I would not be able to share my hobby with my SO (and, not sure that I would want to).  But, short of that, I believe that for a hobbyist, I have the perfect SO.

My Father always told me whatever you’re not doing at home she’s getting somewhere else. If you’re going through this much trouble trying to cover your tracks, do you assume her needs are not being met sexually?
Married people lie to each other. I don’t idolize your marriage & I do not think you have an almost perfect SO. To each their own. The perfect SO to me is one you can be 100% honest without hiding caca. 💩 I believe most wives are happy with the bills being paid no sex needed.

Is she a good cook..  A buddy of mine is an excellent cook. Really amazing. If he didn't have a career in finance / banking, he could be a chef in a restaurant.  His old lady... Well lets put it this way.. I have had better food at Taco Bell..  

Never married, but my graceful approach to handling cleaning is to hire a professional cleaning service.  

You’re absolutely correct. ☑️ Anyone who cooks & cleans is a good SO. I cook & clean daily. Gourmet meals it’s ridiculous because I can cook it makes me a critic. Lol 😆 No wants a lazy SO in, or outside of the bedroom. Having a team player is a bonus.

My guess is your answer to the question: "What do you do if the dishwasher stops working," is.....
"Hit her."
LOL.

Keep on thinking that and soon or later you’ll let your guard down and then she’ll jump on you.
Don’t be fooled ….SO know more then you think. Woman have the sense about their man. They know…. They just know.

Why not.. !!!    

This guy is smart !!!  He is right..

Not if she is willing to hand wash them till it gets fixed...  

If i wanted someone that can cook and clean, ill hire a maid.  

If she was really perfect, you wouldn't need to pay other women for sex. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with her not being perfect, especially if she is meeting other needs that you value. But just call it what it is.

You seem to have missed the finer point of inicky's comment.

Posted By: SinCitySinner

Re: This post illustrates why it's a good thing you never married.
Not if she is willing to hand wash them till it gets fixed...  

Definitely agree !!

There was no other finer point as far as i am concerned.

Lets dissect that for a second...  

Most wives don't give a shit as long as the neighbors don't know and your ugly mug does not show up in the paper. Don't get too cocky and you should be golden.

Show me the most "perfect" woman and ill show you a guy that is tired of sex with her.  

And there's no chance you'll bring home an STI?  

Ms. Temptation,

A few things come to mind, in response to your question:

I don't know what world you live in..  If anything most wives care about is what their man is up to.. Unless the marriage is already over (whether its legally over or not)..  A lot of wives are hovering over their husbands like a helicopter.  

You are not married. LOL

I love my SO (and, I appreciate the paradox in that claim)
We are intimate regularly and I enjoy it.  And, she says that she does.
She's not my slave.  Together, we make sure that our house functions.
I have a higher sex appetite than she does (or, she ever has).
I didn't say "I have the perfect SO", period.  I said "for a hobbyist".

Am seeing she has a lack of negatives from you point of view.  But I dont really see you noting positives in your relationship.  

This is how I read inicky's post.

Posted By: SinCitySinner

Re: This post illustrates why it's a good thing you never married.
Not if she is willing to hand wash them till it gets fixed...  

I really had to stretch my imagination to see it from your POV....

Not arguing the merits of raising one’s own kids, as a single mom I struggled to parent while working in a demanding career and to ensure I was teaching my values while sometimes competing with schools and daycares.  

Please send your references and compensation expectations - lol!!

People should do what suits them..   I am not going to debate what is good for the society and what's not, because that's an unwinnable argument.  - just like pretty much any argument is unwinnable - hence I don't argue.  

"Ward, don't you think you were a little hard on the Beaver last night?"

Compensation expectation is $0.00.  

I think it's more of a want than a need. A need suggests they are controlled by their desires. IMO, that's weakness. Married men who don't cheat have desires too. They just choose to control them.

