D = R(L-C)/d+1

where:

D = decision

R = performance rating

L = appearance rating

C = cost

d = distance

Or, I toss a coin.

I thought the for a newbie, I'd stick with the Newtonian model.

I do not want potential patrons contacting me just because of certain achronims.


Lina

Everything else is subject to my whims of the moment.

Usually, I require that she'll have to be wearing a purple hat, enjoy laser tag, and smell like curry powder.

If she doesn't have good looks, I wasn't looking at her long enough to register that she didn't have good looks.

I gauge her personality by making her submit a written five-hundred word essay to the following question  - do you like cheese?  

Location? Her cervix, duh!  

Donation - I just trade her for a free sample of my protein based facial lotion.  

Gentlemen, When you decide which provider you would like to spend time with, what is the deciding factor...Looks? Personality? Location? Donation?
Just curious, what factors are MOST important to you.

-- Modified on 10/27/2010 4:53:09 PM

Looks, personality, location, donation — no.  Its all about the service.  Action speaks volumes.  I set my search criteria to rimming — yes, Anal — yes, Kiss with tongue and BBBJ.  The cream comes to the top!

Or what I can glean of it from the interweb. I think we should all start saying interweb.

mrfisher your equation is very interesting, however you will I'm sure agree that one must consider the following

D = B4IFQU (RU)/18


Thank you
XLV = 4

Heaviest weight goes to professional ethics because without it a provider is a liability rather than an asset and isn't worth seeing at any price.

Intellect is important because I like to enjoy discussions with providers outside of sex talk. She doesn't have to have a bunch of letters after her name -- self-education is fine.

Personality is important for our ability to mesh, understand each other, and get along.

Then comes sense of humor. Any type of sense of humor is fine so long as it exists!

After that comes "feasibility." I don't travel due to home responsibilities. So the lady either has to be within a reasonable drive or tour to somewhere near me. I really don't enjoy having to deal with parking woes in major cities, but I've done it for a couple of ladies.

Donation -- I have a budget -- so her donation cannot exceed that budget. I DO have a provider "minimum wage" such that if a provider incidentally charges under that, I make sure she is tipped up to at least that wage. Just as, even if I were Bill Gates there would be a maximum that I would pay for companionship; I feel companionship also has a minimum intrinsic value.

Time Proximity -- I don't bed-hop well. When switching sex partners I need to allow time (4-6 weeks) between them or I won't enjoy the second woman in that succession; so the times I can schedule her need to allow for that; though I'll often orchestrate my schedule specifically to make it work if I have enough advance planning.

Looks -- She should meet my very subjective definition of "attractive." Because I am aware of a number of biases that people generally and men in particular have when presented with exceptionally attractive women; I tend to raise the bar a bit higher for prettier women to compensate for any compromise in my judgment.

Age -- I have a slight prejudice against sub-30 women. I've had it since I was sub-30 myself. I'll see a woman under 30 if she has already impressed the crap out of me in other respects though. I do, however, draw the line at women I believe I will have to card. (Note: lots of providers lie blatantly about their age, so I often judge mental and emotional maturity instead.)

I'm sure you know about the Blood Sweat and Tears , Spinning wheel theory of ....."what goes up must come down"

Now my cousin PhysicsFollowmeProfessor is conducting an in depth study of the what goes in must cum out theory.

Thank you
XLV = 4

Good reviews are a given. If she doesn't have the looks, convenience or price.

I recently saw a lady I seriously enjoyed despite some appearance issues. She was good at communication about her logistics and when she goofed our schedule she expressed enough remorse to knock her fee in half. Of course, it helped that she provided a rock solid service

For me I guess it isn't which factors, as they all go into the mix. It is how much weight does each one get. Things like reliability and good business practices go a long way over an appearance point or two. For me.

is what attracts me to her in the first place, then her donation amount needs to be within my budget and finally location (if she is in NYC and I am in LA, it isn't going to happen).  Personality only comes in if I have met her previously (session or M & G), read some of her posts and was attracted to her "style" or maybe talked with her on the phone as part of her screening process or to set the date in the first place.

What I look at before booking with a provider in order of importance to me:

My wife's OK - With out my wife's OK to see the lady I do not play, eve. If my wife even hints she does not want me to see a lady I won't. I have not seen one lady so far for this reason.

