I am thinking of a new photoshoot and new ideas for pictures. When going through stock pictures and other provider sites for ideas of sites my mind wonders.. Can providers maintain a personal life and a business life in the "reg" world while showing your face in pictures ? I find that with technology it must be hard to do with fear of people finding you online by accident or on purpose.

Gents, Do you concider a lady more or less with this thought in mind ?

It's completely understandable to me. One has to do what one must to protect oneself from people who have no businees making judgements about one's personal activities.

But then, there are those that feel I have an extra boost of estrogen fueling my opinions.


HalfHour

"But then, there are those that feel I have an extra boost of estrogen fueling my opinions."

I feel your estrogen. Call me, I need a HJ.

I am a little more at ease contacting someone I haven't see before if they have a face pic and a nude or topless pic. Having both in the same pic is always a plus. It makes me feel they are serious about being a provider, though that may sound silly.

I can understand the need for privacy, but if I have to go through their screening process I think it only fair. I only had one lady ask for personal info and my pic, which I would never share for fear of it getting out, but since she had face and body pics posted I thought it was only fair.

It has tremendous potential for misuse in invading privacy.  The world of commercial sex will be affected.

Not a good idea.

When I decided to return to the business, I had NO plan on putting up pictures with my face on them. Then, after some postings, I realized that this was almost a "must do" to re-establish myself and prove my commitment and credibility to the profession to both myself and the hobbyist. I put one toe in the proverbial water and then had to jump all the way in. Once in, you are in! Do I worry that someone in my "regular" life might see? My ex-coworkers or neighbors? Church patrons? ABSOLUTELY. However, since I have committed to the job at hand it is a risk I am willing to take. And, a situation I will have to deal with it if and when it comes down to it. I am getting ready to have professional photos done which will be much clearer and defining than the ones I currently have up increasing the chances even more that I will be seen - also increased by the fact I market on many, many sites. On the flip side, do these people in my "regular" life really want me to know they were looking at these images?

Summer

so if you have a situation in your life (Like a daytime job, family, etc.) that would get ruined if someone did a Tineye on you, don't show your face.

I like to see a provider's face, but it is not a deal breaker if she doesn't.

Here's what the photos should not have:  blurs or blue dots over your face.  They look tacky.

Instead, take photos from the neck down, or shots where you turn away from the camera or your hair covers your face.

Use a good photog, and he'll know how to make them sexy.

Good topic!

Let me speak from experience. I work for the gov, and there are always cases popping up of people in my workplace or similar jobs that post "unprofessional pics" on their Facebook account. Even if its something as harmless as holding a beer and drinking with friends or even wearing a bikini. There will always be that one person or "hater" that digs through some1 info and report them. Anyways, I know a couple of people, read news, and watch T.V that some1 has lost their job because of a silly photo.

If this is something that you only want to do temporary, always think of the long term. I had to delete my Facebook account because it was just too much drama, and I knew a couple of haters at my workplace that want to see me sink. You don't want to know how many providers I have seen outside the hobby (never been with them before) or the public because they post their face pic--I always think to myself when I see them, haven't I seen them before somewhere, and it hits me, shes a provider I saw on the ad. You want this to be you? I am not bias, some prefer it that way, and I am not bashing them in any way, but she ask a legitimate question, and this is only my opinion. Thanks, good luck.

..... she doesn't mind her friends, SO or family finding out.  

Yes.. But it is different " in the eyes of others " to look online at certain things, and even for a guy to hire a women for services.. BUT it is never look upon for a women that provides to be a good thing.

In life I mean school a normal 9 to 5 job, having a company or a family. For me this is my "fun" I provide because I honestly love men and Love to explore life. And honestly the extra couple grand a month.. Is very benificial for only working a few hours doing what I love. I will have to stop soon, I just had a baby, and my normal life with my other businesses are steady taking me in other directions time wise, but until then, I play. But after it is said and done, I dont want to be known as "that girl I think I saw online" or apply for something and it come up .

And what a lovely face it is, Lilly!

It hardly matters where you post, you lose control of who sees the pictures and who recognizes them.

Do you care if family/friends find your escorting pics?

Do you care if your emplyer does?

Will you care who finds them 5 years after you retire from this?

If any of these are "yes" do not show your face or identifying marks.

To most ladies the few guys who pass you buy because of it are not worth the loss of a real job or the issues that come with a child/parent/future spouse coming across it.

I am really not into them. I get no great satisfaction from them, and don't spend that much time on them. Was never really that impressed with them. I have a work phone that noone but clients and other providers have the number to. I have an email account for this business.

90% of my friends and family are like me, not impressed with computers. Their life is so busy, a computer does not come into play for anything other then paying their bills. They don't text, they aren't into the iphones for the apps and the web.

I guess If they see my picture, I don't really care. I have spent the majority of my life on the right side of everything. I love what I do and am well past the age of caring what anyone else thinks.

My motto is, "if you don't like me or what I do, then don't talk to me. trust me, my life will go on!"

My worst trait? My bluntness..

