My experience seems to lean toward the view that the more a woman truly believes she is attractive the more likely she is to enjoy sex, given she has no medical issue involved. Much of what we do in our love-making we do, picturing ourselves, in our minds. If we, man or woman, find viewing ourselves distastful or disappointing in any way, it may effect our sexual desire. This being said, it is the woman truly believing she is attractive, resting on a solid core of self-esteem, not someone else's opinion of them in the moment, that counts. The source of her core self-esteem will no doubt be more than just her appearance. I've seen very attractive women with very low self-esteem, and hence problematic sex lives.
Comfort and confidence would play a much large part. I personally am very comfortable with my naked body and therefore less inhibited. I could care less whether the light are on or off, a freedom which allows me to relax and enjoy what the ride, excuse the pun = ). On the otherhand, if I were racked with body image issues I would likely be distracted and unable to able enjoy.
But I find it varies quite a bit with the age sometimes ethnic background of the lady. I think confidence comes from within. Women from other parts of the world for example are far more comfortable with a less-than-perfect body than many western women are. A few extra pounds or a few extra years don't seem to effect them in the same way and I think that makes for a greater degree of confidence in life and in bed. I also find that a more mature women worries less about this as well regardless of where they are from.
My current two favorite ladies are quite beautiful and "in great shape" by anyone's standards and the sex is amazing. Truth be told however, two of my best-ever experiences have been with a couple of larger ladies of latin descent who were both VERY confident in the fact that they were totally rocking my world and enjoying every second of it!
Yeah, my best experiences were with women of latin descent as well. A passionate people for certain. I have all the respect in the world for them. I have been with a few firecrackers of a white background as well, but it's more hit and miss in my experience. I've never been with a 'mature' provider . . That is definitely on my list for 2008.
Mostly on topic, I've noticed women in other countries are actually not visibly put off and seem very accepting (see: embrace it..) of a guy who isn't super thin.., and have some fun with it rather than either ignoring it, or secretly hating it. In fact, In Mexico specifically, there is a respect there, what kept me going back for so many years, the women really wanted to please you, while indeed it was a bit more mechanical, there was just this look on their face that they wanted you to have your fun..I also suspect Japanese providers in Japan would pan out similarly...basically americanizing in and of itself has a nice set of pros and cons, when it comes to hobbying..Though this is only based on my experience YMMV
-m
When I consider the 3 best experiences I've enjoyed. One was amazingly attractive, the other two were "girl next door" pretty. Not unattractive, but hardly traffic stoppers. In all cases they simply seemed to be incredibly comfortable with all the possibilities of sexual expression. All were also very comfortable with their bodies.
-J
You have to remember that being attractive (which everyone is), means different things to different people. Just like you guys find a certain women attractive another may not, same goes for us ladies. However, I do feel confidence comes from within and sometimes it takes time for that to come to its peak. I know me personally, it took me quite awhile to be truly content with who I am on the inside as well as my body. I am an older more mature women and I am thankful to not look my age. I feel I take care of myself (well always room for improvement) however, I have a confidence but not an arrogance by any means, that cannot be replaced. And with all that I love sex and love to be pampered. But my main thing is to please a man who truly wants to spend time with me and get to my brain as well as my body. That to me is true sexuality. Continue to boost her up every chance you get- like filling her love bank, it won't hurt and I am sure can only help.
Sometimes it just depends. I'm pretty confident- think I'm hot as hell, but I've heard everything from I'm girl next door pretty to pornstar to model to wife material pretty. Either way, I could care less what people think. What makes me sometimes not so confident is the way I'm treated or the vibe I get during a session. I'm really into the vibe. If things feel off, I'd rather cancel it, though I guess it could differ from what I'm thinking to what you're thinking...
Either way, I feel pretty uninhibited most of the time. Sometimes, not so much but it all depends on a variety of ways someone treats you to the day I've had earlier to whatever..
K
... the best way to get a good vibe going with you is "DATY like a fuckin' champ". Hmmm ... how to get that going within 30 seconds of saying "hello"?
Hmmm... you know, I once got tackled at the door (literally) by this girl and that happened. True story.. I have never laughed so hard while having fun. lol.
Easiest way to initiate a good vibe with me is personality, flirting, chemistry type of stuff. I like to chat and I like a man who takes the time to flirt with me a little first. Then DATY like a champ. 
Katie
... on the palm of my hand so I can refer to it the first time that we meet ...
As it has been said, girls who think they are hot will generally have more confidence, but don't forget about chemistry. I have been with GND types who may or may not consider themselves hot, but they know that I consider them absolutely amazing, and our chemistry is such that the encounter is incredible. A lot of how you feel about yourself comes from how much you trust that your partner feels excited about being with you and truly desires you...
True,
I think there is the factor of the hobbyists' self-confidence also.
I do get your point though, treating them like a goddess certainly can't hurt and I always try to do that (obviously; generally you see what you get before you go out . . so you know you will at least be physically drawn..) Being that it is one of the things I'm good at but never nets me anything outside of the hobby. I do worry about personal self-confidence, I certainly have been with a few that have shook that etch-a-sketch though
I've always said the provider that can take even an unnatractive guy and find something attractive about him (personality, sense of humour , whatever it is.. ) Is a truly skilled artist, that can weave something into a great experience and ultimately, repeat business. I do say those are a bit tougher to find.
-m
Axail, I think the previous posts talking about provider's combination of looks and self confidence hits the mark.
We all know very successful men who are not in any way considered handsome, yet they exude an "aura" of success and confidence about them that seems to attract others (especially beautiful women). I feel this comes from many years of personal successes, not just financial but in every realm of their lives.
I feel the providers you are describing have also had that great number of personal successes which as Slo so well pointed out add to that chemisty we may have with them, which makes our sessions with them more intense.
Speaking from experience. When I am at my best physically, mentally, and emotionally one could not ask for a better sex partner. Other times when I gain a few pounds or haven't been to the gym lately my self esteem drops and I am not as confident and it shows in my performance.
oes looks play a part in how good someone is in bed? 