What is your general behavior on dates? Providers, which do you prefer?

On a first date I let the provider take the lead, so I can get a better idea of her menu and comfort zone.  Although I'll often make suggestions when I sense she's open to that.  Beyond the first session, some providers have a plan they like to follow, and I'm fine with that if I'm having a good time.  But most are open to my ideas, so most of my dates after the first tend to be a mix of both of us leading sometimes and following other times.  

lest their timing be thrown off.

However, after time as we come to feel more comfortable with each other, then I can assert my own prerogatives and thus increase the overall enjoyment of the sessions.

That's the way it goes with the ones you stick with.

I feel him out, talk to him, let him chill out a bit and shake off the nerves, then when he starts to melt a little, I get more affectionate. But I like him to make the body language before I just stick my tongue down his throat lol.

When a guy walks through the door, he is another person, not necessarily a project. I also don't want to look like I have a routine.

Makes it so much harder for her to stick the landing

I honestly don't know what to think about the timid johns who act like virgins at the prom.  Go into that session with confidence--dress well & look your best. Most women like men who are confident & independent.  You Lead.  Repeat: You Lead.  

I take the lead, my sessions aren't typical though. I have a basic routine of sorts but tweak every one according to the individual. I do tend to get lost in the moment at times so I typically extend sessions to accommodate all the techniques required for the best release possible.  After the first session I am okay with winging it more and more as time goes by and we've built a rapport. Yes, it's your hour but I don't see the point in seeking a Nuru or Tantra provider if you wish to be the lead. Face up on the bed and allow me to do something entirely different. There's something for eveyone. Glad I found this, really wish I had found it a long time ago.

even if its telling her to be dominating. Some of you know I like getting slapped, spit on, talked down to, bitten.. But she is still doing it at my behest.  

Unless you work for an agency - or show up with a mystery date you will be independent.  

I always take the lead. I'm paying for her time and I am not submissive. However, I am a very likeable guy in person. The ladies seem to open up and feel comfortable with me relatively quickly, because Im, according to them, cute. I'm talkative and have an expressive personality, so they seem to be comfortable with me overall. I'm harmless LOL. I walk in, or she walks in, I have a big smile and once thru the door I say hello and give her a light hug if she does not first. If I have a room, I always have an ice cold bottled water to offer her, with the cap sealed for her to crack open herself, which I feel adds an element of trust and safety, or if she offers me something, Ill politely ask if I can break the ice. Since they always say yes, I lean in, in a non aggressive way, and kiss her with out tongue, smile and ask her very politely with a smile if she would like to sit down. I really have no issues at all. For play time, I always lead. I just direct them in what I want them to do, or how I want them, again, because its my dime and my fantasy. Since Im pretty vanilla there is never any boundaries that I cross, so no issues there. On a side note, I wont do edging anymore. I have found this practice to be painful to the women, because if I wait to long to finish and she is dry, it can become painful for her so I dont do that anymore.  

If you don’t give them a shove they’ll never jump.

When you went back and saw her.

....but some of those pix were pretty creative.

That alas was me in the beginning.  Now it's usually skydiving with someone I know pretty well and things just sort of happen, but now even if I'm the one being pushed at least I know to I grab hold tight, take you with me, and try to pick a good spot to land.  

Shan't be the classiest establishment.

Zats not always zee case zhough. If zee girl is pretty I end up losing mi self in zee gurl's mezmerizing beauty unt let hur taken sie lead.

Because I got the tongue down my throat the minute I walked in the door!

If the guy leans in for a kiss, that is signal enough to insert the tongue lol. If he scoots all the way to the corner of the couch and doesn't look at me, he needs a drink and some jokes lol.

Are adrenaline junkie's who don't need a push at all...

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When are you coming back to the gateway city so we can again?

Most likely January for that big conference.

I'm surprised a hotel would take on the added risk of accommodating a guest whom travels with a dog that is deemed an aggressive breed.