Life is too short to go through it thinking "what if". Instead think "why not"

I will no longer be able to fight crime annonymously... but then again, since I am green, it is obvious who I be....

But here is the thing.... IF someone recognizes you from a posting on backpage, or Eros... or TER or anyother escort site... did ya ever wonder how they found the pic???  I have pics of several very private strippers who provide for me... (heck, I took the pics).  Would I post them? NO.  Have i shown them to others - yes... but only in certain circumstances... and NEVER in a way where they could copy the photo... but still, how would someone know about the pic, IF it were posted unless they were there looking for a tryst!?  

We've all had the question - what would you do if you encounter an escort you have seen in public?  simple answer is not to acknowledge the acquaintance in a public manner... ever.

But I suppose, it could create some ackward and tense moments....

But know this, I take ladies in the sex business around friends all the time... and no one knows which is which.... or so I tell myself.

In your case, I don't see the struggle... no face pics. You've got family and a business to protect from the stigma of being known as a provider, which we all know is not the label you'll carry outside of the hobby.

Face pics should only be for the girls that are comfortable with it. Like I stated above, I prefer face and body pics, but I completely understand why anyone would choose not to. If I'm interested in a provider, and comfortable enough to feel she is legit, I'll see her without having to see face pics... unless the reviews mention a resemblance to Quasimoto, or an evil Step-sister. I mean, it's like letting everyone know my real name is Lance Arms.... damnit!

they know that all it takes is for you to ask, so why did you find my picture.

but like you, the gal I see, does this because her hubby doesn't give her any... as incredible as that is.

One of the most honest providers I have ever seen (in regard to facial and body pictures) lives in one city and has an apartment in another far from home. Expenses are shared with one or more other providers.  Her MO is that she leaves home monthly for "business trips".  As has been suggested, there are those that might discover her pictures, but probably only those that are looking (as in shopping).

Yes that sounds like a good situation that could work, so? Frankly I think it would be great if things could be so easy for most of us.

Tamara G. x

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The point is, touring works very well for some providers.  I understand that it may not be an option for providers with local commitments that prevent them from traveling.  Nonetheless, I am very glad to have providers touring my area.

Every provider has a different situation, so what may be uncomfortable or life-altering for one, may have no negative impact on another. Some have many family & friends who don't have a clue what they do, & if they found out, there may be problems. Others, like myself, have no family left, except my children & there is really no one to "accidentally" find me. I've only been recognized once in public by someone I didn't know in 6+ yrs of providing, & had one landlord come across one of my ads.. but in all reality, he really couldn't say much to me, as he was up there looking for a provider to call in the 1st place.

I've heard many new providers, worry about someone recognizing them & what I always tell them, that unless someone is looking for a provider to call, they will probably never come across your profile. Oh, and if you do have a facebook account, NEVER use a pic on your FB that you've used in an ad before, as they can be connected using certain sites & people will be able to find out your real info.

You have to decide what YOU are comfortable with, and if there's anyone in your life, that did find out what you did, how much of an impact would it have on you personally?

I am welll into electronics when it comes to technology. Enclosed is a picture of my hobby, She is loaded with technology. I don't mean to insult anyone about computers, they just don't do it for me unless it has to do with a big block. I hate texting, its a waste of time. I can talk faster then I type. And yes, some people have lives outside of indoor spaces..I for one, am constantly doing something outside. I adore playing basketball, and anytime I get to swim, I will jump at the chance (x swimmer here)Today I spent the day at the track and had a blast I am getting ready for the  next race next weekend in MN. Weekend of august 5th I was in Seattle. I have a laptop to hook up to my car and for the weather station via satelite. And as far as the 90% of my friends, they are like me, always going from one track to another and no time for computers. Don't assume, which is what you did, that just because I am not into computers and texting, that I don't do modern technology.

But yes I guess I am in the over 40 class (ty you Lord) I know what I like and have a great time doing it.

I only posted my opinion which seemed to bother you. But hey life goes on...just dont assume just because someone doesn't like computers, they don't know anything.

Anytime you want to help this over 40 rebuild her lil ole 632 blown, be my guest. That is,you can handle my technology. And since I have been racing over 25 years...I think I MIGHT know a little something about technology..

Women and their machines and then there are boys with their toys !!!

have a regular life and civie job, and they know I "was" in the life (they don't know I unretired a couple months or so ago; the co-workers wouldn't care either way, but the boss-lady wouldn't take it too well). I don't have a social media site with my photos on it. I have a LinkedIn account under my real name, but no personal picture there - just one of the kind of work I do in my civie life.

If I ever start civie dating again and it looks like it might be going somewhere, then I'll tell him about the p4p aspect of my life (which I might or might not be doing at the time we're dating). If he has a problem with it, then so be it: he's the one who'll have the problem, not me. If he doesn't have a problem with it, then we'll be able to continue from there.

This is only one choice of many, and all your choices will be your responsibility. I know what I might lose (or gain) by having my face in my photos. I know what I might lose (or gain) from being a p4p'r at all. But, it was my choice to do this - including having my face in my photos.

Cheers!
Jolene