The VIP membership at TER is an incredible value.  I have yet to have a bad experience with any providers that I have researched here and seen.  I have also learned a ton from the national board over the past few months (thank you to all).

However, my question today regards whether or not it is appropriate to send a Thank You email the day after an appointment.  I had a great experience recently and I wanted to send a note letting her know.  Of course, I did leave a tip as I appreciated the extra service I felt I received.

So hobbiest please share your experiences (do you ever call or send a Thank You email the day after) and ladies please let me know how you feel about receiving notes afterwards.  I don’t want her to think I will become a stalker or that I will profess my undying love next time I see her (I am sure she deals with enough weirdness).  My intention would be to just acknowledge her excellent service and my appreciation.

I almost always send a quick email simply saying thank you and that I enjoyed myself. I also enjoy when I get an email from a client saying thank you. It's always nice to hear.

i think most of us are insecure, i know i am.

so a thank you note tells us that you really did have a good time and you werent just saying that when you were here

I send thank you emails all the time if I had a memorable experience with a lady. If it's an agency provider I send a not to the agency to make sure they know that I was happy with the gal. I think an email is probably better than a phone call.

Sure, one (only one) non-explicit email should be appropriate, assuming it's sent to her hobby email.  Something along the lines of "hey, it was great to finally meet you" or "let's try to get together again soon."  If you want to personalize it a bit, maybe slip in an inside joke that only the two of you would be privy too, ie "I don't know where that hotel gets their bedspreads, but next time I go to grandma's I'm gonna make sure the curtains are in place."  You get the gist.

Keep it simple, light and fun.  Most everyone appreciates a thank-you, and depending on the lady some may correspond back, which can potentially lead to another category of fun.  

I send a thank-you email usually the day after the appointment to let her know that I truly enjoyed my time with her.
So I would say go ahead and send a thank you to her if that is what you feel like doing.  
I also agree that an email is probably better than a phone call.  That's what I feel comfortable with, anyway.

and if I am particular fond of them I'll send them a quick email around the holidays too.  Nothing stalker-ish, just a "happy holidays" like I would to anyone else I know.

Obviously keep it simple and sincere.  There are a few providers that still drop me a line time to time which I know to be sincere (as they know I am no longer anywhere near their area).  It is not something I do regularly but a thank you email (never phone call) is appreciated but you will know when the experience is right.  One valuable piece of advice is that her time is her time, so don't expect to establish an email conversation nor even get a response.  
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I send an email to every lady I have seen as soon as I can after our date.
It's only common courtesy and it's nice to let the lady know you had a good time and you think about her.

Just my opinion...
B

Like everyone else, I feel it is appropriate to let the lady know I enjoyed my time with her.  I find it amazing that everyone who has responded feels the same way.  I wonder though while we may be the majority in this post, are we actually in the minority with the providers?

Xeno pointed out a very important thing in my mind. I believe that many of the providers (especially those who have been around for a while) are aware of the potential "ATF" factor that we hobbyists can get into from time to time and they don't want to generate "Email buddies".  

The content and tone of our note falls within a very fine line as far as what is appreciated by the provider and what tends to send the warning signals off for her.

IMHO

i always get that phone call or a message on my website the next day, and it makes me feel extra wonderful, and its very much appreciated!

Yes, Raven50 - this is why a posted the question.  I believe all clients wanted to be remembered in a positive way and have future appointments accepted.  The last thing I would want is for a Thank You message to be misinterpreted and send up a red flag.

Many on the thread have listed good ideas for avoiding crossing the line.  One message and 1 only.  Keep it brief, non-descriptive, and insightful.

I alawys see it as a customer service proffesion. She is the cashier, and you are the customer. Or .. . shes the real estate agent, and your house shopping. etc. etc.

Whatever would be appropriate in the proffesional world would be appropriate here. It looks like you see pretty high-class providers; so I feel with those it's actually to your benefit to go.. Hey, had a great time, thank you for your accomidations, hope to schedule with you again soon!

I'd say very few ladies would be upset with that, and if its worded right you might actually gain favor

-M

I think it is very important to let your heart speak in any situation.

I have sent many thank you notes to gentlemen who touched me and I always appreciate when someone appreciates me and the time we spent. If I can touch someone and make them happy, WOW!

