One of the mysteries of ‘the hobby’ is how some providers seem to actually enjoy the encounter with me when, truth be told, I am a guy they wouldn’t look at twice in a social setting.  What goes on in a lady’s mind?  Do you have an ability to say ‘Ok, I’m having sex with this guy (only ‘cause he is paying me) so it’s time to relax and enjoy myself?’  
Most of us probably had our first encounters with ‘providers’ who were doing something for a certain number of dollars.  Some of them would crudely fake some passion, but mostly they obviously wanted to get rid of us as quickly as they could.  
When I started seeing providers who were (usually) a bit older and more upscale, it amazed me that some (not all) would actually seem to enjoy the sex and, unless they were great actresses, have real orgasms with a guy they have known very briefly.
Ladies, what’s your spin on it?
MVR

It's not just being comfortable with you it's being comfortable with me too.

I might add that sometimes I can become very selfish with my needs as well. Most gentlemen like a women who expresses what she wants. Given carte blanche believe me I will

It is wonderful to be desired by so many men that want to please you...Who could ask for more

Kisses Haley

I wish I thought of this years ago.

I get off on having brief/quick relationships when men (and ladies) I do not know.

There is something incredibly sexy knowing that people want ME.

Most clients treat me really well and we do more than one thing..we play, we get wild.

And when it cums down to it..you will know if I am telling the truth or not.

Believe me you will feel and hear it!

Shane

I think that there are some exceptionally great actresses who are providing exactly what the clients desire.

I can be brutaly truthful as I need not fear a bad review and nor do I have to be on my best behaviour to gain/keep business here...I have become an extremely convincing actress and the gentlemen I see either don't know or don't care that I am doing whatever is necessary to make them feel the way they expect...they keep coming back so something is obviously working.

I enjoy the financial aspect of my job greatly and really do respect the men I see and they are treated as I would wish to be treated in the same position.

I find that I can relax and enjoy the situation and the eroticism (sp) of the encounter. I just met you, yet I am giving myself to you freely and letting you see/touch areas that are totally off limits to most.  How hot is that!!  

Plus, unlike my civilian life, most men I meet are more interested in pleasing me than me pleasing them.  Tough job, but someone has to do it.  lol

Kari

well I always saw it as "hobby" as well and its sort of challenge.

BoyZ think they hunt but so do I.

I think each SP has very different positioning on the market. I thought always to hunt for extraordinaire experiences is probably one of the most interesting parts of sp-ing.

Honestly, I really don't look at guys in a social setting anyway. There's way too much hassle in dating as far as I'm concerned, and I'm too busy to deal with who calls who back and all that.

The way I think of it, it's like dating with insurance. I never have to fret over wasted time! And no one thinks negatively of me if I decide to do the dirty on the first date

Maxine

yes I enjoy it, it's that simple.
I allow a little extra time for my sessions. I am in no hurry and it sets the scene for a good experience on both sides. I like to enjoy you.
I have arrived at a level of maturity where I really like men, and fortunately no two are alike.
I love to please men and am lucky to have men that like to please me too...

...but I LOVE men (and women!), and I love pleasing men (and women!) - truly, nothing makes me feel more sublimely satisfied than knowing that I am making someone feel better than they ever could doing anything else in that moment.  My passion is not fake - my passion is for others' pleasure.  My own pleasure is nice, but to be honest, it does not mean much to me unless it's a means of pleasing someone else.

Frankly, I look at all sorts of gentlemen in social settings that other women may not give a second glance.  My first boyfriend was 49 to my 18; one of my hardest crushes was on a wheelchair-bound fellow; and my boyfriends now are respectively a D&D nerd and a super-introverted WoW nerd (who happens to be a math whiz, I get so hot when he starts talking Calculus to me...).  I suppose that gives me an edge.

you have likely spent lots of time developing other parts of your self, such as your personality, sense of humor and social skills. I find those much more attractive than good looks, in a man.

There is no amount of money that can entice me to spend one single minute with a man I
can't stand; juxtaposed, I have often gone above and beyond the call of duty for my valued clients because I enjoy them so much.

there are a great deal of men I see who are wonderful men. No they are not all the guy I would date in real life, at first glance that is, but that also makes you look for what it is that you DO find attractive in each man you see.

Intellect and ones personality is something I find so much more attractive than even the most obviously beautiful "Mr. Right" (looks wise that is).  Give me an electronics Geek or a financial planner, a bright yet shy law professor here in Boston for a conference. A goofy shrink with a bit of a kink to him and what turns me on is the man himself. I am and have always been very attracted to Bright witty men with a brilliant sense of humor. A great smile and contagious laugh is amazingly attractive!

Lets face it, we all know that gorgious guy or gal who when it really comes down to it...after the looks~ they got nothing!  Thats only so good for so long.  And we all know the "beautiful poeple" who when you get to know them, they are really just ugly people in pretty packages.  

We are not all so superficial you know. I guess some of this can be chalked up to maturity, and life experiences but I have to say I believe I have always been like this for the most part.

Then again, I also believe I have become more comfortable with myself over the years as we all do with age, and I'd have to say I am sure it plays a big part in how comfortable my companion and I are with each other. We can more easily find a common attraction in each other as people and that can make or break the essence and depth of our Passionate Tryst.


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