1. How would you feel/react if your client told you that they will be dead (obviously nothing communicable or in anyway damaging to you) within a month or so and your appointment is their last intimate encounter?

2. If the client offers, would you prefer to see a picture of them before agreeing to an appointment?

Thanks in advance for any responses.

Working with customers and clients for years, it was always sad to hear they died. This, to me, would be a tad different bc it involves a sexual encounter, which naturally builds some kind of connection.

1. How would you feel/react if your client told you that they will be dead (obviously nothing communicable or in anyway damaging to you) within a month or so and your appointment is their last intimate encounter?
I think I would do much better if I didn't know. I'd probably cry the whole time.
 
2. If the client offers, would you prefer to see a picture of them before agreeing to an appointment?
Whatever floats his boat.

I'd probably call around and ask what to do, spend time in meditation and some spiritual stuff I do, and suggest a longer date so it's most enjoyable for him.

I would show him the best time of his life of course and make it memorable! (Nothing crazy or dangerous). I had gentlemen send me pictures in the past, while they are not required, it is a nice gesture specially if I am meeting them in a public place so it's not awkward.

Make it the best encounter ever & sure send a picture!

On #1, I think that's going to be tough for anyone to handle. It would take someone VERY special to be able to both deal with that emotionally AND be able to give you the experience you're looking for.  There may be another way to communicate that you're looking for a once in a lifetime experience that won't freak people out.  

If you're describing yourself...I'm so sorry.

tell the lady. Perhaps email around to find one accepting. Part of enjoying intimacy is to be able to be open about something that's right in the forefront of your mind, and the reason you're doing what you're doing.  

If I were him, I'd be hiring hookers every day.

Though I'm not in the faith at the moment, I'd probably read the bible to him and try to bring him to Christ bc that's Who I think would give him joy for eternity… which is what I'd wish for him.

So I'm probably not the one to see, lol. But a lady who is strong enough to handle it, who has been through watching loved ones die, who has held their hand through it, and who is 100% understanding.

I used to sing by peoples' beds in hospice, and boy, that was tough… but very beautiful at the same time, just seeing them a little happier and a little more pleased. Guess sex would do the same thing, lol. Music brings us to another world, and sex makes everything go away.

Perhaps a lady who can give him true intimacy and a really special time… not just a physical fuck. He may be able to find some ladies on here who may be able to help him select just the right lady.

Guys could be walking through the door in this situation every day. Makes me think I should be prepared to give him the time of his life… because it may be his last intimate encounter.

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1. I swear I'm not a cruel person, but the cynic in me would be a bit suspicious. My knee jerk reaction would probably be that he was trying to get some sympathy poon. That probably makes me sound like a total bitch, but you would be astounded by the lengths some of these guys will go to just to get some discounted pussy. If it was a regular client, however, I'd probably be more inclined to believe him. It just seems to me that for someone's prognosis to be that bad, he'd likely not be able to engage in anything sexual simply because of the weakened and painful state he'd be in at that point. I don't know, I guess I'd need more context.  

2. I have an option on my booking form for uploading a photo. It's not mandatory, but it's always nice to see who's going to be on the other side of the door ahead of time. That said, I'd never make it a requirement because I know a lot of guys would be freaked out. I'm actually kinda surprised by the number of guys who actually do send one, though. I'd say roughly 1/4 do, which is more than I anticipated when I set up my form.  

1)The gent had a teminal condition;coulnd't move,speak but sure could get a woodie on! I had some nice times with him and have good memories. mmm-he had a nice smile......aaahhhyea.
I think, at the time, I felt honored that I was choosen to spend time with him.

2)You can send me a photo but not needed - personality and cleanliness are more important to me then looks.

Thanks for bringing back those memorories

It is perfectly understandable that you would be skeptical, but their would be no attempt at a discount, just the hope of the "best" effort, as the final experience.

Damn right, any provider would (should?) be skeptical about a "death story."  Could be true, but odds are better it would be some kind of sick fantasy.  If I was dying I might look for a pre-grave romp but I sure as shit wouldn't share that with the provider...number one, why put a downer on the session?  and number two, why put that on her?  I mean really, isn't that a shit thing to do?  I have to believe that someone who is really dying and shares that information with a provider is trying to buy a mourner, somehow thinking that she'll cry over his grave...any maybe she would but is that fair to her?  It's a fucked up deal for sure and since I'm not dying I won't claim to walk in a dying man's shoes but putting that kind of thing on a provider seems cruel and self-serving.

Fair enough. I can certainly see that perspective. I agree that I wouldn't want to burden someone with that information, but couldn't it be also seen as a compliment that they wanted to make their last sexual connection with that provider.

I think you are overstating the emotional connection in this relationship. I have seen a number of providers, including a handful multiple times, and have had what I truly believe have been mutually enjoyable and friendly experiences, but I don't expect that any of them would feel a greater sadness at my passing than they would any other brief acquaintance that they heard had passed (if they even would recognize a name without a face to relate it to)

I give my best effort regardless, as I think most reputable ladies do.  

If the connection is only as a brief acquaintance, then why tell the provider any more than you would tell the cashier at the grocery store?  And I can certainly see where it would be a compliment to the provider that a dying man would choose her as his last experience, but I would share that with her at the very end of the session.  I guess I'd be too worried that sharing the information beforehand would make things awkward.  And to be really cynical, you're basically telling someone they don't need to worry about getting repeat business and is that the best way to get great service?

And by the way, I truly hope this is hypothetical and if it's not I'm sorry.

1. That's a heavy burden to place on someone you just met for an activity that's built around just having fun. At the least, you should wait until the end when you're saying your thank-you's and goodbyes, and certainly if you hit it off and are talking about scheduling future appointments. It also could backfire if the lady has any concern that you may pass during the appointment. That said, I'd definitely tell my favorites with whom I have a healthy rapport with.

2. If you're good-looking, then no. These ladies have seen it all, and there's a priceless moment to be had when you first meet and she reacts with a genuine double-take, "OMG you are HOT!"

And honestly, it really depends on the situation, how you should handle those two questions. If its obvious, maybe give her a heads up, in case she's uncomfortable. If its not, I wouldn't say anything, or send a picture, until/unless you know her.  

I realize I come off as an asshole sometimes, I'm very aware of why we are all here, but I do like to think that I am making a difference every once in a while. Knowing the clients I knew that had put me on their personal "bucket lists" was an honor. It's very humbling to know that you and you alone have been chosen to help create some sort of experience they've been waiting for their whole life.  

At the same time, it was not easy. I've personally lost a lot of people in a short time, so it can be very hard to get into the right mental space. And heaven forbid you don't click... I had that happen once and it was honestly one of the most conflicting times of my life. Do I do the right thing, and make this man happy in the short time he has left? Or do I do the right thing, and keep myself happy, while abandoing him and leaving him all alone in this time of need?  

Because of that experience, I would have to say I would prefer not to know until I knew someone well, or unless it was obvious there was a problem that was more serious. It can be a lot of pressure to put on someone.