a request for a specific outfit, or music, or candles sometimes gets done half right (right outfit/wrong color, different artist playing through speakers, those tiny tea candles that provide little light and less atmosphere) or even worse, ignored - what to do?

this has happened to me with more than one provider.

is 72 hrs not enough prep time to fulfil an 1 hr fantasy, or do i have to bring all the stuff with me myself on top of the donation?

72 Hours may be enough time if the lady is not traveling or if she has enough time to get to a store to purchase what you are asking for. Keep in mind that even "local" girls do not always go home to their wardrobe closet every night when they are in work mode. Also, depending on what you are asking for, if you are a first time customer, she may not be inclined to spend the money on something for a guy that may no-show.

Honestly, I don't know what you expect from the provider's end here but the donation is for her time. Sure something like "wear stockings" is not unreasonable but if you want a lady in a particular outfit with hibiscus candles burning and Mantovani playing in the background YOU are the one that needs to plan ahead. The best way to assure seeing the lady in the exact outfit you wanted IS to purchase it for her as a gift and bring it along to the appointment.
Candles and CD's also make great gifts....

if I have the items, I will provide them on the visit, if its a one of a kind item, he will have to bring it with him,
reminds me of the scene from the movie "10" with Bo Derek

... but i work in customer service myself and have to kiss everybody's ass all day (my emails to the providers are professionally polite) and just for the one time when its MY turn to plunk down the cash i'd like to get what i effing ask for. THAT'S what i expect.

what about the poor saps who might actually have real issues, such as the allergic or differently abled?

i'll try and book my specific request appointments earlier.

do you think we are a department store?? That we have every outfit in a full rainbow of colors??

To be perfectly honest, while I am very happy to acommodate specific requests, if I had gotten an e-mail specifying a particual outfit, in a particular color, specific candles, and a specific artist for music - I would have simply deleted the e-mail without responding. You've got high maintenance stamped on your forehead with preferences like that.

it's not like i'm trolling on CL and asking for a Brahms Symphony.

these are providers (sometimes VIP level $$$$) whose sites advertise "the most awesome sexual experiences within a garden of sensual delights" - i'm just rolling with that flow.

i guess i just got an education ... damn





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Except for the outfit, the rest of what you're asking for are things that I always consider bringing with me. If it's an outcall, it's done. I always travel with a nice selection of music, usually have some candles, and even some nice massage oils. If it's an incall, I always ask if there is anything the lady would like me to bring, perhaps some beverages and a snack. None of these things are difficult to have with us, or to find once we get there. I think that if WE put a little more effort forward, instead of just showing up with our expectations, it's going to be a more enjoyable time for both people.

presented decently.

not really feeling the outcalls just yet, and i've brought gifts to incall before.

"is that a long candle or are you just glad to see me?"

LMAO!

You should also make sure that the lady is one who provides fantasy and role play.  You'll have to ask her, "Are you open to some personal requests?"
Many ladies are, but some aren't.  I'm not.  No, I play my specific music, wear what makes me comfortable and feel sexy, and provide the menu that I provide.  If you like it, you come back.  If you don't, you try someone else.
Hundreds of ladies out there.  Too many choices for you to get all worked up over the small stuff.

is a good idea too.


from your site - "I am aware of the human being as a whole being.  Paying attention to the spiritual subtelties, the physical sensations, the emotional nuances, and the unique complexities that make up each person have given me the chance to create a special and unique session for you."

hmmm.....


"Too many choices for you to get all worked up over the small stuff"

thanks for the Wisdom.

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one - was a semi-S&M sessioin
one was I requested that she wear a white dress...  Incall to my hotel
One was a request for a black dress with no bra... we went out to dinner.

in all three instances my expectations were met- and exceeded!
the S&M involved her tying me up and teasing me...   that went on for an hour... and was truly unique - and fun for me...and for her.

The White dress was my visit to a goddess....  she showed up in the perfect dress... and was very lovely...  a perfect evening...

the final the black dress still makes me weak in the knees... we went to a restaurant - and at the door... the Maitress'd... took her coat - took a looong look at my date... and said to her, " you are very beautiful"  Made my MONTH!

Sorry that you've not had my experiences... I usually make these special requests 2-3 weeks ahead of time... as if they do not possess the outfit - they are going to have to get it...  

Finally, there was the time I was out with a lady - she wished to go to an adult costume shop - we did...and as I wanted to see her in a fishnet body suit - I purchased one for her.... it was truly spectacular - and that was "on the spur of the moment!"  but it worked.

the practical advice from your success stories is definitely appreciated

There is a big difference between "Please wear a black dress with no bra" and "Please wear a black wrap around plunging neckline black dress with beaded trim and no bra, 4" heels with an ankle strap and metal heel."  You can't expect a lady to go to the mall seeking the exact dress or shoes you are seeking.  (Yes, I did get the second request once.  I wore a black wrap around dress with plunging neckline and no trim, and 4" heels with an ankle strap and leather heel.)

There is a difference between, "I like candles" and "I love those candles that smell of lilacs."

Since you are not getting what you are seeking in your experience, it seems either your requests are too vague, or too specific.  If they are too vague and it seems the lady has tried but not "gotten it", try to be more specific.  If your requests are too specific you may need to do a bit of shopping to ensure that you have the exact experience you are seeking.

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it was limited to a single item of clothing or style of session.  and I left it somewhat to the ladies discretion as to what to wear - other than a white dress.  In the case of the black dress the lady sent me a pic of the dress she proposed to wear - and we traded e-mails - so I had the benefit of a true GFE even before we met... she is - without doubt - and I know she reads the boards and knows that I am writing about her.... a true lady - and a top notch person.... quite the treat!

but sounds like you're getting a lot of good advice so .. yes, shop around and find the one provider that matches with you specifically.

Why keep putting so much energy into trying to change a provider when there has got to be at least one who fits your tastes.  And the best way to do that is just ask... "Do you take specific requests?"

i'll try to make my specific requests reasonable.

reading a provider's reviews beforehand might help, too.

I understand the outfits but the music too?
I usually have candles but sometimes I forget to pack em.

I always look sexy though and have never had a complaint.

but i never had someone be so specific.
For an hour.

Now two hours sure I will spend the extra money on the extra things.

but mister. the hotel is usually 100 plus and the gas to get there and home 50+  candles are not cheap either, nor is a specific CD or a specific type of lingere that we may or may not have and how long do you really keep your one hour lady in her panties anyway?


Remember we are in it for profit to sustain ourselves as well as FUN HOT SEXY FUN.

You can hum a lil tune in your head. I'll go get the matches
Come on hun.
Lets don't make a good time with a pretty girl who is willing to serve your every physical need harder to find.

I'm going to assume that this is a provider you have seen several times & are comfortable with each other & know this is real & not a fantasy that the gentleman will balk on.  

Let's consider a general type of scenario where the lady can likely find the dress in her closet...  sees a reasonable request.  Guys idealized views on woman's clothing often does not understand what looks good on one body type may not on the next.  

Even if one is filthy rich & is dumping boat loads of cash on a provider, such a super high end lady might have an acceptable dress already but having something altered could take more time.  If you're expecting her to spend a day shopping for your date, then you need to compensate for that time as well.  This latter is outta my league but I can still dream.  
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