. I guess they believe they are professionals, but at what?
i agree if it wasnt for them we wouldnt have our lovely jobs be grateful for every client who thinks an hour of your time is brobably worth a couple if not more of his
this shit? Why bring unwanted attention to yourselves and your dates?
No need to hide behind an alias.
TOTALLY GAY!!!
And when I say ignorant, I mean uninformed and not necessarily in a negative way. Bear with me…
First, let me preface this by saying everything I initially learned about escorts when I was 17 years old was via Google, not Twitter.
With that said, Twitter is not evil. Twitter is not why the escort industry has boomed online over the past ten years. Twitter does not publish explicit reviews with juicy details of our sessions. Twitter is simply a social networking site. Unfortunately, there are some people on Twitter who misuse the venue, but don’t fault Twitter itself, blame those individuals. And generalizing is so passé, so let’s remember that while there are some providers who misuse Twitter, there are many who don’t. Likewise, there are some reviewers here who post a provider's hotel location and name in reviews, and there are others who don't.
Fortunately, older adults are responsible for the boom of Twitter. That is, children don’t use Twitter much, as they find it lame.
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/08/26/technology/internet/26twitter.html?_r=1
http://topics.nytimes.com/top/news/business/companies/forrester-research-inc/index.html?inline=nyt-org
So then what’s wrong with escorts using the site? As if we can’t socialize or network with others outside of TER or other traditional hobby sites, which by the way are listed in Google’s search engine…yes the same one children use when perusing the internet. As if providers aren’t regular people who want to have healthy networking relationships online just like you. If you haven’t figured it out yet, being an escort can be socially isolating. Yes, it is great that some providers are “out” and supported by their family and friends, but this is not the case for many. We need to socialize too.
Also, Twitter does allow an element of privacy, which some would argue is more than TER does. Twitter allows a person to protect their tweets from the general public by marking them private. This means only those they approve as followers can see their tweets. However, we can’t protect our reviews here or mark them as private. Anyone who pays the $20 membership fee can read all about last night’s sex fest. LE can’t just pay to read someone’s private tweets, but they can pay to read the reviews here. So should we complain to TER about their lack of privacy?
As far as causing unwanted attention to oneself, a review with explicit details about how deep a provider can take your penis is a lot less discreet and I would gather causes more unwanted attention to a provider than her tweeting about her latest blog or the book she is currently reading. If tweeting causing unwanted attention, what say you about providers who post on the TER boards? Should they stop posting here?
Also, Twitter allows clients to learn more about providers (e.g. their personality) than just how good she does cowgirl. I suppose if that’s all you look for in a provider then stick to what you know best…reviews. Of course if you’ve never spent a multi-hour session with a provider, getting to know her beyond the physical probably doesn’t matter to you much. However, to some gents, knowing about the provider’s personality is vital.
Now I have seen some ladies tweet about specifics to their location. This isn’t smart and is definitely a safety issue. Providers should be discreet with posting their whereabouts.
As far as LinkedIn goes, it is an avenue to meet and socialize with clients as well. Unfortunately, not everyone lives and dies by TER. Of course if you don’t want to be linked to an escort on LinkedIn, decline her request. I’m certain it’s not a big deal to her.
Anyway, for those who haven’t caught on yet, the hobby has already been exposed to the internet. We are out there! And now we just have to be smart. It doesn’t matter which venue you use, it is how you use it. And yes, LE is reading this post right now. WE ARE ALREADY OUT THERE. HELLO LE...YOU KNOW ABOUT US, DON'T YOU? Yes, we can't hide.
So to those who do not see a lady because she tweets, that is too bad for you. I know of some ladies who use Twitter to promote good causes like being environmentally friendly. You are missing out on some great women just because they are savvy enough to step outside of the TER/Bad Dog/CV/[Insert any mainstream hobby outlet here] websites we are all brainwashed into thinking are the be all and end all.
Lastly, to anyone who thinks tweeting is lame but posts on the GD board all day...is hilarious. I have some clients who lurk the boards and make fun of the posters here. Of course, I explain that's not fair to the posters here. They have every right to enjoy their favorite pastimes, just as others should. People in glass houses...LOL.
OP: I find it to be completely unprofessional of the provider in question to post anything negative about your date on her Twitter page. Of course this is coming from a business standpoint. However, if she didn’t specifically post your name, she didn’t breach any confidentially. I wouldn’t quote her tweet in a review, though it is fair game to post on the RO and regional boards about her use of Twitter. After all, unless she marked her tweets private, they are there for all to see, and as a result can be scrutinized.
Xoxo.
twitter and how to use it effectively without getting embarassed. I have often been amazed by the computer savey of some of the ladies in this biz.
Honey,
Twitter, Myspace, Linkedin (wow), and Facebook were not designed or marketed for any aspect of hobbying.
The FED are now crawling those sites a few ladies have been arrested because of their Twitter accounts.
Considering how serious a charge could be for solicitation (some states are passing laws to have us labeled as registered sex offenders) I am not about to fuck up my entire existence over an envelope. Allure` a sex offender? I can't see my own grandkids, my minor relatives, can't live near a school, and the list goes on and on.....? and to avoid all that I just needed to REMEMBER the art of being DISCRETE? Not buying it!
Sorry Gia...the Twitter, Myspace, or whatever you decide put your provider self on... outside of any sites not meant for p4p is not smart. You are asking for some serious and very real unnecessary legal nightmare possibly life long DRAMA.
I don't know everything and I'm always open to learn. And perhaps you are right, but I also may be right to bet providers who post pussy shots or nudes will be busted sooner or later. And how about providers who openly post clear face shots and then book a hotel?
Perhaps you are right or maybe I am. Who knows? Only time will tell...
Until then, screen and be safe everyone.
Xoxo.
Tweeting will get them busted in time. Watch!
I agree with Allure on this, but also no doubt LE reads all these p4p sites.
Our personal websites are well know BP CL CV Eros Bestgfe what ever else is out there. LE have accounts here are Vip members, on P411 suspected to be on the PO board and most likely on the reviewers board as well. they know who we are all about us they are internet savy and getting better at it every day. I believe in discretion but they know who we are don't doubt that.
It seems to me joining all these other sites is a gateway for LE. (and yes that most likely includes TER to some degree.) I see no problem with providers or hobbyist joining networking sites as civies. But if they are they are unable to completely compartmentalize there working life from what they post on social networking sites it is my opinion they are headed for trouble. Just my .02 cents.
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... Ladies, I have no problem with you going on Twitter or using any other social networking site.
That being said, just be smart about it. If you wanna say what you want (which imho, you have EVERY right to) as well as keep "some" anonymity (especially from LE), then be sure to assume a new identity.
It'll separate your tweets from your clients, so they won't know they're being tweeted about (lol, I used a pun) as well as keep "some" anonymity from the LE.
Again, a lot of hobbyists (and some providers) seriously need to get over yourself.
Seriously, you Manginas and Alphas... I'm seriously starting to think you two types are really one in the same.
I am deeply grateful to every person who has chosen to share their time with me and treated me with respect. The sweat, the beer belly, the wiry curls of chest hair, are all beautiful to me.
I know I've been fortunate. I don't understand why some (emphasis on SOME) other girls don't appreciate their good fortune.
Some people really get carried away with all these social networks. There is such thing as too much information. I agree that this is very rude and people really should think about what they say and how it will affect others prior to saying or typing.