I couldn't agree more. Most providers say they expect us hobbyists to be respectful of their time and show up on time and leave when the agreed length of time is up. Ok, if have the time and she wants to hang out longer that is great. But I have always tried to be respectful of providers time. If anything, I usually end up a few mins early and killing time till she is ready. I would expect the the provider to be respectful of my time as well by being ready on time and not keeping me waiting, often on some street corner looking kind of suspicious..
As the saying goes, "shit happens", and when it does on my end, I give immediate notice via call, text or email. Heck, I even rescheduled an appointment a couple days in advance cause I caught a cold and was afraid I would not be fully recovered in time. The point is to communicate early and often. If delays are minor and each other's schedule can accommodate, that is ideal. If not, reschedule. If it becomes habitual, drop it and move on. I have no time for those cannot respect me and my time. - Spartan
I'm curious...what do you consider proper etiquette for being late? When is it acceptable to still see a client or a provider. If they are 5-15 mins late sure. 30-hour or longer do you reschedule or write them off? Obviously traffic and things happen but I'm just interested in what others consider the right way to go about dealing with this situation.
The world's longest traffic jam... over 60 miles long and lasted 11 days.
Now that's a good excuse, lol.
I once had to call a client to tell him some dude was pushing my car to a gas station. Ran out of fucking gas. I was so embarrassed it messed my groove up royally that night with him.
He still likes me tho 
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Only because you didn't run out of gas that night.
That can be taken more than one way; however, we both know it was a good thing…
If it's a regular I would certainly give, and expect, more slack when things go wrong. On the other hand, if someone's being late is going to interfere with your scheduling for the rest of the day it's probably best to just have them reschedule. How late is too late? Well, again, that depends on the circumstances. This is not a "cookie cutter" endeavor that we are involved in and I don't think that there are a lot of "one size fits all" solutions to these issues.
Normally anything over about fifteen minutes without a call is my cue to bail, but just yesterday I had a lady show up well over a half hour late, the difference was, number one she was supposed to show up at 8 AM, right in the middle of rush hour traffic, and number two, we had an all day date and I had absolutely nothing else planned for the day which we were both aware of, so in this case the forty minutes or so was no biggie.
On most occasions though, anything more than about 15 minutes without a phone call is unacceptable to me, with a phone call? Just about anything within reason is ok with me.
When circumstances determine that timing is not working, communication is very important.
1) Let the other party know the extent of the anticipated delay.
2) The other party should respond with their ability to continue with the meeting.
3) Either continue to the meeting, or determine an alternate plan, such as too bad cannot do it, I'll be there in an hour, I owe you for your time, etc.
The etiquette is in being transparent and communicative
Agreed, it's all about communication. I'm going to be far less eager to see a client who was ten minutes late without calling than a client who was thirty minutes late but warned me. It's common courtesy. I'm very rarely late but when I am, I will give an exact ETA if I know it. Don't keep people waiting!
1) Let the other party know the extent of the anticipated delay.
2) The other party should respond with their ability to continue with the meeting.
3) Either continue to the meeting, or determine an alternate plan, such as too bad cannot do it, I'll be there in an hour, I owe you for your time, etc.
The etiquette is in being transparent and communicative.
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THAT, my friend is the real answer.
Very nice.
Do we always meet at the exact time?
Foodguy said it right…
You have to stay in touch..
For me. When meeting for a date..
Not staying in touch is a red flag.
Not only because Im n asshole. And need guidance to find the fucking place.
But I know that girls who have their phone etiquette together are usually much more fun to be with.
One time. I met a girl through a screener that pretended to be her.
I didn't know it until after I met her. I didn't like it. I felt fooled, fucked, and jaded.
It ruined it for me.
Guess what Im saying is that the date starts at the first contact.
So. Certain girls can have me wait for hours, and I would say thank you.
Others…. I would say fuc no thank you as well. Then leave without waiting, and paying.
It's pretty simple really.
It's nice to be nice
delayed by traffic caused by either weather or accident issues. I keep in regular phone contact with the provider if this occurs. Considering I try to be in the immediate area 15-20 minutes before the scheduled date, I have never been more than 20 minutes late.
One Fav & I have had very fluid meeting schedules... she only provides occasionally & likely I'm the only one she's seeing that day or if she has something else she needs to do. That said, she blew up on me last visit (I'm no longer as close to her location, so had been a while). We had both misunderstood the timing... she did have things to do that day & did not tell me or set a definitive time. I assumed the same as previous schedule. And I did call her as per usual when I got on the highway. The first 20 minutes were taken up by her ballistic rant... if there had been a way out, I would have... but it would have proven her point. We did getto the session but it was definitely off.
I once had to cancel... I was enroute on the highway when the sky opened up. I tried to keep driving but all the other cars were stopped. Finally traffic stopped on the road & I called her (it wasn't even raining in her location) but I wouldn't have had half of my time if I'd made it at all. We cancelled & I was able to reschedule a day or 2 later. I did sincerely apologize...
I had a well reviewed provider leave me hanging... we had an agreed meeting the night before but in the morning she did not pickup. She never contacted me. A quick, 'can't do it, changed plans' would have been fine. It cost me an opportunity. I will not take another chance with her. Not even if it was FREE. Because I will not risk an opportunity on her again.
I think the question is really "Do you accept their apology & accept a reschedule appointment?" The question is how sincere they sound. Life does happen. Do you think they'll show if given another chance? It's your call.
As I've said before, I have to take two days to see a provider in the closest major metro area to me.
The first time I saw a very well-reviewed provider, we were set for noon for 3 hours. Less than two hours before we were to meet, her assistant called to say I'd been moved back an hour to 1 pm. When I got to the location, the provider was 40 minutes late. She had to get to work, so I could only see her for two hours, which was disappointing after spending that much time travelling.
I wouldn't have gone back if she wasn't worth it.
The next few times went great, no problems.
The last time I was scheduled to see her, there was a major problem. I wasted the entire weekend going to that city and never got to see her. She had two major excuses which came just twenty minutes on the heels of a "see you at noon" call. I could maybe believe one major excuse, but the odds of two in just twenty minutes are too high. What followed over the next three weeks has me pretty sure that something better fell in her lap in that twenty minute span.
Things happen, I know. But just like anyone else she'd be meeting at a specific time, she should call me and let me know she's running late. That's just common respect, and if she can't extend me common respect I don't think we'll get along very well when she does show up.
On this subject, I've just got to know. Do the vast majority of providers own really crappy running cars? Lol.
I'd really rather a provider tell me the truth as to why she's late or not give me a reason at all just that she's running late than to tell me a bullshit story, again the respect issue. I know stuff happens, it happens to me too, just keep me in the loop if stuff is going to impact my time.
Traffic was horrible. My normal one hour drive to the Incall took me an hour and a half, so I was a half hour late. She was another half hour late. We were talking to each other at least every ten minutes. I knew my trip home was a two hour drive, so it made more sense to wait. Without the constant communication, I probably would have turned around.
I had a prescheduled date with a Fav lady... I called when I got on the highway as I always do with her. It's a long drive but from the call it's about another hour so she can get a good ETA. Then one time she didn't pick up. I tried again 10 minutes later. No pickup. I got off the road and called another Fav. I was pretty annoyed though I did have a good time.
I called #1 a few days later just to be sure she was ok. She was a basket case. Her sister had completed chemo successfully & her family was about to throw a party for her. When she dropped dead. Fav #1 was out of state for her funeral... dropped everything & went. Then I felt like a shmuck... We did get together after that & she was definitely affected for a long time...