This may seem like a groveling question, but it's not. It just hit me this morning when I woke up, that it seems like I'll never be just seen as just a "woman" to many clients. But rather, I'll be made to feel like I'm being chosen specifically because Im black, and in the same vein, will never meet certain clients because of it.  

I don't know. Some guys are more attracted to blonds than brunettes. There's the guys who like the K-girls. Latinas.  Some have a hankering for a certain type at a certain time.

That's one of the top 5 funniest lines I have heard in 6 months.

every woman I see it is because there is something about her -   reviews first and appearance second - that interests me -

because I am sensing you don't have a strong understanding of the the contributions of Black people to American society.  

Damn RT, who could possibly disagree with your post?... this time!

Yes an actual racist... Sorry, I'm not sorry about this. I say that because I don't find asian women as my go to fantasy when it comes to hot sex. On occasion I can find an AW to be attractive, but that is the exception and not the rule.

If you are trying to find yourself or build your self esteem being a provider, it ain't gonna happen. Take a break and reevaluate if this is really for you. The hobby is very superficial. It isn't going to change because you are offended being sought out just because you are a taboo. Are you offended that you are sought out just to be a guys fuck toy for a couple of hours? What is beautiful for some may never be beautiful to others. Your best bet is to fall in line, appeal to the masses perception of beauty, make your money, invest in yourself and a quality education and get the hell out. Are you asking will you always be choosen over a skinny blonde girl? Hmmmm, YES! There are a lot of discrepancies amongst providers of equal "beauty" but if this is what you chose to do, you should get that. Find your niche and work it. If you want to meet specific clients, just market yourself to appeal to that demographic. But guess what? They still may not see you because you are too this or too that or not enough of this. While this is a very personal business, you just can't take it personally. It is what it is.  

We are all fetishized and we are all successful because we are different to some degree. Small tits, big tits, hair color, eye color, height, weight, fair skinned or dark skinned... Literally all of us are here because some pervert (and I mean that lovingly) just can't get enough somewhere else, and we have all had the same comments made to us about one thing or another. Everyone has a type, you don't need to be so surprised when it works in your favor.  

but I think the answer is yes, at least there is the potential.

You yourself belie a certain racial point of view by phrasing the question asking if a "white man" is able to set aside racial considerations rather than just ask if a "man" is able to.  Something to ponder there.

In my own experience I got very close to one AA provider over a course of several years.  We would do overnights, go out on the town, and even take multiple day trips together.  At first I conceded to her and myself that her color was a fetish in the sense that it excited me; but in time I came to forget the fact and was more focused on her as a person, so much so that I became aware of the occasional stare from certain people and could not understand what it meant until I reminded myself - oh right, that  crap.

But for the most part, people treated us very nicely, except for one older black gentleman who accosted us on the street angrily asking:  "What are you doing with my woman?"  A bit shocked I turned to my date and said to her:  "Why didn't you ever tell me you were his woman?"  She burst out in giggles and he slunk off.

As for fetishes, they are a fact of life.  My attraction is often based on wanting to experience these fetishes whether it be a racial characteristic, age, deformity, or something else.  Differences can attract as well as divide.

factor in seeing someone, whether it's mine or theirs.  No, instead there's something that hooks me in either their look, style, or persona.  Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I behold many beautiful women of all nationalities.   Would you ever see me as just a man, or would I always be a white man to you?  Would you think back fondly on our time together as "he's a nice man" or would it be "he's a nice white man"?

The only thing that would have been funnier if, you would have said "Woman? She isn't like any woman you know"

"Loving black woman" is a nutty concept, but yes, a white man can meet a black woman and fall very deeply in love with her.

You really are making a deal.

Every race on this planet has contributed and are contributing every day. In America, everyone other than Caucasians are branded as follows:

You're never going to get your emotional or self-esteem needs met in the sex industry.

I'm not trying to make myself like able to every person on the planet. But I'm getting so tired of meeting guys (talking interracial here) who once I get to know them, you find out you are just 1 of 50 million black girls they've hired (or even dated). I like guys who are kind of between curious for a black woman, but not so much to where the curiosity runs wild and they expect me to be some animae figure with massive parts. That's the stuff that makes me feel like I'm being fetishized, and if I don't have that, then it makes me feel they are on a quest to find that.

Do you think we are the only ones who sleep around? They have eyes. They might talk about other girls, but the simple fact that they are even there proves that whatever you've got going on is more than good enough.  

He has dated and married women of color exclusively.

Steph

Guys spend enough time thinking about their dicks, you should spend your time thinking of other stuff.
Use their ethnic fetish to your advantage when you feel like it and reject when you're not in the mood.
A lot of your posts have racial under or overtones and it'd be nice for you to talk about being black as a plus and not something to defend, complain or feel bad about.

You gals are like the flavors at Haagen Dazs.  Sometimes I want chocolate, sometimes vanilla and sometimes coffee.  Then there's green tea ice cream.  Variety is the spice of life.  If your look pushes my buttons I'll taste you.  
To put it more plainly, I don't love black women.  I love WOMEN!  It's just on some days I have a yen for a specific flavor.  It ain't complicated.

Hm you... big phat ass
me... with my anaconda  

Unless you really have a thing for white men it shouldn't matter much. Afterall the same question can be asked by asian women or hispanic women about white men.  

Some would consider it a fetish, but I see nothing wrong with liking certain characteristics on women even if one of those characteristics is race based. One of the things that I have learned is that sometimes you can not change how some people view you and if that person viewpoint of you make you uneasy, then it time to stop hanging around that person. Life is too short to get caught up in little things, when you can remove yourself from the situation with ease.