Of course it's more than just sex. But sex is still a part of it. If the guy is tired of sex with just her, and chooses to get some elsewhere, she is no longer perfect. She may be great in many other ways. But if she is not okay with him getting sex elsewhere, and he does so anyway, there is now a flaw in the relationship. Is it still perfect if she catches him, divorces him, and takes half of his money? Or is it only perfect until he gets caught? IMO, perfect is not having to worry about getting caught.

I think most wives do give a shit because they may be looking for an out anyway. At least after a certain amount of time. Very few love their husband the same 7+ years in as they did when they got married. All of those bad habits come out. Looks fade. The courting fades. He does less romantic things. The list of why goes on. But as long as he's a good person, she may struggle to leave him. Catching him cheating is her out.

Perfectly said...

Don't need to be. Got plenty of friends, cousins, relatives who are married..    

Remember Scarlett, marriage is the number 1 cause of divorce in America!

for the decline in blowjobs for husbands.  Lol

I’ve heard that. Apparently that’s why brides have that big glowing smile walking out of the church knowing they’ve sucked their last cock. 🥸

Not a paradox at all. Love and sex are *not* the same. I am married. We are in an open marriage (obviously!). We are open and honest and always use protection to keep the other person safe. It is about honestly, not about the sex. It is ridiculous that we still live in a society that expects you to be with one person and one person only that is supposed to fill every need you may have in life, sexual or otherwise. Unrealistic and a set up for failure.

Love and Sex are not the same for you..   You are in an open marriage. The whole world is not..   You are open and honest (and good for you both), the whole world is not ...    

Circle back to me when you get at least a few years under your belt with a successful marriage and I will for sure take your opinion into consideration.....

What does me being unmarried has to do with me telling you that what you are doing is imposing your world view on rest of the world..  And you have no business doing it..  

Your accusation is baseless..

Conan likes.

She is not simply stating that she is an open marriage.  

If one finger is pointing at u, the other fingers are pointing at v and (u x v).

Well, taking the thumb to *be* a finger for the sake of the argument, are you saying that there is a lot of blame to go around as many different people are pointed at in this situation?

Gesundheit!

If I am Current with the situation, the Force of your argument has Induced me to agree and to point out that the pinky finger and ring finger are pointing to some people standing behind and to the side of the hand model in the above image.

She stated an opinion. Nowhere did she say she expects everyone to agree with let alone conform to her opinion.

Lol.

I had not noticed that in the image but find it quite shocking that one can so easily deflect with a slight bend of the wrist.

of success is unmistakable, and the dopey grin on the husband's face shows he doesn't have a clue what's coming, or to be more precise, what's NOT cumming.  Lol

Q. How do you get a Jewish-Americn Princess to stop fucking?
A. Marry her.

Or:

OK..  Someone explain to me.. Why y'all said Jewish-American instead of just Jewish..   Are they a tad bit different than regular run of the mill Jewish women - say from..  Israel or elsewhere?   What does American have to do with them being Diva - which is I think what you are trying to get at humorously.

a Jewish-American Princess.  If you do, no other explanation is necessary.   I dated a few in college.   I found out later my Jewish friends were pranking me by setting me up with the worst ones.  I'll give you a short synopsis.  If anyone thinks I'm wrong, tell me.  Spoiled by their parents in just about every way imaginable, snarky, pushy, bitchy, and when it comes to sex, you feel like they are passing out ammunition at the Alamo (make every shot count, boys, because there's never going to be enough to call it a "win" - Lol).

For me, I went to school with a lot of Jewish ladies in the 60s and 70s, and that's what they were called, Jewish American Princesses. It stuck with me. No ulterior motive, just learned behavior.

I have never really dated anyone more than a month..  If you know anything about me, I can't stand being around people for too long.. I derive most of my energy from doing things myself - like taking vacations by myself, going to concerts or stand up shows by myself,  reading (I am avid reader),  going to baseball games by myself.  

Very honest & proud statement. I like to think I am a tomahawk, or bone in ribeye 🤠 lol  

a "bone-in" until the customer gets there.  Lol