and why?
I've had ladies in the biz tell me that they prefer the stability of regular clients, that meeting someone new is a bit nerve wracking. I've also had ladies tell me that they prefer meeting someone new because it is exciting.
We have also seen both points of view where the gents are concerned expressed on the board, but in piecemeal fashion. I have heard the opinion from the gents that they get bored easily and crave variety, and that getting to know someone improves the sex. (I find the latter to be true in my experience).
And of course, there is always the "both" answer, which could of course be nuanced a bit.
I'm interested in hearing the points of view here.
From the standpoint of gents / ladies preferring to develop "relationships" -
What are the difficulties in doing so?
I've had the experience that the better I came to know a lady, and the more comfortable she became with me, the more it became like a civvy relationship, with too much entitledness and drama. Perhaps 50% of the time. Usually by the 4th/ 5th date.
But of course I've also developed a few mutually satisfying LTRs in the biz as well. For me (and perhaps this is something to do with me specifically, perhaps not), the LTRs have been the exception, not the rule.
So, anyone want to weigh in?
Its more comfortable for me.
Dear Charlie445:
Would you prefer it because you know what the client likes and it is easier for you to deliver? Also would you like them because you know the person and their behavior is predictable? Or would you like it because it takes some of the leg work out of screening?
I have always liked variety, the excitement of meeting a new lady. I have repeated with some but the majority were one-time visits. I thought it would have to take a close connection with a very special woman to ever make me become someone's "regular client." But I guess everyone sooner or later meets their match, no?
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i like having a few regulars but regulars are never really regulars unless you see them once a week ..for me i like the variety..meeting new gentlemen and having fun as i go..
i give my all if it's my regulars or someone new.
Jay
with my playtime only coming when I travel, so I do get a very nice variety, although not nearly as often as I'd like. On the other hand, I have met a few ladies that I would love to see over and over. Unfortunately, they are all in areas that require me to invent trips to see them, and that's not always possible. I read in the posts here where the guys talk about their ATF's, and truthfully, I get a little jealous. There are ladies whom I would like to be able to call my ATF's, but I'll just have to be content to see those ladies when I have the opportunities to get back and see them. In the meantime, the variety is wonderful. We've got some great ladies here on TER.
I absolutely adore my regular clients and always look forward to our next visit together. Everytime we see one another, we're like long lost lovers...knowing exactly what the other needs and desires.
On the other hand, I get so excited with anticipation and unexpectancy when I meet a gentleman for the first time. I've always thrived in seducing total strangers!
So, I try to balance it out by seeing my regulars and mixing in a few new ones when my schedule permits.
I guess I enjoy both, I rarely see any well reviewed provider only once! My atf recently retired and has somewhat left me in the lurch, but for the most part I usually see a lady more than once, because I think the comfort level increases with increased knowledge, and the GREATER the mutual comfort level the GREATER the session.
I like the fact that, I have ladies that I can call TONIGHT, because they know me, and they will be happy to come over tonight!
I still am always shopping for the next lovely lady, that will teach me the true meaning of PASSION!!!
Jim
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I find the more you see someone the better you know how to please each other. I treat each meeting special and would never want to add any negative energy to our time. Most men have enough drama in their own lives. I have many special relationships and enjoy each in their own flavor. No two are the same.
Yes, I like the excitement and danger of meeting someone new but one never knows if the chemistry will be right. I always wonder if he will like me, will I be exciting to him and will he want to see me again. I must admit, I do put a lot of myself in each and every new person I meet. I know many hobbiests like variety and seldom see the same lady. In the beginning I thought I lacked something in our time together but now I do understand.
Kisses Haley
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I definately prefer ladies I've seen before... savoring my ATF & Favs. Some good experiences have evolved into truely spectacular sessions now the we are comfortable with each other. I'll try a new girl on occasion but it's rare.
skb
If I could see one of my three all time favorite ladies who I saw regularly, I would be full of anticipation. It would be like returning to my medical school and visiting with my favorite professors or tasting a favorite dish from my time living in Southern France and loving the regional cuisine. (I have five ATFs, but only saw three repeatedly. Each became a wonderful friend and exciting lover, each has moved on.) By the same token, there is a lady in Florida I am very anxious to see. I have followed her posts and reviews and exchanged notes. If I were going to see her in the near future I would have that special thrill in my stomach. If things went as well as I would hope, I would repeat again and again, but as we became regular, the kind of special pleasure I would have in seeing her would change from the thrill of the new and wonderful to the thrill of the cozy and affectionate and wonderful.
For me, it is pretty complicated because I tend to only hobby once every couple of months (except when travelling on business which might cause me to hobby more frequently; I used to only hobby when out of town but have now become comfortable hobbying locally).