Maybe you can get an app from Apple to give you step by step instructions?  

is more than enough motivation for me to not see her

Otherwise you'll confuse the heck out of the poor woman!

See what happens when you engage in "dialogue" with Our Little Johny?"  There are so many analogies.  It's like........
debating a lunatic....
walking through quicksand....
trying to get away from Tar Baby....
In the end you've done nothing but waste oxygen and brain cells

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This is perhaps the most powerful douche in the universe.  His total douchiness is so dense that all nearby matter is sucked into it and crushed.  This includes all rational thought.

and let her do as well. Take our cues from each other, and let it flow, organically. Sometimes I'm more dominant and assertive, sometimes not - depends upon the chemistry and mood. It's all good.  

I wondered how a gentlemen that was visiting with a lady could be anything but independent.

...she is not moving I take the lead.  However, my former ATF would play a different game each time I met her.  I never knew what was waiting for me behind her door.  She was the horny GF, a stripper in the VIP room, a DOM, the submissive shy girl, the lap dancer.  She was hotter than a Saturday night special and great fun.  I loved her games.  She could take the lead anytime as she was very inventive - it was like a different girl every time.  I remember once as she lowered herself on my face she told me, "When you taste peppermint from now on you will think of me."   She was right!  I need to hunt her up and see where it leads.....

The result is always the same

See I don't mind a little chat, shaking off the cold so to speak, but I also don't like to waste too much time either.  Initial meetings, sure.  I hang back and do a little "get to know you" but chatting away any not getting indications of when the hanky panky is gonna start can be awkward.  I like a good indication that its time to get naughty before I move in.  Heck, if I knew the right way to initiate I would have had way fewer female friends during the course of my life and way more lovers (non p4p) in my life.

There are some hookers who are naturally dominant and don't play well with those aggressive, domineering "in the DNA" types who want to order her around...do this, now do that, now do the other thing, and switch, pump 20 times and switch, pump another 20 times and switch...us ladies know the type and some women love the trick choreography.  

the gateway city is St. Louis... you know the one with the Arch... home to Ted Drewes custard, Anheuser Busch, and the Cardinals.

"Real men don't treat women like pieces of meat"  Damn straight... For me this is not about dominance or submission, but about two people enjoying each other... and I seek out like minded ladies who enjoy respectful confident gentlemen like myself... and that has worked great for me so far on this playground.

The breed is only as aggressive as the owner who trained him. I use to bring my APBT with me on tour when she was a puppy, up to a year old, and yes, the hotels knew she was there, and even met her on occasion. Many hotels, from 3-star up to 5-star, allow pets...some have a $5-$10 per nite charge, others $50-$100/nite charge (refundable if no damage).  

Agreed. Everyone's different...some gents come right in with no reservations...while others cower like you are are going to bite them, lol. You just have to go with the flow, and act accordingly based on the individual gents personality.  

He's been here for a while in different forms but is still clueless.

I don't mind pets in the least, just like children(even though pets aren't children) there is an appropriate time and place for them. Which is not during the date, the date should be about the people on the date. I don't need to make myself look good, as I said I like animals, so they should be somewhere else where someone can devote the appropriate attention they need. Wants versus needs yadda yadda yadda!

Not only am I the man, but I am also the client. Taking the lead is what I do. Don't like it? They can leave and refund my money. Still waiting for that to happen. Lol

In case you missed the end of the movie, Bluto grabbed the hot chick and threw her in his car. And she LIKED it. Women want the man to lead. They NEED the man to lead.  

I've been bouncing the idea of STL around in my head for a while. Hoping I can get out there this fall or winter. It's only a 5 hour drive, and I can stop in Springfield on my way there.

Did not mean to imply that I don't take the lead... But that does not mean you run roughshod over people... I'm very independent minded, don't respond well to authority, and don't suffer fools very well... but I do believe in treating everyone with respect and dignity... how they respond is up to them.  

I have no need for the dude to lead, I prefer a more collective approach.  

As you portray here Jacko. Just a feeling I get.