She must screen as legit - I screen more than most providers. I don't see ladies that I can't verify from at least two sources and reviews only count as one no matter how many she has on multiple sites. I have learned the hard way the need for clients t screen is as legit as providers need to do so. If I can't verify her to my satisfaction I will not see her. I screen better than most of the ladies out there do and use many of their own screening methods to screen them.

Ethics - I don't like to deal with frauds and cons. I deal with to many of these types in my job, I will not put up with it in my play time. Honesty is important to me. So is professional integrity. If a lady has outed someone on a public blacklist site using there name or employment information for small stuff like a NCNS, I will not see her. I would not out a lady for something like a NCNS and will not see a lady who would out someone for that. Public blacklist site show up on Google outing the client to anyone does a Google search on him, not cool. She must also respect my time as I respect hers.

Convenience - If a lady is hard to reach, hard to screen, difficult to see, or to far too travel to, I will just move on. This is a hobby not a job. I am not going to work to hobby.

Looks - If I find her unattractive I will not see her. Now I find a lot of different ages, sizes, races, ages, and body types  attractive. But if her looks does nothing for me there is little point in seeing her. I have over looked this before, because her personality and ethics turned me on with good results. She became my ATF until see retired.

Personality - This would be before looks but it is hard to judge until you have met her.  It is why I would like to have a session with Allure and anther with litterbike. I like their style.

Cost - I have a maximum I will spend on a lady per hour. I will spend no more than $350 an hour. It is not that I can't afford to spend more, I just don't think any provider worth more than that to me.

Services provided - This is the least important thing I look at. I am happy anywhere from FBSM with a happy ending to a CFS provider but I have rules I follow for my piece of mind. I do not DFK with providers or do anything involving the anal area of anyone with anyone ever. I also require that other than a HJ and oral that everything be covered. If I feel she can't play within my rules and still be comfortable, I will not book. If I find out a lady offers BBFS or BB anal to her clients she is on my DNS list.

First background... I always see different providers, as I like the variety. I also seldom decide more 12 hours in advance. I get the idea this isn't typical, so factor that in...

Looks are a prerequisite, but also subjective to some extent, and subject to the reality that most photos are old or just a bait and switch, so in terms of looks, it really about what the expectation is, which will be a function of the photo and reviews. Location will obviously be a factor within reason, and donation is a factor to be offset against reviews - the more I'm paying, the less likely I'll TOFTT or try something that's not guaranteed to be consistently good. Finally, while personality isn't known before the visit, reviews can give an idea, as can a call in advance.

There is no one deciding factor.  We have a lot of options when choosing and narrowing those options is a process.  Here's mine:

1) Looks.  There is no point in meeting a girl I'm not sexually attracted to.  If you're not what I want I just move on to the next ad without bothering to do any research at all.
Age and social graces can be a huge factor under certain circumstances.  If I'm just looking for a private experience then it doesn't matter much but if we will be seen together she needs to be age and behavior appropriate.  It defeats the purpose if everyone knows she is a professional.

2) Safety!  This includes a lot of factors.  
First, I don't need 50+ reviews to feel safe (and sometimes less is more) but enough info to convince me she isn't LE is more than vital.  
Second, cleanliness of both the provider and the location has a big impact on whether I would consider repeating.  If I feel like I'm going to catch something by taking off my shoes I'm likely to walk away with my donation in my pocket.  
Third, is location.  If the spot is open and exposed to the view of the general public I'm less likely to feel comfortable.  This is also true of the traffic in the area.  A travel lodge just of the interstate on a weekend is likely to be full of curious eyes and while 99% of them wont figure it out or care if they do, that 1% can be a serious monkey wrench.
Finally, my privacy is extremely important to me so discretion is a must.  

3) Type of services offered.  personally, I like kissing.  If she doesn't offer that then I'll look elsewhere.  

4) Personality / Feedback.  I expect other hobbyists feel differently but I genuinely would like the girl to enjoy herself.  Don't expect me to read your mind.  If you like something tell me, if you don't... tell me.  I enjoy the experience more if I'm with someone who is enjoying herself or at least faking it convincingly.  Faking it unconvincingly is just insulting and disappointing so be careful.

5) Donation.  The lower the better is the obvious and kind of dickish response but it's true because a hobby budget is limited and the less spent per experience the farther it can be stretched.  That being said, the more boxes a provider ticks off the more the time is worth.