Although I occassionally enjoy the variety of meeting a new lady, I tend to prefer a relationship with an ATF who I see more frequently (still not frequent enough in my book). Here is my take on things:
At the risk of someone laughing at me, to me there is so much more than sex to the hobby and it is a combination of things that attracts me to this avocation. I love the tenderness and caring that can only come from being with a lady that you have gotten to know through repeated and extended visits and who you genuinely care about (and hopefully genuinely cares about you). I tend to be a bit of a romantic even with regard to the hobby (candles, flowers, soft music, lots of cuddling and kissing and caressing and touching both as a prelude to the main event and during the afterglow that follows). I find that it takes time to really get to know a lady well enough to enjoy the romantic side of a relationship. I'm not just looking for "a good time" (although that is an important part as well and I doubt I would do this without the physical pleasure that it brings). I prefer making real connections and that can only come through repeat experiences. I also enjoy getting to know the lady: what she likes and dislikes, her hobbies and passions in life, her background, her dreams and aspirations, etc. and just talking with her and sharing her companionship. And even with respect to the physical element involved, I prefer to make love to a woman that I have gotten to know so that she has had time to learn what turns me on physically and I have gotten to know how to touch her in order to provide maximum pleasure to her as well. Making love to a lady that I have gotten to know and care for is so much more satisfying than a quick f*ck with someone I have no intention of seeing again. I have had favorites that I only saw a few times (they left the hobby or moved or something else) and then there have been favorites that I have enjoyed their company outside of the hobby (and even a favorite who has long since left the profession but who I still correspond with and talk on the phone to periodically (the physical distance makes it impossible to see her as she moved back to Russia several years ago)). And then there is a current favorite who I would love to correspond with and talk to on the phone between dates (and perhaps even see socially on occassion as well) but I haven't worked up the courage to attempt to do so.
One point to add, although I love spending time with an ATF and really getting to know and care for her, I'm not looking to cross any boundaries, fall in love, etc. I understand the differences between the hobby and real life and in real life I have a wife who I love very, very much and I am not looking to leave her for someone else. (As to why I hobby if I have a wife that I love, that is for another topic at another time and is an even more complex and difficult question.)
Having said all that, sometimes I get the itch to try someone new who is different from my favorite (perhaps a different hair color, body type, ethnicity, age, etc.) just to enjoy the variety that life has to offer. Or I get the itch to hobby while away from home on business and have no choice but to contact someone new. Sometimes a new experience works great (hey, you have to have a first time together in order to be a repeat client) and sometimes the sex is great but the experience overall isn't because there is no deeper connection (and sometimes neither the sex nor the experience is worthwhile). I must admit that when I see someone new at the same time that I have an ATF, I do feel guilty for doing so (like I am cheating on my ATF).
There you have it. Great question, not a simple answer.
My views and feelings are much like yours in many ways. To me, the great thing about the hobby, is that it is like those early courtships, where there was mutual interest, romance, passion, exploration, before the relationship developed to the point of expectation, drama, being taken for granted. The hobby allows you to enjoy the courtship experience over and over again, if you manage it correctly....
Very well put (and in far fewer words). 
At the moment, I am only seeing one provider, who is my ATF. I usually see her twice a month.
Some of this has to do with what's happened in
the city I live in concerning LE. Until I met her I was a "one and done" client. I liked the variety, now I've changed and prefer this regular relationship. But who knows, things could change and I could go back to my old ways.
within the sport? What do you look for in a date? What attracts you to want to spend more time together? What do you hope for in a regular relationship? What are the delights, and the pitfalls? Do you find it to be easy or difficult to develop a regular relationship? I'm not talking about crossing any lines here.
I really enjoy everything about human relationships and if there's no actual depth then I'm not much interested. Doesn't mean there has to be anything serious, jsut some honesty and willingness to actually engage the other person for a while.
The whole situation is more comfortable!
However, there is something to be said for the excitement of meeting a total stranger and fulfilling their every need!
i put a tremendous amount of time and effort into truly getting to know any potential clients so i can see what they're really looking for, if there's any chemistry and common interests, and see if i would truly be the ideal girl for them. this makes me very, very selective, and very low volume. establishing long term relationships with the right people is what it's all about for me...i seek out men who have a need, a void of some sort in their lives that i can fulfill. nearly all of my regulars see no other providers, and for me that is the ideal client...the gentleman who is looking for a little something that he is not getting with his wife/gf/civie dating, who seeks a true connection, and finds it with me, and therefore has no desire or inclination to seek out any other provider.
i try very hard to avoid those men who basically want a "wham bam thank you ma'am" sort of arrangement, or just want to sample every flavor of the rainbow, making me nothing more than another checkmark on their list. i realize that my particular approach to this hobby is very unique, but it is the only way i could ever do this comfortably.
I have been limiting my fun to encounters with gentlemen that I have previously met for the past couple years now. I have also observed many providers start leaning towards "no new friends".... but - just speaking for myself.....
I no longer meet with new friends because I have a limited amount of time to entertain when I return to the States and it wouldn't be fair to my established clients to book my available time with men I have never seen before. By limiting my appointments to former friends and lovers, I have more availability to the gentlemen who have supported me in the past.
-As you have mentioned it is also less stress, I know what to expect from the client and I have to invest less time because there is no screening- (*I have already done all of that prior to our last meeting*) -I also think it is much easier to seduce a friend than it is to seduce a stranger.
These are just my thoughts, I can't speak for any other provider besides myself. kisses ~T
LOVE regulars ... it does improve experience for both parties. As long as both parties are clear on their expectations and responsibilities.
I'd have to say I like both ends. I like my regular clients because I know them on a personal level, know what they like/don't like, and what their looking for. On the other hand I'm an outgoing person, so I love to meet new people/clients, learn about them, learn their ways....etc
New clients are always exciting to me, that first session of teasing and pleasing is the best, that way you see what they like 
I see for repeat dates. About a third of my dates are new ladies who I have wanted to see but couldn't work out the schedule. There are some ladies you click with and others where the chemistry just doesn't exist.