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Re: Is it possible to change?
Bostonguy57 48 Reviews 535 reads
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I have to say that, as far as hobbying goes, it has not changed my attitude towards women.  It has confirmed what I already knew. It HAS however changed the way I perceive my self and my pursuit of my own happiness.  The opportunity to be intimate with many different ladies has given me a much clearer picture of what turns me on sexually  and what makes me happy on an emotional level.
I know that many don't believe that there can or should be an emotional component to a relationship with a provider. That's fine, I can certainly understand that point of view. It is not however what works for me. A woman's sexuality is so tied to her personality that I don't see how you can really separate the two. If I find a lady sexy enough to want to see her over and over again there is really no way that I can NOT develop an emotional attachment to her as well.
This works out just fine just as long as you remain realistic about what can and can not happen and also always remember that the relationship will often end very quickly when the lady decides to move on with her real world life.

BizzaroSuperdude1925 reads

Since my journey here began with a random encounter with a provider who was working for an agency who advertised in the papers... not internet.  anyhoo, after the session, which was incredible, I called the service and asked how to express my gratitude to the young lady for an incredible time.... and the service introduced me to TER.

Since then, I have been on a journey, and do feel that I have changed somewhat in my approach to male female relations... (to me? for the better, but what do I know?)  

Ladies - do you think that men can change? have you ever seen a man change his attitude?  I would really like to know... the things that I have seen in the past 4 years, well, they SHOULD be life changing.  some good, some very positive and some very bad.  but all - part of the human experience.

I know, not very funny. Sorry, can't be all the time.

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Bostonguy57536 reads

I have to say that, as far as hobbying goes, it has not changed my attitude towards women.  It has confirmed what I already knew. It HAS however changed the way I perceive my self and my pursuit of my own happiness.  The opportunity to be intimate with many different ladies has given me a much clearer picture of what turns me on sexually  and what makes me happy on an emotional level.
I know that many don't believe that there can or should be an emotional component to a relationship with a provider. That's fine, I can certainly understand that point of view. It is not however what works for me. A woman's sexuality is so tied to her personality that I don't see how you can really separate the two. If I find a lady sexy enough to want to see her over and over again there is really no way that I can NOT develop an emotional attachment to her as well.
This works out just fine just as long as you remain realistic about what can and can not happen and also always remember that the relationship will often end very quickly when the lady decides to move on with her real world life.

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Lusty_Lolita287 reads

Please elaborate on this. :) Me and my blondness keeps thinking Librarian~~Tigress...Stuntwoman~~Sludge
I guess im trying to place my own personality to describe my sexuality. I would say I'm like the Librarian, shy, kinda flirty, blushy, but very very naughty behind closed doors. Am I close? LOL

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RaeMonroe562 reads

I'm just not sure where  your question is leading though. All men have the capabilities to change how they view things or feel about things. I have several regulars that I have been seeing since my very first month in the biz (going on month 11 right now) and they have changed some in the time I have known them. When you know someone for a while, you do get more relaxed with them. I don't know that my gentlemen are really any different, just that a few of them are different with ME.

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channelguy385 reads

Wow...have I ever changed.  I started this "hobby" as ya'll call it, in January of this year.  After years and years of a very inadequate sex life in my marriage (she really can't help it) I had to do something to get some "touch" back in my life.  By the way, there is more than sex to all this - "touch" is just someone's hands on you that is tender and with, at least for the short while, purpose.  God, I missed that.

I think I've softened up some more - and I am an easy going guy.  But I was getting to "off my chart in resentment" and that was driving me into deep depression.  Hobbying has brought me out of it.  Although....and I stress this....I am trying to deal emotionally with the fun of this.   I can go broke easily getting what I haven't gotten in over a decade.  Show a starving man a pile of pizza and you better stand back!

So the change for me is mostly good as long as the bank account holds out :-)

There are 3 ladies here in the Bay Area that have me by the proverbial short hairs and those short hairs lead to the Bank of America!

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jack0116533711 reads

Somebody with a 3 digit IQ?

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SmellTest438 reads

Now let's see, would that response be considered a first punch? No, say it ain't so Jacko-ff.

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DrFill568 reads

that's above your pay grade.

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wormwood571 reads

If we're awake then, as we experience life, we decide which experiences fit us and which don't. If we're awake, we discard those experiences that don't fit and keep the ones that do. We become more like ourself. Obviously, as we get older we're going to change less.

My hobbying experience was so unlike my prior life experience that it lead to some fairly profound, if subtle, changes in me.

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Nadette877 reads

Everything we experience in our lives will change us, whether we like it or not.

Men and women are not that different. Our attitude will change if we have a bad experience but hopefully it does not become a generalization.

I have seen men changing for the better and worse too. I think that people who have had bad experiences (not only when it comes to seeing a provider) will appreciate the good times a lot more.

Finding out what turns you on or off is another very  good thing you can quite easily find out through this hobby. I have certainly changed a lot  and I have to say that I appreciate little positive things (gestures and experiences) a lot better then before.

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