Apart from the other recent post about hobbyists and the hobby, I’ve been thinking about some recent conversations  I’ve had with clients about our male-female roles within the hobby.

I very much consider myself as much a hobbyist as my guys; I’m just on the fantasy-making, giving end vs the receiving end. After all, it takes two (hobbyists) to tango. I like to think this is an ultra-feminist view of the situation. (And, thankfully, I don’t do this for the money; it’s nice but I mainly do it because it represents who I am.)
 
And like I’ve heard some men say here, it would be hard for me to return to the civvie world to date. This suits me for so many reasons, and it honestly gets sweeter and more rewarding the older I get (I’m 38).

I’m curious if any other of my female sister hobbyists (notice I didn’t say providers) feel the same way?  Also wonder how the guys react to this viewpoint?

Based on your "sister female hobbyist's" reference I'm not sure that you are aware.

Yes, I do realize that. I’m just making a semantic point to broaden the definition and concept of ‘provider,’ which of course only represents my opinion and experience.

Gotcha.
I do agree that you ladies are also "hobbyist's" to some degree, but since you are getting paid and providing a service for us the term "provider" is very fitting and appropriate IMHO.  

How about "proprietor"?

Agreed on (almost) all counts! I’ve told a few clients, I feel like I’m part of the hobby too. I wouldn’t be here doing this if I didn’t genuinely enjoy it, and when I reach that point, I’m ready to stop. But right now it’s fun and envigorating.  

Where my opinion differs is on the topic of civvie dating. I still want that “traditional happy ending” (haha, I know), to end up married and content. I won’t be able to do that with someone who doesn’t accept that this is part of my life, so while it will certainly be difficult, I don’t think it’s impossible. But that’s just in my circumstances, where I’m ready to stop if I find someone I want to be serious about.  

But to your main point: I wouldn’t say that all providers are hobbyists, because certainly some of them hate what they do, or at least don’t get true enjoyment out of it. I do think there are more than just the two of us out there, though

I've given this a lot of thought over the last 5 years that I HAVEN'T been in the civvie dating pool and have come to the conclusion that it would be highly unlikely to find that unicorn.

Given that I want something "beyond vanilla" in my sex life, as I've explored in p4p over the years, it would be quite difficult to return to civvie dating expecting to find the ONE woman I feel that connection with who is also into multi-party play, loves giving and receiving of backdoor play, would play with tgirl providers in the 3some, etc.

Don't get me wrong, I like vanilla as well -- but I want the other flavors, as well. Trying to find THAT combo in the civvie world? I get mentally tired just thinking about all the hoops through which I would have to jump.

I never stopped seeing civvie women.

 
The hobby is nice and all, but sometimes I want to chase some tail, and it's just not the same when you're paying for it.

If I was single again I'd have a foot in both worlds. Sex is still better with someone you really know, someone who actually wants to be with you.

Lady slut whore who sucks the best/worst cock. I'm always torn for words?      "Proprietor"?      Does it really matter???       Do words count?     Should I call a lady a woman     or  a         whore slut cunt whose beautiful? I need advise.