I would want to be honest...

I am not sure if all my needs were being met if I would still hobby, but I would never say never...

I'm the wrong one to ask since I'm not your average hobbiest...  

Variety guys...  probably would continue to play.

I suspect others hobby because of a short or non-existant menu at home or lack of a blue moon on any sort of a regular basis.  I am firmly in the latter category.  

Her equipment is less of an issue, but is certainly satisfactory.

Some discussion would need to be mutually agreed upon about frequency.  Way too many use sex to "get a guy" or "get her babies" and then sex is forgotten.  

The duration of the agreement would need to be discussed as well.

If both agreed to exclusivity, testing & loose the latex.  

Personally, I would go for it.  No woman would make me such an offer so I don't need to worry.

I am in that category of "no offerings on the menu at home" as mentioned above. If there was something to choice from the menu at home, forget the main course even an apetizer and desert would be nice now and then, I would not be dining at this restaurant.

So in light of that I would say YES with a capital Y but as also mentioned before not likly to happen in my case. I have excess bagage, elderly parents and three rug rats to take care of.

Good Luck.

I hobby when I am between relationships. Whenever I enter into a serious relationship I just lose all interest in hobbying. I never even think about it. I have no moral concerns about being monogamous, I just lose the drive to seek variety. When the relationship gets to its natural conclusion, I return to the hobby. This has been my pattern through about five relationships and about 20 years.

I would never say never, but I think that if I felt the urge for variety during a relationship, that would mean that the current relationship is done.

I hobby due to availability, or lack of it, not variety.

Without her blessing, no I would not, simply because I would probably get caught and then lose her completely.  With her blessing, I would only if I was getting tired of the same old menu at home.

But since I don't have a gf, esp one that has the aforementioned qualities, I will keep on hobbying.

Swim

No. I would not get married and plan to hobby too. If hobbying is going remain a part of your life, don't get married.

Re: I would

Be pleased to officiate over the ceremony.



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OK! I know I'm openning the door for you to pontificate on...

all of your stellar attributes, but if you have no gold, what does she see in you?

Note, you can pontificate all you desire, and then can blame it all on me for opening up that can of worms.

I hope you both are tremendously happy, and stay that way.

I would try to keep my Dick to myself..

Thats what every man pretty much wants in a woman. I would hope by the time we are 50 she still wants to BANG BANG...lol

If there are enough variables to make you wonder, then IMHO she's not the one for you to marry.

If I can't have children in a relationship, it's not for me. You can't spawn. What's in the relationship for you that you can't get hobbying? The one answer I can think of is you sleeping beside a female every night. Are you confident that she will stay with you if you become ill? The housekeeper may be on to something. Slow down and think with your big head, after the little one has seen what the young civvie has to offer, it will likely become bored.

Interesting question! Hmmmm....

Here's the deal. Alright, you all know I'm a damn good looking man. I'm interesting, loyal, love sex in all forms with a lovely lady, and most of all modest.

OSP, how old are you? I'm 42. And it would tickle the shit out of me to have a 23 hottie want to marry my drunken crazy ass!

But that's where I start to think. Hate to crush your groove, brother, but why?

I know. Stranger things have happened.

If it's true love, right-fucking-on my man! Go for it!

I'm just sayin', in my position, I can't think of a reason why a lady so young would want to hang with me for the rest of one or the other's lives.

Just me, I guess, and certainly don't mean to make you think twice. I wish you all the great things that life will bring you two! Truly!

But, being friends with certain ladies that provide and have SOs, I think, in my frame of mind after all I've seen and experienced, and not just the hobby mind you, that IF I would be with a lady, I would choose one that was open to experiencing new things. Either together, or apart.

Swinging would appeal to me if I had an SO. Especially if she and I met in this forum.

But like I said, that's me.

Anyway, I wish you the best! You know that!

Mike

"Should I marry this gal and continue to hobby?"

And the answer is: It depends on a lot of things.

First:  Does she know you hobby already?

If so, then maybe it's no big deal.  If not, then it's probably more likely that pigs will fly.  (I suspect it's the latter.)

Second:  How do you feel about marrying her and sneaking off to hobby once in a while?

If you are fine with that, and can pull it off successfully, then my response is:  Why not?

On the other hand, if that makes you uncomfortable, then you shouldn't

This is just the tip of the iceberg, There are scores of important questions to consider as well.

On the other hand, is the house keeper good looking?

8o)

People can and, of course, should, structure their personal relationships in whatever way works for them; it’s nobody else’s business.

But, WHY would anyone enter into a traditional marriage arrangement which, without explicit negotiation to the contrary, clearly includes a commitment to monogamy when they "know", from the very beginning, they have absolutely no intention of being monogamous?

Marriage is a legally binding contract. It is, at minimum, unethical to enter into a legally binding contract if you have no intention of adhering to parameters mutually agreed upon in the contract. If you break a contract with a business partner, s/he will likely sue your ass.

So will your wife. If her expectation is that you’re not going to be fcking other women--because that is exactly what you’ve promised her, when/if she catches you fcking other women she will have every right to be righteously pissed off, and hurt; possibly vengeful.

Ironically, the conversation that seems to come after that is how women are gold-diggers, and they don’t understand men’s sexual needs, followed by railing about how unfair and biased divorce laws are.

Although sounding perfect

One day(not too far off)she'll awake hating everything she now adores about you and then dedicate her life to making you(and herself) miserable for as long as you both reside together.

Do you believe in the "Pretty Woman" fantasy?

I do not. You might be better off with the housekeeper.

I would, but that is just me.

Honestly... I wouldn't marry any gal at 23. By 27 her outlook on life will probably be much different. By 30 your relationship could be a hot steaming swinger affair or be complete toast with divorce proceedings.

It seems 9 out fo ten couples that I knew who got married in their early 20's were remarried by their mid-30's. To me, 23 is still in infant stage for making a lifelong commitment. They want everything that life has to offer (the husband, the baby, the white picket fence....the new car, the big beautiful house, the expensive coach bag)... but have no idea or determination on how to pay for it all.