So many posts on this board from guys who's ladies have lost interest in sex, and their reasons for seeing providers. But what about those of us have sexually abandoned our wives? Some of our wives continue to desire sex, but we ignore or rebuff their needs. Is that fair? The word "abandonment" used to be a legal reason for getting divorced.
If someone doesn't satisfy the wife's needs at home then she will look elsewhere won't she? If someone has a significant other (SO) that they are not sexually interested in anymore, but that SO still desires sex, shouldn't that SO be allowed to find that sex with someone else? Either side of the equation.
What about the guy who still takes care of the all of the wife's needs, but still desires more? Does he have a valid excuse to hobby?
Fair, probably not. Selfish, I think yes. I think a divorce would be in order, but I understand that many, many other factors may be at work here.
wonder about this I have had Man who have high sex drives along with a willingness to please as well as be pleased and I think god what is up with that. If this guy was mine he'd never leave the house lol.But the wife has little or no interest. When I was married my husband and I had a great sex life in the beginning and at some point that faded to somewhat non existent I never with held sex hell I wanted it, and every thing else was there compatibility, love ,common goals etc etc.But with him running a business and caring for ailing parents me being absorbed with the kids just kind of killed it. I feel I tried to maintain that spark god I spent a fortune on the latest bed room fashion lol. But when you have one person working at it and one not your doomed. So I wonder if hobbyist put the time into there wife's as they do there escorts may be home would be different.If you leave a woman alone long enough she will give up and lose interest. Just a thought.
I understand all that you are saying, but most of you have not experienced menopause yet. My wife has always taken care of my sexual needs and desires, but menopause can be worse for some women than others. I understand what she has gone through. The hot flashes, etc. We have had to use lubricants and other products because of the effects of aging. Her lebido has changed. I understand that. I still have strong sexual desires, but unfortunately can perform as well as when I was younger. Again, the effects of aging. Additionally, my wife has back problems and problems with her hips. This makes love making painful at times for her Also, various positions cannot be used because of these issues. She is a great wife, and has always been a great lover. Unfortunately, Father Time has made things more difficult. Just adding a different perspective. I realize not all marriages are as strong as ours has been.
You abandon your wife in favor of having sex with everyone else? She still continues to desire you and wants to fulfill your needs and hers and yet you won't give her any?
I hope she cheats on you. She deserves a little satisfaction.
I would agree if the guy is just being selfish wanting more then his share so to speak. But I have also learned that there is more (hopefully) then just sex in any one relation ship. I stayed with hubby for 5 years with little to no sex because he is a good man. And I left because he is a good man who deserves to be accepted completely for who he is as well as I do. So with that said again when you have one person working at a sexual relation ship and one not how long can you go with out the physical and emotional sense of life you can only get from this act. The gentleman who's wife as been derailed so to speak with menopause and other ailments I do hope you remember the good wife she is when she does get the desire to be intimate her husband. That you are just as much there for her. Again just a thought.
If you have Abandoment issues mr charlottenoble take it up with your shrink and keep it off the boards. We don't need your kind of guilt around here.
Better yet why dont you just go home and have sex with your wife and clear your conscience. When your done with that, go and walk the dog, play with your kids and wash the car and then take your wife and her parents out to dinner and a show.
Stop off on the way home from work and pick up some flowers.
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