If the client asks for a CBJ when the provider actually provides BBBJ - is that offensive or insulting in any way ? As someone who does not go full distance or even into tasting activities, due to personal preferences, I had to ask. CBJ may be more comfortable for me to try and see if its a path I want to continue further.. Inviting thoughts from ladies

Thanks..

I would think that she would respect your choice and preference.  I would assume that most ladies wouldn't care one bit.  

However, I think a few women won't be thrilled about doing it. I don't think they'd be offended or insulted as you say, just some don't enjoy the act. You might bring along some flavored condoms. Just based on what I've seen around these boards, some want flavored for CBJ, some would just use a regular condom, and at least one will not do CBJ either way.

The way you say you'd be more comfortable to try, see about continuing--have you never had a BJ? If not, I'd advise you don't make a final decision against them if you get a CBJ and don't like it. I'm not one of these militant anti-CBJ guys, I can cum that way, but there's a world of difference between CBJ and BBBJ. Loss of sensitivity aside (which is real), I would think if a gal who usually does BBBJ is doing CBJ, she wouldn't be doing her normal stuff with her tongue, etc. Try at least one BBBJ before swearing off receiving oral sex, that's my advice, if in fact you never have.

Why don’t you actively pursue CBJ ladies?  I’ve seen a few.  Each has their own reason for only providing CBJ.  

But yes, if she provided BBBJ as a ready option, and you requested a cover, she most likely would think what is wrong with her.

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Thanks - that was my point of concern. Unfortunately the ones I want to see aren't cbj folks

Thanks for an extremely helpful reply.

If I had a concern about a BBBJ, I would bring my own wrappers.  Nothing flavored or exotic.  Roll one on from the beginning.  Not my thing, but shows this is how you ‘roll’.  I think some of the ladies here might say, no I hate the taste of latex, while most would at least be ok with it.  This is your session after all.

Oh wait, maybe that was...

 
Let me get this thing out and check:

I don't know the specifics behind why you are choosing CBJ over BBBJ, but my advice would to be upfront with the lady you want to see. Honesty, in my opinion, goes a long way. If you are upfront with your reason then there is less of a chance you will insult or offend her. Of course there's always someone who will find offense in your choice, but it is ultimately your choice and you should see someone who respects that choice.

Can always count on Fisher for a great Simpsons clip!

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i don't see the issue... don't see the reason why.

hating on Kgirls.  Most don't know about flavored condoms.  Actually, some don't even know about unflavored condoms.  Lol

If you make an appointment with a GFE+ full service Provider and produce the envelope, it is usually OK if you want less than everything she offers. You can show up, ignore her and read a magazine for an hour, if you want to. (That's a fetish I haven't heard of.) Basically, you've paid her to do nothing. Easy money, for her! I think that most will be understanding. Some will feign being offended or actually be offended (that you didn't want to avail yourself of their complete services or implied something negative about them). If you are upfront ahead of time, you will know which category they are in. The problem is ...
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You can't really discuss certain explicit details ahead of time (email, texting, voice) or you can find yourself cut off. You can't say, "Are you OK with CBJ instead of BBBJ?" - CLICK! So you can just try to explain that you're a nervous newbie, you are kind of vanilla, and so on.  You should be able to work things out despite such vagueness and nuance. If she says, "Vanilla? I only see banana splits with at least three scoops and all the toppings!" then you know it's a mismatch.
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As the subject line implies, trying to get MORE for less is sure to result in a bad experience.
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Good luck!

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Follow up question. I'm just curious, when you say to be upfront with the lady he wants to see, do you mean for him to bring it up before they meet in person? I ask because there's obviously some women who are ok with that, but that would be contrary to the advice commonly given. If you just meant be upfront in the session, then never mind.

I was waiting to see your comment. Hahahaha.

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Even though I vastly prefer BBBJ, I still think I think it's your call - no explanation required.  I also think I am responsible for having condoms on hand that I don't mind in my mouth - just in case!  

I'm speaking from my perspective and what I am okay with. Once verified, I don't mind discussing some details so long as it's done respectfully. Don't text/email/call and tell me how you want to tongue punch your fart box, but if there's something you particularly like/want that you aren't sure is available on my menu and can bring up in a tasteful manner then feel free to do so. I like to know if my client has a specific desire/fantasy they are seeking so that I can create a custom tailored experience that flows naturally.  