And anyhow, these kinds of gesture rarely have negetive outcomes.

Take Care!

Maria
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Most definitely, and email is always sent.  I've also been known to put the tip in a second envelop with a thank you card and leave it where the first was as I leave

Your comment indicates you don't like to be lied to and the thank you note indicates they really did have a good time and didn't lie.  Yet I know so many providers who will fake an orgasm.  Isn't faking an orgasm a lie?  I'm not implying you fake it, but I know many who do.  They're not even good actresses either.

This is all to make each other feel good, so if  dude says he had a good time, so long as you got your donation, do you really care whether he had a good time?  I'm talking really, truly care?

Maybe it would be good for providers to write to their clients the next day and thank them for their orgasm, and tell them how good a time they had.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with sending a small note of appreciation.  I am never to busy to accept a compliment = )

It makes me feel as if it was money well spent, and appreciated.
Do I send a thank you note to my barber, the car dealership, my auto mechanic? No.
My biggest thank you to a provider would be a repeat session.
Just a different perspective for everyone to ponder.

Though this is a professional relationship, it is IMHO different than your relationship with your barber or mechanic.

There is, of course, the fact that you are intimate (if only briefly) with a provider, but there is more too.  Your mechanics job is to fix your car, if he does that you pay him (ok, frequently you pay him if he doesn't, but that's another post).

A provider is there to provide a service as well, that service isn't mish, CG, greek, or whatthehellever, it is to make you happy.  For many, spending the hour or two there and collecting her money may be enough, but there are many gems who actually give a damn whether you are indeed happy.  While you are under no obligation to do more than pay her & see her out, courtesy would seem (to me) to dictate a short note expressing your satisfaction.

Oh, and I have indeed received several "thank you" notes from ladies I have seen.  I enjoy receiving them as well.

...send a quick thank you email, especially if it was indeed a memorable experience and I plan to see her again. As long as you don't write a novel, I'm sure she wouldn't think it weird or inappropriate.

Receiving them first has been pretty cool too...nice touch on her part and helps me to remember her as well.

I seldom think of women I sleep with along the same lines as the guys who sell or repair my vehicle.
My "barber" is actually pretty hot MILF and has a nice set of 34C's that she hits me in the face with on occasion when cutting my hair....

Frankly I don't see the reason for the double standard. It's OK for them to thank you but you don't feel the need to reciprocate?  OK, Whatever...

I did thank them, after the session, and in person. I also paid them, so I see no reason to thank them a third time.
I guess I am just not the mushy type.

I didn't see transcend ask if he should do it everytime.  He asked if it would be ok if he had a great time.

Maybe it's because I am new, or not jaded, but I love to get a thank you from someone.  As for pumpnblow - well honey your handle says it all.  If I was in this just for the money, I could go list myself on cl.  IMHO, my clients are looking for more than a quick way to get off.  God gave them hands for that.  Like I said, maybe I am different, but I enjoy myself as much as my client.  The day it becomes all about the money, is the day I quit.  

Let me say thank you to all the fine gentlemen that I have met so far.  Looks like not all the men out there are as wonderful as you.

Kari~~

I get a voice mail or IM form her as I'm working the next day thanking me for visiting with her and also thanking me for her orgasms.

Yes, it is appropriate.  I always let the lady know that I really enjoyed her company.  Ok, so I paid for it, but does that mean I can't tell her I had a good time?  I keep in touch, at least so far, with the ladies I have seen, even if I may not see them again for quite a while.

They are providers, but they are also lovely women who enjoy making us guys feel special, even if only for an hour or so.  If I am going to visit them, then they are special to me too, and I have no problem telling them so.

And they have all responded in kind to my messages after our meeting.  That makes me feel good too.

Swim

I've never had a negative response to my emailed thank you's. I try to strike a balance between making it personal yet non-explicit.

I've found thank you notes almost always appreciated and acknowledged.  

The only way you can go wrong is if you try to turn their acknowledgement into an ongoing conversation!  Providers appreciate a thank you as long as you aren't using it as a tool for initiating lots of non-visit related chit chat!

same evening if I have a lap top along and can get internet access.  If not, I definately send my note within 24 hours.  Most ladies appreciate the thoughtfulness.

I have sent a email to everyone I have seen.