6) Screening process.  I know this is selfish given how closely I screen but the more a provider screens the less likely I am to put forth the effort to get approved.  I can empathize with a provider who screens heavily buy for me the risk lies with the provider and the more information she has about me the less safe I feel.  I don't expect I would ever give my real life info to any provider or agency.  If that meant I had to look elsewhere then so be it.

hope this was helpful to you

It is a combination of performance scores, price, a few musts (French kiss, DATY, BBBJ), a feel for her personality based on her web site, and location.  Lastly the biggest factor is availability.  

In short it is not simple, and often based on gut instinct.

1. Logistically possible. I live in a big city, so there are lots of choices. I require incall, a certain price range (not too cheap and not too expensive), and availability at certain times of certain days.
2. I get a feel for how the lady thinks and acts. Sometime this is more important than the next criterion, sometime not. Web site verbiage is of some interest if there is enough of it, and it seems to be real and personal. If not, I drop an email and see what response I get. I am generally (but not always) looking for a brain, a person who can stimulate me on multiple levels. A wild romp is great, but it is even better if you can talk before and after.
3. Pictures and descriptions look right - call me superficial, but I am looking for a certain type. As with the communication, I want pictures that seem to be expressive of who the person is, not slick, professional pictures that no woman can ever resemble in real life. I want the woman to look pretty, well presented and sexy, but not airbrushed, heavily made up and/or perfectly posed.
4. Communication goes smoothly - easy, amusing, pleasant, and timely. I have some tolerance for chaos, as it can be entertaining, but I prefer it in the bedroom and not in the scheduling.

In my ideal world, all the girls would be 18-22, slender, look beautifully innocent, but be uninhibited, passionate and with the poise, maturity, experience and interests of a 40 year old. As it turns out, in the real world, my favorites are mostly between 30 and 40, in great shape and fascinating. Go figure. There is one exceedingly well grounded, very professional and wildly passionate 23 year old in there, too. But mostly I find the younger women too difficult to hook up with in pretty much every way, even if I do lust after them. Not saying I will not see one from time to time, just to satisfy that fantasy, but I am finding that I need to be picky about which ones I see. And I think a young looking 28 beats the hell out of 18 just about every time.

For the most part I schedule ahead, a week or two at least, and have a list of 3-5 possible new adventures, plus a growing list (2 today, could be three but I need to revisit one lady soon to see about that) of ladies that I enjoy revisiting. When I visit here and the other sites I use for research, I am endlessly tempted to try new ladies, but the big head reminds me that I am going to be safer, happier and better satisfied if I keep to my list - and it even wins that debate sometimes.

Not that I spend any time thinking about this, but that is where I am today in my hobbying.

Zig

What attracts me initially is the image. A provider that has taken the time to have good images of themselves taken tells me they care.  Cell phone and cheap crappy photo's suggests to me they don't care and there may be some bad underlying reasons they are in the business. What a provider looks like is subjective.  Hobbyist have different tastes, wants or needs.  A good initial presentation will be a benefit regardless of the subjective nature of the hobbyist. Don't worry about your looks too much. A decent photographer will set the lighting to enhance your good qualities or the qualities you want to convey.

Good communication skills, attitude, and personality are important. Due diligence and screening is important for the provider but it needs to be passive and un-intrusive to the hobbyist. There are certain things I will not expose myself to. A verification system is one of them or someone who just doesn't look their advertised age whether it be too young or to old. I also avoid providers that have menu's as they are not thinking straight and they have exposed themselves to solicitation charges. I never discuss sex with a provider. I may inquire about their rate and when we meet, I always make the initial moves. If the provider says no, that means no. I will not push it. There is plenty of information for the provider and the hobbyist on the internet to insure proper etiquette when meeting. If both the provider and the hobbyist would take the time to learn it, it would make the meeting go allot smoother and safe.

For myself, I stay within my comfort zone and I only visit local providers who have been reviewed or have advertised locally for many months. Longevity does have standing in my book. I prefer independent providers as well. I also prefer initial contact via email to get a idea what location I am visiting (major Cross streets). Every city has safe and unsafe areas and this speaks volumes to me in many ways.

thing is a talk with the provider and finding out she is a real human being!!......has a sense of humor...and can show some respect for herself and the client.