He should most certainly review her rules and etiquette before attempting to bring it up before the session. If she clearly states it is unacceptable to discuss specific acts prior to the session, then be upfront during. There's generally a few minutes of chat upon arrival and that would be a perfect time to politely mention your preferences.

My fear is that if I say, "can I have a covered bj" she'll hear "can I have a covered bj, you disease carrying whore."  Because, well really, that's sort of the point of the cover.

Also some of those condoms must taste as bad as they smell.  

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It would not be offensive to me I have had gents who have requested cbj I had no problem with it.
Just be upfront about it.

I have to post everything several times before it's not an ad so I hope this goes through. I wouldn't mind cbj. Is that too much like an ad? So confused. about an hour's worth of posts not approved. Anyway here's an article about STDs in LA I was going to post.  
I'm so discouraged.

Thank you for everyone's enthusiastic and helpful responses !!

...  it’s your party and you’re more than welcome to play within yOur comfort level.
 I offer both 😉..  and am most sure other ladies do as well.

Unless you go out of your way to insult a lady, it is perfectly fine to ask for cover. What I'd recommend? After getting screened, mention that you prefer all activities covered and if there is any lube flavor she'd like you to pick up. If you go with flavored condoms/lubes, be mindful of changing your cover before PIV sex as flavored stuff often exposes vaginas to needless (usually mild but very annoying) infections. Going the extra step, and being confident in your communication makes you a sexy partner. I promise you that!

I'm a provider that only offers CBJ because I have a lot of partners in and out of the hobby and I prefer it covered to keep everyone safer. I understand that a lot of folks who come to me prefer to keep it covered for very many similar reasons. Most providers will not offer BBFS and so a CBJ does not necessarily signal you demeaning her.  

Own your needs and desires and go with confidence. It brings out your sexy I promise you!

It's your choice, and respectfully,  Myself and other ladies  I know, Are Very Happy to Satisfy All Your Wants And Needs...well with in Reason...😚  Wink 💋💋

Because i began to feel uneasy about it. (nose about my twitter for more info there). I even then, would have had a beaming glow of appreciation. I dont love doing BBJ. Never did, never will. Its unnerving. So, i would have thanked you and smiled.

I have no problem with it. It is whatever the gentlemen's preference is. If he would like to have a CBJ over a BBBJ that is his totally is personal preference.

She won't care. It's your preference so don't be afraid to ask.

If a lady asked me to lick a piece of latex placed over her hot pussy, I'd decline.   I would think that sucking on latex would be rather disgusting.  I would never ask a lady to do that.

Our job is to be the provider for your fun and pleasure. As long as its within the guidelines  already laid out then ask. I dont blink an eye when a guy asks me to do what some would consider ordinary. We also have our preferences. The worst she would say is no. Is feels offended then she is in wrong profession. If it says no anal and you ask for that it may be out of line but still you never know till you ask.

Even if the guy asks for a CBJ because he is afraid I am icky in some way - well, good for him for looking out for himself!  I'm still not insulted.  

It's your fantasy. If you want cbj most professional ladies won't have an issue. Hopefully the rubber tastes ok.

If all she does is bbbj and you want cbj, what's wrong with that? You don't know how many bare dicks she's sucked between her last std panel. You also don't know the std status of every bare dick she's sucked. You also probably aren't aware is she's std free. I've seen plenty reviews of gents receiving bbbj from a lady who had an itchy throat, and it wasn't strep. I'll just leave you to think about that lol.  

CBJ is safe, all while still pleasurable. Play safe, play fair, play smart.

You should never feel bad in any way about implying and applying safe sexual techniques when you play.

If you're interested in an equally safe play provider. I'm your girl. Hopefully we'll cross paths.

Have fun (:

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A lady should never be offended by such a request, and if she is, that is not good. I usually do BBBJ but not to completion. If they want to finish I let them know that we would then need to use a condom for me to do the BJ to completion.

...wouldn't offend/insult me at all.  
If I can do an amazing BBBJ I can do a toe-curling CBJ.

I am led my the client's preference. Also CBJ can be great for prolonging the experience. xx