I have got a reply back thanking me for doing so.

So If you gut saids sent her a email do it.

If she cannot take a nice though. That is her lose not yours.

I think it's good etiquette to send a thank you note if you enjoyed your time together. I always do and every provider I've done this with seems to be very happy to be acknowledged in this way. Why on earth wouldn't she?

nothing that will take the provider a long time to read or make them think I am a nutter.

I don't call; I consider that to be wasting the provider's time and I could also be sending the wrong signal that I can't differentiate between a service and "relationship".

Very insightful comments - thanks everyone!  TY email sent to the agency first thanking them for the short notice appointment and second complimenting them on the provider.  I also asked them to forward a brief note to her thanking her and stating I am looking forward to our next encounter (with one personal comment included I will keep to myself).

I enjoy sending an email after a date with a lady. For the most part I will do this right after she leaves (or I leave). On a recent date with an incredible woman I so enjoyed our time together  that I stopped at a Starbucks, had them pour a nice latte and sent the email directly from my laptop right there.

To my mind there is absolutley no harm in telling a warm and beautiful woman that you enjoyed her company and all the wonderful happenings between the two of you. I like to review the date a bit & hit on some of the highlights.

I think we all understand there is financial issues driving these wonderful meetings but we are human beings, man & woman engaging in very peronsal & intimate ways with each other.

I always enjoy getting a return email from the lady descibing her feelings.

In my business I always thank my clients for their continued business.

Why would I not tell a lady how much I enjoyed making sweet GFE love to her?

I remember my first meeting almost four years ago...I sent a follow-up thank you note that has lead to dozens of meetings that continue to this day.  And, I always do so if I want to meet her again...which is most of the time, if your playing this game correctly. Remember, the ladies that you meet with are real, live female human beings, have feelings, and enjoy when you treat them as such!  If you enjoyed the session. you have to consider that she likely did as well.  Reviews have less of an impact than personal e-mails and communications...these always work better once they know you.  Trust me, they appreciate your well wishes...just don't go overboard!

i dont fake my orgasms.  nobody believes this, not even my providers friends until they've known me awhile.. i honestly wouldnt know how to because mine are freaky powerful and its like someone trying to fake getting struck by lightning..

if i dont have an orgasm (about 50% of the time) and the guy questions me on it, (rarely but some do) i'll normally tell him that

a. its rare for me to orgasm on a first meeting

and if its not a first meeting

b. some of the best sex in my life didnt result in me having an orgasm and on the other hand, i've gotten off humping a guy's leg.   the body is just unpredictable, havnt you ever had trouble having an orgasm even though the sex was really good ?

i dont lie, i leave that for the wives and girlfriends to do.
i educate.

some men listen, but most of them assume i had an orgasm and i dont argue it.  i dont lie but that doesnt mean i always tell the truth either. for instance, i dont tell a guy he has a big dick unless he has a big dick but if a guy has a small dick, i'm probably not going to tell him, i just wont say anything.

yes i care if a guy really had a good time but mostly because of my own insecurities and the ego boost it gives me but i also want to bring something good to someone's life.  again, this makes me feel good about myself so its self-serving as well.  


oh i forgot there is one lie i tell shamelessly.
only in the heat of the moment when a guy is about to finish, if he asks me if he can cim, sometimes i will say yes if i feel he needs to hear that.

but its not gonna happen.

you also have to keep in mind that when i tell you the truth, i am referring to the truth as i know it to be at that time.  which may not be the truth at all.

i've found that while most people are honest, only a few know what the truth is.

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Just be sweet, real and to the point

If I have truly enjoyed a lady's company, I "always" send a little thank you note. I have even been surprised the following day by some thank you notes from the ladies. That's always a special little surprise, and if the lady has enjoed herself as much as I, that makes it an even better memory.

I send a TY e-card after every session>

I send it as soon as a get back to the office, while the "after glow" is still raging.

Always....

And thank the lady for a wonderful time....

Obviously some sessions are more memorable than others, but I always end on a positive note.

And most of the ladies I would see again, although, to this point, I;ve only repeated with my two ATFs....

And that's why I haven't any new reviews recently!

RocketMan36

I always send a thank you, if I know its safe to. I appreciate them choosing to spend their time with me, and want them to know I am sincere about that.

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