While talking to a friend, we were lamenting the receipt of a white listing by someone that it wasn't wanted from.  Now, the reasons could be many, but lets suppose that someone that you banter with, but had no intent of seeing added you to her white list.  What do you do?

Being on the list IMPLIES that you've seen her, but I know of several instances where this isn't the case.  Do you just roll with it, or ask to have it removed?  Would TER remove it, or does the lady have to?

Personally, I've turned the display off for my own, so I'm really just curious.  I have 3, for the record, although one is now delisted, just for the record.

try to explain to the lady that I would prefer that I keep my whitelist referrals to ladies who I have actually had appointments with, and hope that she doesn't take offense.

include, in their solicitation, a few sheets of return mailing address stickers (your name and address) that you can use. Like, do you use them and feel guilty for not sending a donation, or don't send a donation, and in order not to feel guilty, you throw them away. I keep them and used them, since it would be a waste to throw them away.

she probably wrote it in anticipation of a visit from you! lol!!!

I'm only slightly kidding. In some cases, I probably would, LOL. Even if it was someone I had no desire to bang, I wouldn't do anything. I don't see how leaving it there could hurt me, but I doubt it will ever happen.

That is what getting whitelisted is all about. A gentleman could be exactly that in public and quite the opposite in the bedroom. I would never want to put my stamp of approval on someone only to risk another ladies safety.

Please contact this provider and explain you want it removed and while your at it do explain exactly what whitelisting is to her. You will do a big service to each and every lady who comes across one of her whitelisted gentlemen that have never been seen.

Thankyou very much for being honest and caring

Kisses Haley

Well, he's your friend.  Maybe she meant to white list YOU, lol.

For some the Whitelist is good. For me, it's useless.

Hugs,
Ciara

I only have a single white list...  & not by a Fav!  
But I would gently say there must be some mistake, perhaps she has you confused with someone else.  Just please remove the WL until you've seen her.  No need to say more.
skb

in order to whitelist.  Actually it says anyone you know I believe or something to that effect.  I've whitelisted people I haven't sessioned with but know fairly well.  If a lady was to ever ask me about the whitelist I'd let her know just that also.

Now as for the person whitelisting you that you don't care for.  Ask to have it removed if it's bothering you.  Kindof like a fake review ya know?  If you feel that a lady doesn't know you well enough or has never seen you, then she shouldn't be whitelisting you and in which case I think that's perfect reason to ask to get it taken down.

I beg, plead, whine, cry, and throw temper tantrums to get whitelisted by providers that I have seen dozens of times.

You?  You can't KEEP them from whitelisting you even before you've ever seen them.

{sigh}

Some people have the best problems.

Oh wait, perhaps you already have  But then again, I believe that you know me pretty well.  I believe that the lady in question based it on a M&G, but I'm not certain.  It doesn't matter, because I'm 110% certain that he's not seen her.

As I've said, I'm not referring to myself (or I'd have posted with an alias).

I think I whitelisted you

But I also don't think running around after an M&G and throwing whitelist out is a good idea either.  You can't really get to know someone that well at a M&G.  That's lame.  And I know who you're talking about HAHAHAHAAAAHHAHHAHA.  And I know for a fact he never seen her too.  

I'd ask for it to be removed personally.

And I appreciate it

And yes, you do know who it is...

If some ladies do not use a whitelist as a reference, do they serve another purpose?  Also, are there things (information) that providers see on a whitelisted person that we do not see?  I only see that I was whitelisted.